When Love is Not Enough!!! - Page 4

Originally posted by: rose4ever

This is such a brilliant article. ⭐️Thanks for sharing it Tia. .

These days, Protagonists(mainly hero) who behave like jerks but come with a haunted past are all the rage in romance novels. And unfortunately they romanticize sacrificing your dreams and glorify despicable acts,all in the name of love.

Originally posted by: dreamy.tiara

Hi Tia di

Brilliant article...Bookmarked! 👍🏼

I'll make my future kids read 😆

And also a brilliant thread, great discussion.

Thanks for sharing😊

Originally posted by: .Avengers.

For a Sunday this place is surprisingly activr. Does the credit goes to Mr Das😛

Bookmarking the article. Talk about love, I fantasize about this love (don't hit shoes at me baes, I am grossly commit phobic and this happens in my head only) anyone watched the vampire diaries? There is this line- you want a love that consumes you. Passion and adventure, even a little bit danger. Keep aside everything and focus on consume part. This is the love we readers/viewers are told to romanticize through generations. Love is all we need, love is greater than oxygen, usiko pana usiko choona types. And then we have elders. They always tell that happy endings exists, that we all will get the perfect partner in life. Being the inherent romantics we are we set out to seek it. IMO this starts an unhealthy chain. We start to blur the lines between what's healthy, what should be vs what we need it to be. Need and want is totally different. Maybe we need this relationship to work, bit do we need it? Now who can answer this if not us? Media as a whole and the fairytale of others makes up hopeful for future. But we don't pay attention to thousands other negative aspects. (Sucks to bring negative in lauu but eh) to what extent one needs to go for love? Stalking -harrassing-manhandling- if girl don't agree then acid throwing, murder, suicide. We girls are not less in this aspect, throwing away everything to achieve this thing as if it's the only life. Self respect, life, ambition, dreams. A healthy life doesn't only need love, it needs a happy life. Is happiness and love mutually exclusive? Again varies from person to person.

Somewhere I lost track of what I wanted to say, but main thing is our own reaction to others love stories, the need to romanticize everything and our psyche is the reason for our downfall when it comes to love. We get a lot of flake for trying to search logic and having expectations from a fictional show instead of hoping when they will get together and give us passionate hugs and eye lock. There's nothing wrong in enjoying, but when you get irritated at the problematic aspects and try to shut down the voices that says so that's when kings get tricky. Sometimes there's nothing wrong acknowledging what's wrong with your likes and dislikes. It doesn't lower you down as a person. Take it as a educational experience and for the love of God stop romanticising it. If you can't, don't ruin others enjoyment. You get joy by listening to romance and use "color codes" while describing it, we enjoy it by picking apart but by bit. Live and let live.

Originally posted by: Tacker_Holic

This is such a beautiful article! Thank you so much for sharing this and kudos to you for sharing this masterpiece with us! You are right this matches elements of Dev-Sonakshi's relationship completely.

We as viewers were also blinded by their "love" but now we even understand that their relationship was nothing but "just love." Dev never let Sonakshi flow freely like a bird and that is what she needed. Sonakshi regrets her decision so much. Like she said in the last episode to Asha "promise me you will let Saurabh Dada's wife have her own space and become her best friend" she hopes and prays that no girl goes through what she did.

I feel like I always blame Dev for the failure of their relationship but he definitely had a stronger influence. Sonakshi did very little wrong. Someone rightly said that you shouldn't have to change for anyone but all Sonakshi did was change for Dev and his ignorant mother. She really tried to fit into something that she was not and this is also why their marriage didnt work. Sonakshi was so independent before marriage and she was slowly dragged down by Dev and his family. I dont really know what Dev did for Sonakshi apart from encourage her to keep his mother happy. He made Sonakshi see rosy dreams but all he gave her was thorns.

I have never personally fell in love yet but I will definitely use this as a guide to not make mistakes like Dev and Sonakshi did. As intelligent people surely you would think about trust, self respect and communication before love. Surely all of these factors make love a lot stronger? After their marriage trust and communication just went out of the window. I think out of all these factors "communication" is the fundamental tool to success. If you dont share your thoughts and feelings with your partner it is not going to work. I am not saying every little thing but communication helps ones self confidence to increase and deal with situations better. Ishwari kept separating them and drifting them apart and the foundations of their "so called love" kept crumbling away with time.

Originally posted by: life93

Thanks a ton Tia for posting this article here . it was very much needed . and happy hug to you and all forum friends .🤗

Originally posted by: anyafan4

I agree 100%

Fall in love but take your brains with you!! And it takes so many forms but some thinking is needed to sustain love --- the wonder of being in love and having someone love you is amazing. !85 believing that will carry you through everything is hard

Sonakshi had that --- she thought love would be enough. With a character like Ishwari --- that would have never been possible unless dev had been strong . Dev learnt that you can't just overblown respect or love for your mom--- balancing is hard work and one needs to be consistently balanced

Easy to say but these are life lessons for us all I guess