Thank you. Yes, that's the question I raised as well. I asked the question, imagine if Dev had a low sperm count and Bijoy was making demand for grandkids and sent them to a resort where he announced Dev's condition to the entire resort, how insulted he will feel. If he stormed out of the resort, no one would blame him. But then men's dignity is more worthy than a woman's dignity. That's why even now, people are defending Dev.
I don't even know how Sonakshi is romancing Dev after that. I'd have left the resort and go straight to my home.
Sonakshi continuously tried to win Dev's family over, but that was overlooked. Yet, the fact Dev is "trying" to keep everyone happy is such a huge deal.
I can't even wrap my head around this fact.
However, one thing I'd tell you that women who marry a guy and thinks they can change them are delusional. Because you see, people don't change unless they themselves want to change.
The first step to change is accepting that something is wrong. The reason a person hasn't changed until marriageable age is because they think that there nothing in them that needs to be changed as in has not accepted or acknowledged any faults in them to start with. So instead of changing, they will resist and resent their wives urge to change.
Every human being has their flaws. But as long as they are loving, caring, respectful, supportive and understanding, all other flaws can be tolerated.
Dev never stood up for Sona before marriage. She herself knew that he will never stand up for her if his mother is against them. That was the reason of her insecurity. She also knew Dev was a lier. He hid their relationship from his mother for a long time and the consequence Sona had to suffer as if she was the one who asked him to hide it. Why is she shocked when Dev never stands up for her or lies to her now? She married him fully aware that she is at the very bottom of his priority list.
Sona is not stupid. We all know our spouses and what they are like. Deluding ourselves might put us in la la land but that's not real.
However, if she doesn't leave Dev after the slap, I don't think she is worthy of being called a daughter either. And Asha and Saurabh better not support Dev. If they do, then they don't deserve Bijoy either.
Originally posted by: GeekSquad
Nice write up Tia and yes, loved your story. More than that the story telling that reaches your heart..That's the effect that Kuch Rang had on me the initial days.
I will never blame Sona for getting married to Dev. because, most of us who are smart and intelligence, well educated and brought up with open minded parents think that we can change people or can create a positive influence.
Equality to gender and privilege to have thoughts and discussions about any topic with no bias to boys will be done in at in-laws house. But here, slowly its draining and now not even an ounce of the Sonakshi character exists.
Yesterday's episode, left me choked and embarrassed and felt like am put in a dark hole where the only lightness is shown when someone as in (Ishwari) shows some light. Dev being around the room, talking to me trying to make me smile.
Infertility is something private and I dont want the entire world to know that am getting treated. Sonakshi raised a valid point..that with this stress she cant have peace or rest..How nicely Dev convinced her and she gave in?? Sona, you are now dead to me and the precap, you are wearing that gown?? I couldnt watch it at all..
Wonder why she didn't send some victoria secret enticing lingerie??
Edited by tia.o - 8 years ago
