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gmgi

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Posted: 8 years ago

#71

The good kids of both the families who had always shouldered their responsibilities and exceeded their expectations, who excelled in everything they did and on whom their respective parents had immense trust on had to separate and go on their own ways because the same parents didn't trust them enough to believe them capable of handling issues in their marriage.

Both of them tried to compensate for wanting something their parents were against by allowing their interference in marriage. They fought the world to be together but never lived for each other but for others.

The righteous anger of being the wronged one have pushed them both to become someone else to prove a point to each other. Just like their first encounter will they be ready to share the responsibility of the breakup? 60:40😆

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thedramaqueen

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Posted: 8 years ago

#72

Originally posted by: gmgi

The righteous anger of being the wronged one have pushed them both to become someone else to prove a point to each other. Just like their first encounter will they be ready to share the responsibility of the breakup? 60:40😆

you might be on to something

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gemini54

@gemini54

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Posted: 8 years ago

#73

I dont know how I missed this thread.

As the saying goes it takes two to tango

Sona and Dev's marriage was doomed from the start

here are my looong thoughts😉

1. Dev's Knee Jerk reaction at the intial break up

2. Sona agreeing to get married to Dev before sorting out the root cause of the first break up

3. Dev trying hard to balance between the two woman to the point where he swung from one extreme to another thereby not giving confidence to either woman about him and in turn not really happy himself

4. Sona trying to balance between becoming Sonakshi Dixit and being Sonakshi Bose. The Dixit part she tried as she was Asha's daughter too wanted to give this marriage a fair chance The Bose part was her need to win and her idea of winning in this case was acceptance from Easwari .

5. Dev loved Sona and wanted to compartmentalize his relationship with her in the marriage keep it seperate from Easwari

6. Sona loved Dev and wanted to de- compartmentalize her relationship and include Easwari in it

7. Money was a factor all the time in the marriage. Dev did not care much for money but his actions said otherwise ..him buying of Ranveer, closing Sona chances of another job, helping Suarabh. Sona viewed money as black or white. As a cause for all evils an almost chip on her shoulder. In most breakups for marriage money plays a major, major role and that is why Pre Nups exist it can be a boon or a bane however way you look at it

8. Dev and Sone let other people into a marriage and failed to communicate effectively with each other

9.They set very high standards for themselves Dev being the ideal son, husband and Sona to be an ideal daughter, wife, DIL but in reality we just have to set Individual standards for ourselves not to please others but because we want to

10. Both Sona and Dev have to first break shackles of their own perceptions and be happy in their own skin as just Sona and Dev before they can employ free will.

P.S In real life I have seen people come together just for the child and as I see it here they have two reasons a child and their love just that love needed strengthening

Sam sorry for the ramble just got carried away 😆

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thedramaqueen

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Posted: 8 years ago

#74

Originally posted by: _Payalj_
Now I also want one scene where Sona tells bijoy, I am not you. I can like and want something you don't.
What really bamboozles me about this show is that even after all this Ishwari never made an attempt to find Sona nor is bijoy concerned that his daughter is alone and needs a partner.

As per spoilers Ishwari was shown the mirror by Dev but still made no effort for saving son's marriage and instead went into depression as if she was the wronged party!!

Bijoy can at least be shown worried that his daughter is alone and lonely . I have seen several cases where normal parents start staying away from their children if they don't get along with their sil or dil but ensure that their children have a happy life. Parents clearly say in such cases that they can't be there forever for their children and it is important that their children's married life is good.

Payal, observe the conversation in the Bose household yesterday. That was said to Bijoy on many occasions. Sona made it clear she will go to Delhi, Bijoy likes it or not

We might get more flashbacks

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_Payalj_

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Posted: 8 years ago

#75

Originally posted by: thedramaqueen

Payal, observe the conversation in the Bose household yesterday. That was said to Bijoy on many occasions. Sona made it clear she will go to Delhi, Bijoy likes it or not

We might get more flashbacks

Saying in minor things is OK. It is the major things that count. I want her to take a firm stand when she wants to get back to Dev. Sonakshi will at that time tell her father to back off but saying it in a definitive manner is what counts.

Parents automatically assume they know the best for their child and at times forget that the child is a totally different individual with different needs, dreams and desires.

Telling this to bijoy so that he firmly understands that his daughters happiness might be in a direction totally opposite to bijoys perception is what would count.

I am not saying that Sona should forgive and forget immediately. Bit there would soon come a time when she would want to. At that time she should be able to manage her father firmly. Otherwise he would continue his non diplomatic and insulting behaviour in the name of his culture and self respect. And before people pounce on me bijoys was not to be blamed for the five crore fiasco but before that he crossed the line several times.

Edited by _Payalj_ - 8 years ago

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JShukla

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Posted: 8 years ago

#76

Payal- I don't think Bijoy had a hand in break up except perhaps as a wronged party..

Sorry, did not realize the general direction of the thread before commenting.

Edited by JShukla - 8 years ago

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Danseuse

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Posted: 8 years ago

#77

This is a novel idea and I am with you. Let me start from next week. Will write a synopsis about my views on the separation and events that led to it.

-Rekha

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_Payalj_

@_Payalj_

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Posted: 8 years ago

#78

Originally posted by: JShukla
Payal- I don't think Bijoy had a hand in break up except perhaps as a wronged party..

Sorry, did not realize the general direction of the thread before commenting.

The major contributors were no doubt Ishwari and Dev. I can easily fill an entire page on how they were wrong and spelled their own doom

But Sona too did a mistake by giving too much importance to Ishwari and letting her come between her marriage. The time and energy she should have spent on consolidating her relationship, she spent on appeasing the Dixits. Wrong strategy for any married woman. First should always be husband and then come his family . It seemed like she was competing with Ekta bahus. Also in her attempt to be the best she didn't put her foot down and declare enough where she should have and interfered where she shouldn't have.

Bijoy is a again at fault as he always rubbed people the wrong way in the name of his self respect. He gave indirect impetus to the entire break up through his immaturity. At times adults should behave like adults and not overgrown whining kids

He might not have been the direct catalyst, as I have already said that he was completely right in the five crore case but that doesn't absolve him of the negativity he had spread earlier. Such negativity has always a long lasting and sub conscious impact.

And why sorry for posting? I thought we are here to discuss which as a rule includes different opinions. At least that is my point of view. 😊

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WeRockTheWorld

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Posted: 8 years ago

#79

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

The major contributors were no doubt Ishwari and Dev. I can easily fill an entire page on how they were wrong and spelled their own doom

But Sona too did a mistake by giving too much importance to Ishwari and letting her come between her marriage. The time and energy she should have spent on consolidating her relationship, she spent on appeasing the Dixits. Wrong strategy for any married woman. First should always be husband and then come his family . It seemed like she was competing with Ekta bahus. Also in her attempt to be the best she didn't put her foot down and declare enough where she should have and interfered where she shouldn't have.

Bijoy is a again at fault as he always rubbed people the wrong way in the name of his self respect. He gave indirect impetus to the entire break up through his immaturity. At times adults should behave like adults and not overgrown whining kids

He might not have been the direct catalyst, as I have already said that he was completely right in the five crore case but that doesn't absolve him of the negativity he had spread earlier. Such negativity has always a long lasting and sub conscious impact.

And why sorry for posting? I thought we are here to discuss which as a rule includes different opinions. At least that is my point of view. 😊

I would blame Dev and Sona for breaking their marriage and not any one else. When you agree to marry a person then you need to keep all the other relationship aside when it comes to your relationship with your spouse. They started viewing and understanding each other thru their relatives eyes...Their relationship lacked trust , honesty, respect etc...and they never communicated ...the main reason is each one of them feared loosing the other and hence were insecure in their relationship.

This was made use of others in the family for their benefited and their marriage didnt stand a chance .

United we stand ..divided we fall!!

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Samanalyse

@Samanalyse

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Posted: 8 years ago

#80

Highlighting my favourite insights from the last few posts. Thanks all for adding your views to the thread! I am really enjoying this discussion 😃

Originally posted by: adoremevirgo
he lets ishwari win by letting sona go but makes that victory a pyrrhic one by detaching himself from her from then on...

So beautifully put! Ishwari got exactly what she fought for, but the results were devastating. I hope to see a truly happy Dev, not just him pretending. Of course, his faith in love is compromised, but there is so much else in life to enjoy in the mean time, and I hope he is taking full advantage of his youth, beauty, and wealth.

Originally posted by: gmgi
Both of them tried to compensate for wanting something their parents were against by allowing their interference in marriage. They fought the world to be together but never lived for each other but for others.

Couldn't have said it better. Both of them tried too hard to be in charge and take leadership of the situation, promising everyone and their mother (pun intended!) that they would take full responsibility for this relationship. That is why Vicky and Elena stood in such stark contrast: they didn't take any responsibility and as a result, people did their work for them.

Originally posted by: gemini54
5. Dev loved Sona and wanted to compartmentalize his relationship with her in the marriage keep it seperate from Easwari

6. Sona loved Dev and wanted to de- compartmentalize her relationship and include Easwari in it

Loved this! It sums up the clash, and the wall they hit so well.

@JShukla: No need to apologise at all. You are most welcome to post your views, as long as you are not disrespectful of those who disagree with you, and are willing to engage in productive discussion. I apologise if anything about the thread made you feel excluded.

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