Basic Etiquette - Respecting The Alternate View - Page 5

Originally posted by: cscs

I will agree with Preeti here sir, there should be a limit of bashing reel characters also. Sometimes people get too much involved with the characters that they feel bad and there are people who would not like to read such derogatory terms for anyone. After all we all belong to civilized society and there is no need to be abusive.

Originally posted by: Cutiepie.sona

Thanku Prabhat Sir!😳

I'm feeling overwhelmed after reading ur comment!😃

It's really feel good when someone experienced & intelligent like u appreciate my post!😳

Role model...and me?!😲

Ohh!!...lord!!

U have made me embarassed with this!

U should be considered role model instead of me sir!

U've certainly inspired me with ur generosity!!👏👏

Thanks for forgiving me!

And enlightening me with ur wonderful post & reply!😳

Originally posted by: tia.o

Mr. Das, I know exactly what you mean. We kind of have faced the same situation. I won't talk about what others have been doing. I will talk about me because this is what I have in my control.

I have always made post with my opinion and logical argument to support it. I also made a point to make posts where people can counter argue my points with their own logical examples to support it.

What I take exceptions to is those random people (yep, the same ones that forced you to write this post) to come to me and tell me, "You are biased", "You are wrong", "Your brain must be overworked" etc. without any proof or examples.

You have a problem with how I think? Pick my comments or post that made you reach that decision and prove it. I will then counter argue your points.

I have previously accepted when someone gave me a logical point and agreed that I didn't think about it. When someone mentioned of getting hurt by my point, I have publicly apologised in my post and personally. I always like every single comment in my post provided they are respectful and not insulting, regardless whether they agree with me or not. I have done it since I have came to the forum.

There are people with whom I had a difference of opinion or had debates, but when they made a post I found interesting, whether I agreed with them in all points or not, I still liked their posts and many times I also praised them for it.

I don't know any person here. So I have no personal enmity with them. So even when my debate goes on longer, I still do not bear any grudges against them.

But there are people who go on a personal attack and form lifelong enmity when they engage in a debate.

My issue is that first of all, fictional characters are not the actors. The actor had other roles before this, they will have other role after this. So whatever we say about the fictional character no way applies to the actor or actress.

Secondly, targeting real people for discussing fictional characters is no where acceptable. I have been personally targeted and I didn't put up with it. I also defended other people when they were personally attacked by someone including the actors.

And the attack is not just straightforward challenge, instead some people hide behind sarcasm and taunting remarks and think that using smily emoji will make their comment appear less insulting.

I make a point to only comment on those people's post who I believe are open to rational discussion and stay clear of people who, in my experience, are unable to do so.

If anyone is starting to take offence with criticising fictional characters based on what is shown on the screen, then they are blurring the line between fiction and reality and need to take a step back.

Originally posted by: pkbdas61

sure, appreciate your views, but I humbly disagree. In an analysis of fictional characters, all is fair. Take for instance Ishwari. There is not a single soul on this forum who has not abused or bashed her up. Then no one cried foul! What is the difference? Is it because Ishwari, played by Supriya, does not have a fan following? In fact it is all the more unfair then to bash a character who does not have a fan following of size. Simple, we all took it in great fun and in the right spirit. In fact actors who don such roles know what the character is in for, even before they start. Actors who are not strong enough to take 'character' criticism are not to be actors. Characters are written to be liked or disliked. In the present track, yes, Dev is getting criticised. When the script changes, I am pretty positive that praises will automatically come.

Finally, folks who cannot take character criticism just because it is played by a favourite actor, need to be part of a fan club, not an open forum where criticism, and hard criticism, is bound to be there.

in the south of India, one dare not criticise any so called super star. The are as good as dead! The fan clubs will maul them! Thankfully this forum is not a fan club, at least this is what I believe.

Originally posted by: pkbdas61

I meant what I said. Believe it that you are one of a rare kind..

Originally posted by: pkbdas61

Tia, take a bow! I know that there will be many, especially women, who may not be able to take your posts in the way they are supposed to be taken.. logical, well debated, rational and on a sound footing. It is all in the mind. I keep telling my wife, and she does not have too many friends, that she ought not to be so frank and always on the right logical foot. Just this one approach is sufficient to offend anyone who is unable to keep pace with her, forget men, even women. I must also confess that it is a pleasure for me to lose a debate with her. Yes, I do get offended too but then it is my own mind playing dirty tricks. At the end of the day, I have lost to a worthy argument, not a person, leave aside an enemy.

Originally posted by: preethik

Sir I disagree here. Bashing a character is ok but member who like the character & are emotionally invested in the characters for whatever reason don't like when bashing crosses a line. In the past week dev has been called escort, sexual predator even rapist. The is not the language which fans like & hence they argue on those posts & it escalates.

People who doing the bashing be it dev or sona should also learn to not cross the line by using such terms.