When Love is Not Enough!!!

Originally posted by: .annihilation.

THIS ARTICLE IS GOLD. Thank you so much for sharing it, Tia! And the double of the thank you's to the author of this article. There's so much to learn from this and it'll surely be a guiding light for anyone who needs it.

Originally posted by: chucklebuddy

Beautifully written 😃

Reminds me of a scene from KRPKAB, where Dev asks Sona, "bas pyaar khaafi hai kya?!" (somewhere between episodes 80-85) when Dev is confused about Ranveer and Neha. Sona thinks that Dev is infusing status into love and later Dev comes to Sona's place in rain and apologizes by saying that he is a difficult man to deal with. :) You can see the difference in their views then, and now they are actually experiencing it.

Btw my favorite lines from the article:

"Because we idealize love, we overestimate it. As a result, our relationships pay a price.

Love is an emotional process; compatibility is a logical process. And the two don't bleed into one another very well.

You also need to evaluate a person's values, how they treat themselves, how they treat those close to them, their ambitions and their worldviews in general.

while love may make you feel better about your relationship problems, it doesn't actually solve any of your relationship problems.

The roller coaster of emotions can be intoxicating, each high feeling even more important and more valid than the one before, but unless there's a stable and practical foundation beneath your feet, that rising tide of emotion will eventually come and wash it all away.

A loving relationship is supposed to supplement our individual identity, not damage it or replace it.

The only way you can fully enjoy the love in your life is to choose to make something else more important in your life than love." 👏

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

This is an amazingly written article. Absolutely agree with the points, specially that it's not a tool to resolve the existing problems in your life. Love is not just overestimated, it is overrated as well. I was shocked to hear Sona's lame sunflower story when she said before the gardener (Dev) came into her life, the flower was all sad and gloomy. Hello ?? I mean I am yet to find a single person on earth who remain sad throughout their lives till they get the love of their lives. 😳

Thanks to BW movies and serials, this has become such huge misread concept now-a-days. Consent, respect, honour, pride, friendship, trust everything takes a backstage when 'lau' comes into the picture. In reality, love can only co-exist with the remaining things and it is NOT a standalone emotion. 😵

I will never understand the concept of being lost in love. Just not me 🤔. It has just made my life better and brighter 😊 but it has not blocked my sense of right or wrong, my skills of judgment or respect in any possible way. 🤔

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

Tia - There was a KWK episode where Shabana Aazmi and Javed Akhtar were invited as guests. There when asked what is that which keeps a marriage working, Shabana said something along the same lines - Like for everything we have to 'earn' it, even to make a marriage successful we have to keep working towards it. It's not a miracle, there are lots of compromises, understanding etc behind a successful marriage. In which telationship we dont compromise ? It's an integral ingredient, but the important factor is - compromising for the right person makes the journey worthy and happy one. Shabana being my all time favorite actress intrigued me with these thoughts 😊 .


I dont believe in that concept of love where one loses his brain, mind, dignity. In fact a true partner will always help you in keeping those senses alive and make you give reasons again and again on those lines on why he is the best choice for you and why you should make adjustments to accommodate your partner's wishes. If you shut down your brain, you can never feel more proud everyday for your partner, you cannot evaluate your decision and feel happier each day, can you ? It takes away the everyday joy in my opinion, the joy which I feel whenever I evaluate things ❤️ . The article is indeed insightful. Cannot wait to share this with my hubby 😃