When Love is Not Enough!!! - Page 2

Originally posted by: poojak

Amazing article Tia. Thanks for sharing. It's true love is nesscarry but not enough. No one should sacrifice there selfrespect and dignity for love. Love can be a choice but respect is everyone birth right. I remember, one time u mentioned what ur mom said to u when u got married that if ur husband drowns knee high for u then u should go up to ur neck deep but I loved ur reply to that, no I will also go to the same extent as him bc if I sacrifice more than him than in the end I won't have anything left to sacrifice for him and that's not fair to him. Always learn something from ur posts.

Originally posted by: gemini54

Loved the friendship and sacrificing part .

My husband is my best friend but he is not the only best friend I have if he was the only one I would have whacked him on his head too many times in this 30 years. Being in love is being yourself yes we give up somethings for the other but not our identity. My son was telling me he had a friend whose girlfriend broke up with him becaus he ate meat. I asked him why was that just because you are in love should you give up your likes and dislikes too what kind of love is that?.

In this forum people who voice out strongly are termed as negative and not understanding flawed individuals but this is where they don't understand that all people have flaws it is flawed relationships that we are having problems with not flaws in individuals there is a difference.

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Thanks Tia for sharing this great article

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

This is an amazingly written article. Absolutely agree with the points, specially that it's not a tool to resolve the existing problems in your life. Love is not just overestimated, it is overrated as well. I was shocked to hear Sona's lame sunflower story when she said before the gardener (Dev) came into her life, the flower was all sad and gloomy. Hello ?? I mean I am yet to find a single person on earth who remain sad throughout their lives till they get the love of their lives. 😳

Thanks to BW movies and serials, this has become such huge misread concept now-a-days. Consent, respect, honour, pride, friendship, trust everything takes a backstage when 'lau' comes into the picture. In reality, love can only co-exist with the remaining things and it is NOT a standalone emotion. 😵

I will never understand the concept of being lost in love. Just not me 🤔. It has just made my life better and brighter 😊 but it has not blocked my sense of right or wrong, my skills of judgment or respect in any possible way. 🤔

Originally posted by: You-Know-Who

This article is amazingly written and absolutely on point.

@BOLD I absolutely agree with what you said. We have all been led to believe through our exposure to BW and TV that everything is fair in love. Consider the lyrics of great great bollywood hit, that even I am guilty of loving and listening to, repeatedly; The Ae Dil Hai Mushkil title track:

"Tune diya hai jo
Woh dard hi sahi
Tujhse mila hai toh
Inaam hai mera"

This is what we are made to believe love is. And somehow this is supposed to be "beautiful". The idea that love conquers all is an escape from reality. We like to live in a world where someone will "love" us like this. In fact we love it, because it is not a harsh reality that we have to face unlike life. It is supposed to magically cure every little problem in life. Because after all, amor cuerdo no es amor. :P

Originally posted by: You-Know-Who

This article is amazingly written and absolutely on point.

@BOLD I absolutely agree with what you said. We have all been led to believe through our exposure to BW and TV that everything is fair in love. Consider the lyrics of great great bollywood hit, that even I am guilty of loving and listening to, repeatedly; The Ae Dil Hai Mushkil title track:

"Tune diya hai jo
Woh dard hi sahi
Tujhse mila hai toh
Inaam hai mera"

This is what we are made to believe love is. And somehow this is supposed to be "beautiful". The idea that love conquers all is an escape from reality. We like to live in a world where someone will "love" us like this. In fact we love it, because it is not a harsh reality that we have to face unlike life. It is supposed to magically cure every little problem in life. Because after all, amor cuerdo no es amor. :P

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

😆 So true. I love this track, but trust me, there is no end to this crap at least by next 5 yrs in BW. From this movie we have some more gems on one-sided love I believe ? Something like 'One-sided love is the GREATEST, because unlike regular pyaar, only I have the rights on it' something something 😲😕 This is TOTALLY misleading today's youth 😡 The whole movie has glorified love like no tomorrow. On this note, I must mention some 90's movies like Maine Pyar Kiya or Kuch Kuch Hota Hai were MUCH MUCH advanced which focussed more on Friendship in love 😃.

Anyways, coming to this overrated concept pf 'lau', this has always been projected as the greatest in India, Taj Mahal being one example. Everyone is aware of the incident of Shah Jahaan cutting thumbs of around 40 craftsmen after building the Taj Mahal. Love, really ? Far from that IMO. This does not demean the cultural and historical marvel of the place, but the fact is we need our 'fanglasses' off to see the object in its true nature as it is, and not glorifying it to sell that in the name of 'love'.

Anyways, I think 'love' itself is not at all an overrated emotion, however, the hype and fantasies attached to it is hell overrated.

Originally posted by: You-Know-Who

I wouldn't say it is just India it comes from. Helen of Troy and Paris, Romeo Juliet etc, all of these "love at first sight" stories which glorified dying in love, killing for love. These are known as "LOVE STORIES" not horror stories to us. And maybe we are just being practical, maybe love is enough for some people, I wouldn't judge. But then there are movies like "Me Before You" where he doesn't live for love because to him, a life of self respect was more important. When he says to her, "You only have one life, and it is your responsibility to live it as fully as possible", I identified with that as well. Makes me confused, this culture and Bollywood to be honest. 😆