*Season 2, Week 4* Analysis Thread - Page 5

Originally posted by: deepsel

Forgot to add, does anyone else think that KRPKAB will not have a traditional ending of Devakshi happily ever after?. After those below the belt lashes from both sides, I will not be surprised if Dev and Sona part amicably and sharing Suhana peacefully. If makers are forward enough to show Neha remarrying and settling abroad (I doubt that she is still with Ranveer), I can see they can show a historical ending to Devakshi as well. I mean the title can be interpreted that even those failed love is another color of love?!😳

Originally posted by: vayu_prachi

Hopefully sona Di...they do have a trend of something major happening in the story on milestones

@JShukla: I am not sure I understand how my post is biased towards women with sons. What I was trying to point out is that in the patriarchal system, women have power only in relation to men, so women with sons -- if they play their cards right and their adult son depends on them -- have an opportunity to fulfill their own personal desires through the son. In this system, having a daughter does not give you the same power because the daughter goes to another household once married, and does not have the power to make decisions or manage wealth. Therefore this system heavily disadvantages women without husbands, and without sons.

It seems that Sonakshi's household has not followed this structure for some generations. Instead, they follow the model of companionate marriage, where both spouses are equals and friends. There is no "head" of the household as such, and everyone operates on the assumption of goodwill. From the way Sona's dadi used to talk about her dada, it's clear they had that kind of relationship as well. Sona and Dev didn't fully understand the implications of introducing such a companionate marriage, what both of them wanted, into a patriarchal household.

I would be the last person to deny Ishwari's hypocrisy where the maika issue is concerned, but I am equally interested in the root of that hypocrisy, because I believe that in order to eliminate wrongdoing, it's important to understand its where it comes from. Here, I think the difference for Ishwari lies in context. Her brother helped them when they were in dire straits and had nobody else, while Sona's family only met them when they were well-off. She has deep trust issues, so she constantly nursed the doubt that Sona and her family were only in it to take advantage of Dev's wealth. In this she was absolutely wrong, because she ended up trusting the wrong people, believing blood is thicker than water, but I can see where the thought process came from.

Why MILs mistreat their DILs; it's definitely a power trip like you said, but often more calculated than the MIL just enjoying her power. You say they shouldn't mess with the DILs, in order to protect their positions, but why would they be willing to do that without putting up a fight? After all, the power they have in their son's life, and therefore in the household is construed as the reward for the years of quiet service as the ideal bahu. It's easy to say they should break out of this from our vantage point, but that path is not always clearly laid out for them. So basically, a son who loves his wife is a threat to the system that promised the mother delayed gratification.

Ishwari loves Dev and genuinely wants him to be happy, but her fear speaks louder than her love. I think her fear was losing control over Dev, who was the enactor of her will in a world she didn't think would acknowledge her desires as valid, and therefore losing her life's work. She is unable to come to terms with the fact that her happiness is no longer Dev's happiness, and since Sona was the first point at which that was made evident, she becomes a convenient scapegoat. And because Ishwari doesn't consider her son an adult, if he is not under her control, he must be under somebody's control -- again, convenient scapegoat is Sona and her abandonment.

Just to be clear, I am not trying to "convert" anyone into empathising with Ishwari, just expressing why I do.

Thanks everyone...

@Sam & Shaavi - Thanks for the analysis. Just on the sex bit... I totally get why a mother like Ishwari would get insecure over any woman in her son's life, let alone one who her own son chose. I won't repeat everything you ladies said. However, what was disappointing was that Dev wasn't into Sonakshi 24x7. He went to work the next day after muh dikhai. He used to eat with them and Sonakshi used to be sat far from him on the table. They were rarely caught cochi-cooing or flirting with each other pre or post wedding. Ishwari still had this inherent fear that Sonakshi's coquetry will take her raja beta away from her. She blamed Sona even at the minister's dance. I think the mother in her saw early on how Dev was attracted to this woman and Dev let her down by not telling her about his love interest (another topic of discussion for some other day). I didn't see Ishwari treating Dev like an 8 year old in that context. In fact she found the love notes and the gift parcels quite uncomfortable.

Had Dev clued into his mother's desire to be kept in the loop things would be different. He was a master perception manager and I am not suggesting he needed to check with her - hey ma, which dress I should order for Sona. It was more generic. Eg. Rather than announcing a two week vacation on the dining table after having sneaked out for the night with his wife, he needed to speak to Ishwari in private. "Ma, I am thinking of taking Sona with me on a small business trip to Europe. For about 10-12 days". He misjudged Ishwari's insecurities when he was so good at making her feel in control on other matters e.g. offering 30% to Neha's potential groom or a job to ranveer

Woman like Radha rani are happier when their sons get married. Because that means their sons spend their nights at home rather than out and about. But with Dev, Ishwari saw no point at all in him having a consistent sexual partner.

Originally posted by: JShukla

]Wohoo... now this will surely be path breaking for me.I would really like this ending you suggested. Lets see what they have in mind but with Dev wounded and love lorn Sona crying by his bedside scene coming up it not likely[/DIV]

BTW, Deepa, hello again. Somehow you always post something that I just have to have to quote😆

But unlike you I felt Dev;s below the belt lashes started that day at farm house '' its good that you can't be a mother because you are incapable of being a good mother'; "you married me so you can put your useless brother on track" you married me for money" you can never earn enough "...

now off course Sona has joined the bandwagon.

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