Dev was kept in the dark, not Sona. - Page 4

Bijoy's insecurity abt Soha is understandable. Unlike Dev who couldnt take a stand against his mother Sona can take a stand against her parents for a good reason. Sona only agreed abt elina not finding out abt Soha because she felt that Soha is not ready to meet her dad. After yesterday's episode & the near accident Soha experienced I would say Sona was right.

No relationship breaks because of one person...only exception will be when one is a hardcore criminal...in this case they are normal individuals who fell in love ...even now they love each other ...but love alone doesn't help for a marriage to be successful. And when it comes to living your life with a life partner...you need to detach a lil from your core family as you are starting a family of your own...which both Dev and Sonakshi failed miserably...If you think Dev has gone thru a lot then even Sonakshi has gone thru a lot...pain of separation doesn't happen to one...it happens to both and its so very evident...

Dev and Sonakshi didn't prioritise their relationship...they wanted their set of family members to be happy...this is a great lesson for all the youngsters in this forum...

When you choose love marriage...don't expect your family to accept your spouse day 1...and your spouse needs should be fulfilled by you and not by your family ...to do that you don't need your families acceptance or approval...because when you fell in love you didn't get their approval rt ...so why do you need it after marriage...

This is something that Dev and Sonakshi never understood...always remember ...this relationship of husband /wife...boyfriend/girlfriend requires to be nurtured with love, time , trust, honesty , respect , responsibility etc...which didn't happen...

So blaming one of them wouldn't do justice...I am sure in the 7 years , they would have learnt something atleast...they would have known where they failed...hope they are ready to change their ways

Glad I have some supporters, for the rest - why watch a show when you hate the male lead character so passionately. Really amazes me!

Can't wait the day Devakshi get together to all your dismay- Cos that day all this analogy about what a pathetic person Dev is will go in the bin and these Same people will be like 'oh Dev is so amazing'

It's called being a hypocrite- a little like what Sona is because on one hand she tells Soha oh ur 'allowed' to meet your father but has shown no efforts because a 6 year old who has never met this person is supposed to make such a big decision.

She is also a hypocrite cos she listens to everything her dad says but Dev listening to his mum(who I agree isn't right) he becomes spineless. We should be proud of our culture because when I hear how kids where I live are charged rent by their parents or the way their parents treat them like 'outsiders' once they are adults, it makes me proud that we have our Indian roots where we will look after our parents till their last breath and not dump them in some nursing home etc.

Your parents make your decisions when you are growing up but once u have a partner, it doesn't mean they should be sidelined.

Anyway I am not sure why I am wasting my time here.

Originally posted by: KK84

Glad I have some supporters, for the rest - why watch a show when you hate the male lead character so passionately. Really amazes me!

Can't wait the day Devakshi get together to all your dismay- Cos that day all this analogy about what a pathetic person Dev is will go in the bin and these Same people will be like 'oh Dev is so amazing'

It's called being a hypocrite- a little like what Sona is because on one hand she tells Soha oh ur 'allowed' to meet your father but has shown no efforts because a 6 year old who has never met this person is supposed to make such a big decision.

She is also a hypocrite cos she listens to everything her dad says but Dev listening to his mum(who I agree isn't right) he becomes spineless. We should be proud of our culture because when I hear how kids where I live are charged rent by their parents or the way their parents treat them like 'outsiders' once they are adults, it makes me proud that we have our Indian roots where we will look after our parents till their last breath and not dump them in some nursing home etc.

Your parents make your decisions when you are growing up but once u have a partner, it doesn't mean they should be sidelined.

Anyway I am not sure why I am wasting my time here.

No one hates Dev or Sonakshi...ppl who gets angry at the Dev change their sides when they see a third angle for Sona...this forum love Dev and Sona...they yearn eagerly to see these two together...and regarding character analysis...its more of fun to analyse and understand different perspectives from different ppl for the same situations. Just because ppl have diff perspectives from us doesn't mean that they are wrong ...its just that they have a diff way or approach in life...

Regarding culture...for every one their culture is precious and easy to follow as that is who we are at the core...yes , I might find it difficult to understand why I need to call my parents before I barge into their home with my family ...but there are ppl in the west who thinks that is required...they will find it diff to understand how we could just walk into parents house with out informing ...that is the cultural difference...in both cases no one is wrong .

Just because parents take money as rent from kids or kids because of their jobs /responsibilities cant take care of their parents...so finds a nursing home to see to that their parents are safe and healthy ...doesn't mean that they don't care for each other...its just that ...that is their way of approach to life...yes its different from ours but that doesn't mean that they are wrong and they lack affection...or treat each other as outsiders...
One thing is for sure ...where ever we live...which ever culture we follow...affection will always be there betwn parents and kids...its not right to judge other peoples emotions and their affection for the family from outside based on their culture...towards the end of the day they are as human as we are!!

Just my POV

Originally posted by: vandyt1602

Loved ur post👏

Dev and Sonakshi are two different individuals now and they are behaving as per their individual personalities.Blaming one for the others mistake is not correct.Sonakshi had a support system in the form of her family members.What about Dev???

Let us not forget that he lost his whole world (Sonakshi).Sona has moved on as she had someone to look for(soha).Dev became a drunkard and a womanizer. He kept on running away from himself just to keep away from haunted memories of his past. He even forgot his God-like mother.

Why do we call him a monster????

Just because he did not know about the pre-nup, just because he hid the infertility issue from Sonakshi , just because he mistakenly slapped his FIL, just because he let others insult his wife and many more...

Well , Dev is a human being and his own set of flaws.But calling him a monster is seriously not done...

The funniest part is in all of this, 7 years later he has shown he still loves Sona but Sona has shown nothing but hatred but this won't be seen as stone hearted but rather oh she is a strong woman cos Dev 'tortured' her so much.

NO! She wasn't tortured. He did his best. If he was such a selfish self absorbed man he wouldn't have married her inspite of knowing she couldn't be a mother.

They split up due to his mother and yes he has faltered there but she knew this is his nature from the beginning, he is weak because that's how his mum has made him...but could she tolerate when her family were mistreated? No she couldn't so I still don't think her blindly believing Vicky can be justified.

He didn't intentionally sign the pre nup and that's a fact and yes, I do wish post the leap Dev had gone completely distant with ishwari even now but you know in reality no matter what, you will always care for your parents. Just how parents always forgive their kids, kids do always forgive their parents and trust me I am talking from experience.

Originally posted by: kar08

Yes this question needed to be asked. For all the people blaming Sonakshi for walking out 'without a thought', put yourself in her position and think what you would have done.

If you were subjected to constant taunts by your husband's family

If you received no or minimal support from your husband

If you were made to feel like an outsider always

If you were made to feel inferior about your inability to conceive

If you were made to agree to painful fertility treatment under immense pressure from your husband and MIL

If you were asked to Get out of the house by your husband and his family

If you and your family were made homeless and found yourselves on the street due to the actions of your husband/husband's family

If after all this horrifying treatment, would you still go back and keep on giving chances to such a man and such a family ? Because its the 'right' thing to do and society expects it?

Would you swallow what little pride you have left and go back to suffering taunts and antagonistic attitude from family members ---all for the "love" of a good looking man?

Many women esp in our culture face mother in law taunts day in day out and I am one of them. No she isn't abusing me but I get it they become possessive of their sons and grandkids - yes I have had arguments with my husband due to this but would I walk out on him? NO!

Every relationship due to whatever reason, in laws, once u have kids, work, no time...whatever the reason is go through a rough patch but you come out of it together and stronger. That's what a marriage is.

What upsets me in this forum is the attacks on Dev are so much that it makes me wonder why people are watching the show when they hate the male lead so much that when they leads get together, which they will then poor Sona will be bashed for it.

Like it or not, Dev is the protagonist of the show. He is here to stay and in the end, they will end up together and it should be like that.

We watch tv to get always from the BS of our real life. We love to watch a fairy tale romance because it takes us to a place that makes us happy so please stop ruining this. It will be a sad state for the show and their viewers if they never end up together.

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

No one hates Dev or Sonakshi...ppl who gets angry at the Dev change their sides when they see a third angle for Sona...this forum love Dev and Sona...they yearn eagerly to see these two together...and regarding character analysis...its more of fun to analyse and understand different perspectives from different ppl for the same situations. Just because ppl have diff perspectives from us doesn't mean that they are wrong ...its just that they have a diff way or approach in life...

Regarding culture...for every one their culture is precious and easy to follow as that is who we are at the core...yes , I might find it difficult to understand why I need to call my parents before I barge into their home with my family ...but there are ppl in the west who thinks that is required...they will find it diff to understand how we could just walk into parents house with out informing ...that is the cultural difference...in both cases no one is wrong .

Just because parents take money as rent from kids or kids because of their jobs /responsibilities cant take care of their parents...so finds a nursing home to see to that their parents are safe and healthy ...doesn't mean that they don't care for each other...its just that ...that is their way of approach to life...yes its different from ours but that doesn't mean that they are wrong and they lack affection...or treat each other as outsiders...
One thing is for sure ...where ever we live...which ever culture we follow...affection will always be there betwn parents and kids...its not right to judge other peoples emotions and their affection for the family from outside based on their culture...towards the end of the day they are as human as we are!!

Just my POV

Yes you have a point here but honestly in the west you can tell the equation between parents and kids...I agree I shouldn't generalise. That is wrong of me. It does baffle me tho when kids turn round and tell their parents to F off or these young kids call their mums a B**tch and yes I am no angle either. I live in a western county and do expect that when my in laws come home they let me know before coming!! Hehe!!

No relationship breaks because of one person...only exception will be when one is a hardcore criminal...in this case they are normal individuals who fell in love ...even now they love each other ...but love alone doesn't help for a marriage to be successful. And when it comes to living your life with a life partner...you need to detach a lil from your core family as you are starting a family of your own...which both Dev and Sonakshi failed miserably...If you think Dev has gone thru a lot then even Sonakshi has gone thru a lot...pain of separation doesn't happen to one...it happens to both and its so very evident...

Dev and Sonakshi didn't prioritise their relationship...they wanted their set of family members to be happy...this is a great lesson for all the youngsters in this forum...

When you choose love marriage...don't expect your family to accept your spouse day 1...and your spouse needs should be fulfilled by you and not by your family ...to do that you don't need your families acceptance or approval...because when you fell in love you didn't get their approval rt ...so why do you need it after marriage...

This is something that Dev and Sonakshi never understood...always remember ...this relationship of husband /wife...boyfriend/girlfriend requires to be nurtured with love, time , trust, honesty , respect , responsibility etc...which didn't happen...

So blaming one of them wouldn't do justice...I am sure in the 7 years , they would have learnt something atleast...they would have known where they failed...hope they are ready to change their ways

@ bold , I have a different opinion. Sometimes relationship fail with the mistake of one person .
I know few people who adjusted for years thinking that with time everything will be alright but after the limit they decide to walk out.
One of my friend was married to a man who even after 2 years of marriage consider wife as an object to give birth to his child only so that he can make his mother happy , and he never ever showed affection to her , with her he was so mechanical . His life was his mother and sister ,even his own father doesn't have role in their family . He married my friend thinking that he can use her money . She tried to save the relationship by patiently dealing with him . she didn''t visit her home for two years as her husband and in laws didn't give her permission to go there. He was not drunkard , not drug addict , not a criminal , but she walk out after 2 years as the marriage was loveless , even the sexual relationship was not mutual it was forced as he never communicated to her like a husband used to do . When they travel in bus , he refuse to share the seat with her , in family photos he opted a place away from , she was not allowed to touch the utensils in their kitchen , was asked to use a separate plate .these are only few instances . But as per law are they hardcore criminals ? Even in the opinion of neighbors and distant relatives he is a perfect guy , but can you live with this guy ?Can we tell that the relationship didn't work cause of my friend.

I don't know if Sona is right I Dev is wrong or vice-a-versa. But one thing is clear that too much interference of their parents in their personal life spoiled everything. I am not including Asha in it because she was always sensible.

Originally posted by: Krpkab_superfan

Thanks for making this post.. I am totally of the opinion that Dev and Sona both have their faults.. but there are a lot of posts of the forum that put Sona and family on a pedestal.

Agreed Sona went to Dev's house and was turned away. What stopped her from trying again. What stopped Bijoy and Asha from calling Dev, meeting him and at least telling him that he has a daughter but he can only meet her in Kolkotta in their house. Dev would have readily agreed to anything. Sona even had the prenup to give her some amount of defence had Dev tried to play dirty.

After 7 years when Sona comes back to Delhi, she should have at least informed Dev before he finds out himself. I am actually surprised that Dev did not show anger as the first reaction.

All those people who felt Sona was correct in telling Soha about her father and allowing her to make a decision had a major issue yesterday when Dev spoke to Soha. I thought Dev was quite sensitive. If he had gone to Sona first, Bijoy would have taken Soha and flown to Kolkotta in the first flight!

I think both Dev and Sona are equally responsible for the separation, but from a child POV, I think it was unfair to keep her away from her father...

@Bold, as someone (well one of 3 siblings) who has gone through this - my grandparents sent my mother back - I can tell you, it kills the children. Our dad is the best we could have had but I would rather have grown up with parents who absolutely love each other first than make every meal feel like a regimented exercise. We would have been happier to have lived with mum and her parents then be torn between 2 adults and their families who love us but hate each other.