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Today I was reading some comments. They were quite enlightening.
So I had to make this post.
Here's some guidelines for an ideal, classy woman (oh yes, there is guidelines to follow for women. Men don't have any such guidelines)
You see a woman being harassed on the street by the same hoodlums who eve-teases you every day. Walk away, keep your head down. Just in case those animals turn on you. No, it's not their fault for being animals. It's yours.
You see a girl being bullied by the same people who bullied you. Don't interfere, walk away. The bullies might turn on you and that will be your fault. Not the bully's fault.
You see your abusive ex-husband is beating up his current girlfriend, you should walk away. Don't interfere, keep your head down. Just in case he decide to turn on you. No, it's not his fault for turning on you. It's your fault if you speak up.
Lavanya said a lovely word - social responsibility.
But doesn't responsibility belongs to humans? Are women humans? Last time I checked, they are not allowed to be? They are not allowed to have feelings, they are not allowed to have anger, they are not allowed to have empathy for another woman being treated the same way by the same man and they are definitely not allowed to provide help to another woman.
Because they are biased by their abuse, bullying and past experience.
You are right, they are. But you know what? No one can understand, empathize or feel the pain like they do. How can a pampered rich girl know the pangs of hunger? How can a beloved daughter know the fear of beating? How can a girl who has never felt love know the pain of heartbreak?
There's only one way. Bring out the empathy, tuck in the judgement.
I am not unbiased when I talk about abusive people, bullies, jerks. If I am unbiased towards them then shame on me. It's like being unbiased towards criminals and I can't treat victims and criminals the same way.
Here the biggest issue was that Dev, the so-called hero, threw out a woman in the middle of the night in the hotel lobby without her shoes. But the biggest discussion in the forum is whether his ex-wife should or shouldn't have helped the girl standing in the lobby bare feet banging on the door.
The said hero after realizing the ex-wife helped the girl he threw out (his concern wasn't that the girl came fighting back and decided never to be with him. His concern was WHO helped her. If the receptionist had helped her with the same information, he'd have been fine), went banging on her door threatening to break it down. But even bigger concern is whether the ex-wife tried to score points against the poor hero by using his current girlfriend and thus made him sad.
Now that's a definite priority. Whether the ex-wife was wrong to behave like a human being with feelings, resentment, anger or should she walked away with her nose in the air as a proper, ideal emotionless woman should do.
Now that deserves a round of applause.
If a woman stands up for a woman against a man, she is a man hater and if she has a bad past with men, then definitely trying to score points against them. I mean who has ever heard of any woman helping another?
A man stands up for a woman against another man, he is a hero even if he has a bad past, that just adds up to his heroism.
If I was ever in distress, I'd rather have a point scoring woman by my side, not the one who will walk away.
I prefer human women with all their strength and weakness, past that shapes their present and present that builds their future, women who are not afraid to make mistakes, learn from it and move on, yet, even under their toughest outer self, beats a human, empathic heart.
I will take that warm-hearted tough woman over a cold-hearted iceberg any day. I will take a human heart over a Goddess's disdain over any day.
I will always defend the abused, the mistreated, the victim, regardless of gender and happily claim to be very very biased.
P.S. this post is not directed to any individual. This post is directed to a thought process and strictly my opinion.
