*Season 2, Week 6* Analysis Thread - Page 12

Payal, beautifully explained 👏
Completely agree with you. It was not pride n ego or her thirst to prove something but her innermost fear that she will lose Dev, which came true with their first break up. Sona was putting herself in place of Neha,never understanding what Neha wanted or where the problem lies. She didn't listen to both Ishwari and Dev because they were the ones who made her fears come true. That was Sona's biggest problem there. She didn't take Dev's help in understanding the character and personal dynamics in there and went with her perception. But it was not selfish and Dev understood that. In both their cases their intention was always misunderstood by everyone else except them. With time they would have been each others strength and support which was what they were deprived of.

At laast...after watching the episode, save me from telling how many times(and which part of it...you all know!😳) , I was trying to pen down my feelings but nothing was flowing out of my mind. It just got blocked over a new born father's expressions and happiness (@deepsel thank you for the phrase 'birth of a father' in your separate post )

I jus cnt imagine im Still having the NASHA of watching the episode again n again...!!After a decade im in luv n deeply touched by the show where all characters be it flawed black n grey have made me go insane for them!!

@shavi, Jiyaa,Payalji(my personal favourite),rekha,GMGI...excellent views...@shavi you have understood Sonakshi more than Bijoy Bose...yesterday after the epi, I kept myself away from all forums as I don't want the negativity (if any) in any of the post to affect me...because I was relishing the eternal bliss along with Dev and I was quite sure if someone bashes Dev I would retort and later repent...for me highlight of yesterday's episode was generosity of Dev...he wanted to be a father which he had forsaken for being with Sona...now he is overwhelmed not for himself but for Sona that she has become a mother which has completed her (as he knows her yearning to become a mother)...Dev dixit is selfish and selfless for those who are his lifelines...he wanted a baby but if it is at the expense of losing Sona, he was ready to abandon his happiness (an act of selflessness)...however if begetting a grandchild satisfies his mom, he was ready to do that (an act of selfishness but not for himself but for those whom he loves most)...yes he was fickle minded as he couldn't set his priorities and say NO when it was required but many a times we are blinded by our true, selfless love to parents or offspring...Dev loves sonakshi so much so that when he saw Sonakshi-soha pic on the wall though he was absent in that pic it didn't affect him at all, he was happy for them...I wish if sonakshi has seen that overflowing love he has for her...But I would like to believe that Sonakshi too has steadfast love for Dev... the only constraint which she feels, is his inability to perceive things as well as understand ulterior motives of others...she has freed herself forcibly from the negativity in the Dixit household, which she doesn't want soha to undergo...I am longing for a day when the walls will be decorated with a JUST PERFECT family pic of Devakshi with Soha...Soha the little girl is very spontaneous in her scenes with Dev...I loved her expression when she clasped her mouth with her hands as well as the most prettiest smile she gave to Dev...the way Dev enchanted Sona, he has casted the same spell on his daughter..both of them are mesmerized by his charm... kisika burin nazar nahin padein that's all I can wish...in the Boss household only Asha is little apprehensive about not disclosing Soha to Dev...Sona is ready to disclose Soha but her problem is Dixit family...but she is unable to acknowledge or accept that fear...her inclusive nature stops her to tell Bijoy that Dev has the right to be with her daughter but not the Dixits...this is a very difficult proposition and I am sure only those who have experienced it, will be able to feel it...

Did anyone notice that? In yesterday's epi, Ronita said she liked Sourabh because he is a self-made man? Is he? If she comes to know he is not what will be her reaction and will it have adverse repercussions on Sona-soha? May be I am thinking too much, it must have been an innocent statement...

After watching yesterday's epi, dev's dialogues reverberated in my ears (when he said if she wears lehenga he will give the same expressions)...expressions of Dev when he realized about Soha's truth was ditto of what I have imagined...I know that Shaheer will slay in that scene and he did what we all expected from him...kudos to the actor...to the cvs...to the supporting cast...it was an emotionally drenching paisa wassol epi...

I am eager now to listen from DQ and Sam...waiting...

Just want to say Shaheer is the best. There are other good actors in Teleworld but when they perform they appear like themselves playing the role to perfection.

@Shaavi, Payal, and Geena: Great discussions about the motivations for Sona's choices during marriage. I agree with all of you, because I think Sona was operating in complex ways, and had multivalent reasons for all her actions.

Where the perfect bahu pageant was concerned, it was definitely a reaction to Ishwari's insistence that she couldn't be a traditionally good bahu, and motivated primarily by her pride. She wanted to prove that she could excel at this too, at the same time focused on how important Ishwari's approval was for her relationship with Dev. That whole phase, I think she was quite self-absorbed, but she had a moment of realisation after the double dinner, when Dev said he couldn't communicate his relationship with Ishwari so easily, and went back to being herself with Dev.

This was apparent when she planned the resort night for both of them, and they proceeded to plan their honeymoon. She decided to stop making the situation ideal with the family before she allowed herself to enjoy her love. Just when Sona was beginning to shift her main focus to Dev (what he also wanted), Ishwari sabotaged them with her concerns about Neha. This time, it was Dev's turn to put his family and his personal emotions before his relationship with Sona, and just like he had tried to support her during the perfect bahu phase, she tried to support him in this.

I think that was the primary motivation for her actions vis a vis Neha's situation. She saw how upset it made Dev (who can forget that scene where he broke down after canceling their honeymoon?), believed that he was dealing with it in the wrong way, and thought she had the right solution to the problem. She wanted to save Dev from himself and from his family so that they could have the relationship she dreamed of. Here is where I agree with Payal and Geena. Her intentions were selfless but she failed to understand why Neha's needs weren't the same as her own, and why love wasn't the be-all, end-all answer to her problems.

And while her pride wasn't the main motivation here, it did play a minor role when Dev once again berated Ranveer's financial situation and his inability to care for Neha. I think Sona felt responsible for changing Dev's mind about the relationship between financial status and love because she took his words personally. Like we discussed a few days ago, though, Dev was never making an universal statement about it -- he was talking only about Neha's particular situation. Sona's intentions here were selfless, but her execution was ill-informed and impulsive. I think her assumption that her view of the situation was right, and Dev, Neha, and Ishwari's wrong, played heavily into this.

I guess what I am trying to say is that I agree that Sona's fatal flaw was her pride, stemming from the confidence that her black and white view of the world was the right one. BUT I think it played out very differently in different situations, and was not the only quality that defined her behaviour during their marriage. She did a lot of things right, and was very generous with Dev on a lot of occasions. But when push came to shove, it was the hit to her pride that dealt the fatal blow from her side.

@Sam why only pride? I think boss family had an iota of inferiority complex also with respect to their financial position vs Dixit's. Its layered beneath their self confidence and pride hence it wasn't visible. I have observed that when I interact with highly educated academicians vs not so intellectual filthy rich business men...in most of the cases the latter has respect but the former most of the time has sarcasm and contempt about each other This is v generalised view Pl don't get offended...I'm taking a disclaimer, this is exclusively my observations based on a very small sample size.

Originally posted by: sjain

I just opened this thread to write same point and at the same time saw this comment if yours LOL what coincidence WOAH 😲

This could be some indication of upcoming track

It wasnt deliberate thoigh but He didnt adress it as "humari" so yeah completely dreading custody battle from here on..