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Posted: 8 years ago
#11
I totally agree with you.Dev loves Sonakshi & his mom selflessly.But Sonakshi didn't believe him & left him.And his mom ruined the life of this generous man who always considered his loved one's happiness before his own happiness!
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Plus if this situation was real I am glad Soha grew up without her dadi's backward ways where daughters came after sons. In real life situations such as these dadi's often make sure the kid dislikes their own mother and treats them like a maid (has happened, not fiction)
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

All the wrong reasons you mentioned there for him to be termed as Monster. Below are the reasons -

1. For breaking up with Sonakshi without batting an eyelash when his mother lied to him about accepting Sonakshi. Non-Monster way would be to discuss and breakup amicably instead of breaking up so ruthlessly.


2. Stalking her - a criminal offence. Monster check.


3. Not doing anything and turning a blind eye on Sonakshi's insults from his own family members. This is not so monstrous though.


4. Leaving her at midnight in a restro and celebrating cutting birthday cake with family - breaking promise and endangering a girl's safety. Monster check.


5. Hurting wife's sentiment by calling her mother as Aunty.


6. Lying about Pregnancy. Monster check.


7. Hiding about infertility.


8. Forcing her to sign infertility for his Momma. Oh before that, thinking to fraudulently start treatment on her body. Monster check in BOLD.


9. Slapping (accidentally ?) his FIL. Monster check. Not working on apology on his own until Sona was not coming back.


10. Saying Getout to Sonakshi. Monster check.


11. Calling her out on motherhood, gold-digger and mocking her profession. Monster check.



Against all these monstrous act, when I put a drunkard bevda's words like 'I chose you between you and maa', it is as shallow a pile of puddle to me. The same drunkard insulted sona on Point# 11. Which one is true ?

Here are some more -

Not able to tolerate a jhula in the room after giving permision to grow trees in the room then forcing the the doctor to perform illegal treatment (painful) on his wife's body without her consent -check

Slapping FiL, pushing petit wife twice then blaming her when she fell on your mumma -check

Refusing to eat the first rasoi of your wife when she tried hard to cook (which is not her forte)- check

Sleeping on the couch in living room making sure that the new wife is ridiculed just because she did not serve you dinner when you arrived home late after a fight.
-check



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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: blabbermouth

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Well Sona couldn't be kept in dark, I don't think any mother can be kept in dark due to physical reasons.

Upcoming episode, probably tonight will show a FB where Sona DID take Soha to Dixits house but was not allowed to enter the house. Think of all the stress Sona would have had and she still tried.

When you are alone and vulnerable during pregnancy.
When your husband asked you to leave the house over his push (cause of which Ish fell but didn't even clarify for Dev that Sona didn't push her)
When you find out he signed a pre-nup
When he gives money to family but your father gets insulted and called gold diggers.
When your father gets slapped by your husband, just imagine for a second how you will feel if you witnessed this.
When you try returning money but your family gets evicted in middle of night from house cause of money your husband forcefully gave to your bro.
When you have pressure of having to raise a baby, loosing husband and having to repay a big loan and needing to buy back father's property.

Despite all this when you try to take your baby to the father and get told at gate to leave, I can't imagine how much emotional strength is required.

Yes they are somewhat victims of their circumstances and Dev did miss out on Soha's childhood. But I don't blame Sona at all. She didn't even ask money from the father for her child when she was broke and built her own empire, that even Ishwari was shocked to find out she could afford Dev's office.


BANG ON POST!!!'' THIS IS WHAT ALL OF US FEEL TOO...U CAN LOVE DEV OR SHAHEER BUT TO DEFEND HIM TO THIS EXTENT IS JUST NOT CONVINCING AT ALL...I STILL MAINTAIN THIS THAT DEV WOULD BE PERFECT DAD N HE IS GENUINE TOWARDS SOHA...BT IMAGINE WHAT SONA WENT THROUGH ALL ALONE...HE CHOOSED HIS MOM OVER SONA IN E END IF HE TRULY LOVED HER HE WOULD HAVE FOUGHT TO SAVE THIS MARRIAGE HE WOULD HAVE PROVED HIS INNOCENSE..BT HE CHOOSED TO GET ANGRY ON SONA FOR NOT TRUSTING!!!I MEAN WHO IN E RIGHT STATE OF MIND WOULD EVEN SAY THAT!?SHE WAS CHASED OUT OF HER HOUSE HER HUBBY TOLD HER TO GET OUT N HE INSULTED HER N STILL CONTINUES TO HURT HER...IM NT ANYONE'S TEAM..IM WATCHN A SHOW N FROM WHAT I HAVE SEEN DEV IS BEING PORTRAYED AS A SPINELESS MAN FOR SURE!!!HE NEEDS TO BE MAN ENOUGH TO STAY BY THE MOTHER OF HIS CHILD...ELSE NO WOMEN DESERVES THIS KINDA MAN!PERIOD!
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Loved ur post👏
Dev and Sonakshi are two different individuals now and they are behaving as per their individual personalities.Blaming one for the others mistake is not correct.Sonakshi had a support system in the form of her family members.What about Dev???
Let us not forget that he lost his whole world (Sonakshi).Sona has moved on as she had someone to look for(soha).Dev became a drunkard and a womanizer. He kept on running away from himself just to keep away from haunted memories of his past. He even forgot his God-like mother.

Why do we call him a monster????
Just because he did not know about the pre-nup, just because he hid the infertility issue from Sonakshi , just because he mistakenly slapped his FIL, just because he let others insult his wife and many more...

Well , Dev is a human being and his own set of flaws.But calling him a monster is seriously not done...

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

All the wrong reasons you mentioned there for him to be termed as Monster. Below are the reasons -

1. For breaking up with Sonakshi without batting an eyelash when his mother lied to him about accepting Sonakshi. Non-Monster way would be to discuss and breakup amicably instead of breaking up so ruthlessly.


2. Stalking her - a criminal offence. Monster check.


3. Not doing anything and turning a blind eye on Sonakshi's insults from his own family members. This is not so monstrous though.


4. Leaving her at midnight in a restro and celebrating cutting birthday cake with family - breaking promise and endangering a girl's safety. Monster check.


5. Hurting wife's sentiment by calling her mother as Aunty.


6. Lying about Pregnancy. Monster check.


7. Hiding about infertility.


8. Forcing her to sign infertility for his Momma. Oh before that, thinking to fraudulently start treatment on her body. Monster check in BOLD.


9. Slapping (accidentally ?) his FIL. Monster check. Not working on apology on his own until Sona was not coming back.


10. Saying Getout to Sonakshi. Monster check.


11. Calling her out on motherhood, gold-digger and mocking her profession. Monster check.



Against all these monstrous act, when I put a drunkard bevda's words like 'I chose you between you and maa', it is as shallow a pile of puddle to me. The same drunkard insulted sona on Point# 11. Which one is true ?

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Honestly Dev was always spinesless from day one when it comes to family as Sona Says ,particularly when it comes to his mom... and the here thing is Sona know this from start ...it's not that he claimed to have a spine earlier or promised to grew it eventually for her... when you already know other persons weakness( here can't take any stand against his mom though he knows she is wrong) and you still commit to that person , you are gonna accept and deal with it tactically...but given the circumstances and being straight person Sona couldn't take more ( can't blame her either )
we can't deny that rather than Dev himself it's Ishwaris. PRenup and Vicky s eviction drama played major role in devkashi separation..

But from Devs point of view he didn't do these two things .. if Sona gets cleared about who did these , she will also feel guilty for hiding suha from Dev...

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: vandyt1602

Loved ur post👏

Dev and Sonakshi are two different individuals now and they are behaving as per their individual personalities.Blaming one for the others mistake is not correct.Sonakshi had a support system in the form of her family members.What about Dev???
Let us not forget that he lost his whole world (Sonakshi).Sona has moved on as she had someone to look for(soha).Dev became a drunkard and a womanizer. He kept on running away from himself just to keep away from haunted memories of his past. He even forgot his God-like mother.

Why do we call him a monster????
Just because he did not know about the pre-nup, just because he hid the infertility issue from Sonakshi , just because he mistakenly slapped his FIL, just because he let others insult his wife and many more...

Well , Dev is a human being and his own set of flaws.But calling him a monster is seriously not done...


@bold in blue: The fact that he made Sonakshi is whole world shows up Dev's immaturity. No matter how deep and affectionate one's relationships may be it is not permanent. People get sick, people die, move, grow apart etc. and leave. It is a mark of a very silly person if they are unable to deal with loss to such an extent that they turn alcoholics, drug addicts or womanisers. You cannot spend your whole life blaming others for choices you make (however inadvertently).

@bold in red:

  1. Lying about your wife's infertility and hiding her personal medical files is criminal, a breach of confidence and a betrayal of trust - grounds for divorce
  2. Slapping your in-laws (accidentally or not) and barely feeling sorry for it but throwing your wife out for accidentally pushing your mother - makes one a hypocrite
  3. Not standing up for your wife - a poor husband that does make
These are very big flaws and his lack of remorse and introspection at the very least makes him a callous human being.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: blabbermouth


Simple question is this. If what had happened to Sona happened to you. Dev stops at no lengths to interfere and supposedly destroy people's lives by manipulating their jobs etc. And you are not allowed to enter a house despite having a baby with you. How many times will you try to contact this man. I would have given up same time as Sona did. Ek baar try kiya, nahi hua toh ab main kuch nahi kar sakti. Also given the Dixit clan I would want my daughter to be away from such cartoons.

Also asking Dev to come to Kol may not have worked. Firstly cause for a while these guys were broke and did not have financial power the Dixits may have used to take away Soha. And secondly why should Bijoy ask the guy who ditched his daughter and slapped him to come meet the most precious thing in his life. And Asha the most sensible person in the whole families and the biggest peace keeper herself gave up after her husband got accused and slapped.

Dev ke rights hai but aadmi kitni koshish kare to reconcile with a jerk like him. Who would have guessed he would have a positive response and care for Soha when in the past he promised to do the same with Sona and failed cause of Dixits.


Yes this question needed to be asked. For all the people blaming Sonakshi for walking out 'without a thought', put yourself in her position and think what you would have done.

If you were subjected to constant taunts by your husband's family
If you received no or minimal support from your husband
If you were made to feel like an outsider always
If you were made to feel inferior about your inability to conceive
If you were made to agree to painful fertility treatment under immense pressure from your husband and MIL
If you were asked to Get out of the house by your husband and his family
If you and your family were made homeless and found yourselves on the street due to the actions of your husband/husband's family

If after all this horrifying treatment, would you still go back and keep on giving chances to such a man and such a family ? Because its the 'right' thing to do and society expects it?

Would you swallow what little pride you have left and go back to suffering taunts and antagonistic attitude from family members ---all for the "love" of a good looking man?


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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: vandyt1602

Loved ur post👏

Dev and Sonakshi are two different individuals now and they are behaving as per their individual personalities.Blaming one for the others mistake is not correct.Sonakshi had a support system in the form of her family members.What about Dev???
Let us not forget that he lost his whole world (Sonakshi).Sona has moved on as she had someone to look for(soha).Dev became a drunkard and a womanizer. He kept on running away from himself just to keep away from haunted memories of his past. He even forgot his God-like mother.

Why do we call him a monster????
Just because he did not know about the pre-nup, just because he hid the infertility issue from Sonakshi , just because he mistakenly slapped his FIL, just because he let others insult his wife and many more...

Well , Dev is a human being and his own set of flaws.But calling him a monster is seriously not done...


Dev lost his whole world... yes this where Sona didn't understood Dev... Dev loves only two people immensely in this world one is ishwari ( whom he loves as of duty and gratitude) and Sona who is his only happiness, his support system , he is way too dependent on her than she ever thought.. that's why all this anger in Dev that she left him( irrespective of rights,wrongs list ) . if we look at the lives of these too Dev is so deprived of that unconditional love...which if he accepts will throw him into self sympathetic...so he takes this harsh , doesn't care , don't need , brat image...and when he learnt about Suha he was so ecstatic that he still got a chance to cherish that pure love..just shows how deprived he is for that true love...

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