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Posted: 8 years ago
#31

Originally posted by: SandyAquarius

Tia, here are few of my thoughts on the episode posted already on another thread. I am also posting a short discussion from that thread...hope you don't mind 😊



Frankly, IShwari's happiness is frightening. But I believe the Cvs are taking that route to fix the larger problems through this attitude of hers. Because the day she knows Sona is not pregnant/or she loses the foetus, will be the time Ishwari's other avatar will make a comeback in a fiercer way. But that will also be the time, the protector (for Sona) in Dev will finally and completely awaken. This will lead to the ultimate clash between the man who loves Sona like his own life and his beloved mother. - Yes, I think we are heading that way. But keep in mind, Dev becomes powerless when Ishwari sheds tears along with her master weapon of emotional blackmail. So far Dev has not been proven to be immune to that attack.

Whether we, as the more progressive women in our society like to accept or not, the fact remains that women, (especially when the woman is viewed through the lens that fixes her in the position of a daughter-in-law) are still held to certain expectations and their acceptance is based on those expectations. The way the in-laws view the daughter-in-law who has the ability to produce wonderful progeny is extremely different from the one who hasn't and can't. #RealityCheck - I personally think that a child is born of two people - father and mother. Whether the child is born of simple biology, through modern science or comes from heart i.e. adoption, it belongs to the two people who decide to have the child. The family may request for a baby, but they can't force them. If a couple chooses to remain childless, it's not them being selfish, it's them living the life they chose. Just like the family decide their course of life on their own. But the reality is that the burden of expectations is forced on every child. Until they study, they are nagged for marks; when they get good results, they are nagged to get a job; once they get a decent job, they are nagged to get married; once married, they are nagged to get pregnant; after one child, the nagging starts for another child; then the nagging moves in to the children and their life. We have to as a society stop telling people how to live their life and live our own. Have expectations for our own life, make a goal and achieve them. But stop making goalposts for other people.

P.S - Motherhood changes a woman and motherhood changes her priorities but yes, as a woman, who has seen the world (that people like IShwari will never see), I know with great certainty that motherhood alone does not define a woman. But that is me...and qhite a few of us on the forum. But lets try and convince the traditionalists and all those women facing infertility problems that motherhood is not the be all and end all. It'll be in vain. The exact reason why Sona will be broken when she comes to know the news... Coz when someone chooses not to have a child it is different versus a woman who cannot have a child - I totally agree with you that a woman is much more than a womb. Sona wants to be a mother and she may not be able to. That is extremely heartbreaking. But you know what is more devastating? That she will loose all these glimpse of heaven in terms of receiving everyone's love, respect and care and losing that when she fails to meet their expectations. That is a more devastating news than just infertility, it's letting down the people who should love her anyway, baby or no baby. That is what I know might make her give in to Ishwari's blackmail/leave Dev.

PPS - Did you notice how shocked Dev was to see his mother's behaviour with Sona? Doesn't it speak volumes about his awareness of his mother's unacceptance of Sona until now despite all his protests to the contrary earlier? Finally, Dev is allowed to emerge from a the false cocoon he was wrapped in and I for one love that. Of course, now the Cvs have decided to dumb down Sona instead. It seems, CVs don't know how to create drama realistically without dumbing down characters.

- I always had an idea that Dev knew everything that was going on, he just chose not to see and acknowledge it for fear of having to believe his mother is not as Goddess like person as he had been led to believe. That is consistent with his characteristic. He'd rather live in fool's paradise than face reality as his constant lies/hiding the truth reveals. I think today he could acknowledge the truth because he thought that what worried him about his mother is no longer relevant and his mother has accepted Sonakshi. He didn't know that the acceptance came with strings attached.

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Posted: 8 years ago
#32

Originally posted by: dlavanya



Tia, its true sometimes ppl don't announce it immediately... This happened to me personally.. We got excited and told all our family and close friends the moment we found out using hone pregnancy test... This later ended in miscarriage... We learned it hard way .. It was not only heartbreaking but we also had the burden to inform all the ppl we told abt pregnancy that we had miscarriage ..

My first pregnancy was very good and no complications so i assumed everything will be fine with this pregnancy as well but i was wrong... Ppl do annoucne to everyone even before their first doc checkup when they r overconfident or when they get super excited that they cant think anything could go wrong...
As much as i wanted sona to put her down and tested even when ishwari was asking her not to.. I could understand how she was feeling and she simply got carried away.. I feel so sad for both sona and dev...this track is going to make us cry buckets.. I hope they handle it very carefully.


Sorry to hear about your loss. I can relate to that feeling. Even I did the same with my second pregnancy... I came to know that I was pregnant with twins when i was just 1 1/2 months pregnant. I got so excited that I told everyone I knew. But had complications during my 5th month and ended up losing both the babies...😭.

I totally agree that Sona is getting carried away with all the happiness and hopes surrounding her... I feel bad for both Dev and Sona and hopefully the CVs will show them coming out strong...
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Posted: 8 years ago
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P.S - I wish the writing team did not compromise Dev or Sona's characterization for the purpose of drama because I believe capable writers can handle drama without butchering characters.

I also could not relate personally when Sona reveals in front of the entire family instead of romance but kinda understood where Sona was coming from in her need to please Ishwari's desire. This is pure dramatization and I wish they tone it down but highly doubt they will do it...coz it is the same CVS who have kept an extremely loud character like RR around constantly. In my opinion characters like RR cheapen classy dramas. But I guess, people like her help TRPs and so we are left to deal with her whether or not we like it. I guess the same applies for OTT drama that went on today and will happen in the next episode with the dhol scene...uff!
Edited by SandyAquarius - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
#34
Sorry lavanya & shaavi about your loss. I'm sure it must have been devastating!

This is the reason I like the forum. You get everyone's point of view based on their experiences. It really tempers our disappointment with the way the characters behave. Wether it's infertility, possessive mils or clueless husbands! Somebody or the other has gone through these phases!
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I am really really sorry to learn of your losses, Lavanya and Shavi. I cannot imagine how heartbroken you must have felt.
I really hope this subject is handled with sensitivity by the makers of this show coz it is the reality of many women/couples out there.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I felt surprised n confused jst like dev. Maa, sonakshi n halwa !!! The family bonding was a treat to watch as first time v saw a perfect blending of boses n dixits without any fuss but all this was bcoz of an unconfirmed yet-2-b-real subject, drained that happiness from the viewers. I didn consider sona as a nutritionist or a doctor but a normal girl but the character failed miserably wen she jumped the gun in accordance with her MIL. She shud hav insisted to take that test first n then let everyone knew. An over caring ish maa n the festive atmosphere in dixit mansion reminded me bout that impending tsunami following after the quake of knowing the truth. Wen everything turns out to b a false alarm, i don want to c a heart broken sona with taunts from all sides pointing towards her. 😔 I'm only having hope in Dev as i strongly believes that he'll support n protect her .Let's c how this TRP drama gonna influence this infertilty track.
I'm really feeling sorry for those who r experiencing such things in real life. V can only pray for them n wish them good luck.


P.S. Tia..enjoy the festive season.. n best wishes for ur exam .

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Very sorry to hear about your loss, Shaavi. While I have not tried for a baby yet, recently one of my cousins who is very close to me found out she was expecting twins after two miscarriages. Needless to say she was extra careful and very cautious and so was everyone in the family. Last month her twins, both girls, were born. But one of the twin babies died the day after their birth. The other girl was kept in the hospital until this month and finally was brought home.

My poor cousin could not even grieve properly because she had to fight to save the daughter who was alive... It was devastating time for all the family.

So you can understand when I see that CVs take a sensitive issue like infertility so casually for the sake of drama why it makes me mad...

There are so many people who might be going through the same. A heartbreak can be shown more subtly rather than OTT and in your face.

Originally posted by: Shaavi


Sorry to hear about your loss. I can relate to that feeling. Even I did the same with my second pregnancy... I came to know that I was pregnant with twins when i was just 1 1/2 months pregnant. I got so excited that I told everyone I knew. But had complications during my 5th month and ended up losing both the babies...😭.

I totally agree that Sona is getting carried away with all the happiness and hopes surrounding her... I feel bad for both Dev and Sona and hopefully the CVs will show them coming out strong...

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Yes, this OTT drama is making me feel uncomfortable as well. Even if infertility issue was not there, let's not forget, Ishwari never fed Halwa so lovingly to anyone, even her daughters, like she fed to Dev. And even now, she is not feeding the Halwa to Sonakshi, she is feeding to Dev's baby.

I can bet you that even if Sona is really pregnant and gives birth, Ishwari won't feed her Halwa so lovingly after delivery.

That's why this OTT is making me so mad.

Originally posted by: aarcha

I felt surprised n confused jst like dev. Maa, sonakshi n halwa !!! The family bonding was a treat to watch as first time v saw a perfect blending of boses n dixits without any fuss but all this was bcoz of an unconfirmed yet-2-b-real subject, drained that happiness from the viewers. I didn consider sona as a nutritionist or a doctor but a normal girl but the character failed miserably wen she jumped the gun in accordance with her MIL. She shud hav insisted to take that test first n then let everyone knew. An over caring ish maa n the festive atmosphere in dixit mansion reminded me bout that impending tsunami following after the quake of knowing the truth. Wen everything turns out to b a false alarm, i don want to c a heart broken sona with taunts from all sides pointing towards her. 😔 I'm only having hope in Dev as i strongly believes that he'll support n protect her .Let's c how this TRP drama gonna influence this infertilty track.

I'm really feeling sorry for those who r experiencing such things in real life. V can only pray for them n wish them good luck.


P.S. Tia..enjoy the festive season.. n best wishes for ur exam .

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Posted: 8 years ago
#39

Disappointed with sonakshi the way she started dhindhora of her pregnancy. Come on, she's a doctor.

How hard is it to go and buy one pregnancy test from nearest medical store?

One can claim to pregnant based on 'ma ka tarjuba'
Pure shit. Asha and bijoy should regret wasting money for her medical education, she doesnt know even basic of medical.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: tia.o

I am not sure if I should be happy to see today's episode or sad.


On one hand, the family bonding I was expecting to see was there. Both family behaved with genuine respect and without taunting each other like a blended family should from the beginning of a marriage.

On the other hand, it was not because of their own children who are present in their life and are reason enough to be respectful, but for a baby who is not even a reality yet.

That gives me an indication that the behaviour might change if the baby is not there.

I find it surprising that while a new baby is a good news, so is a newly wedded bride and a newly wedded groom.

Why rejoice and party at wedding and then treat the person who got married like unwanted pest?

I have never seen anyone celebrating a baby's birth and then treating the baby as unwanted after the baby being born.

Isn't marriage also a birth of a new life and new relationships?

Why don't we treat a new bride (can't say the new groom is not treated as if he hung the moon) like we treat a newly born baby, with love, tenderness and gentle guidance instead of taunts, warnings and insults?

Ishwari asked Sonakshi's parents' favourite cuisine and showering her love on her. If every mother-in-law did that with her new daughter-in-law since the day she gets married, women will never cry when leaving her parents' house.

I wish, this had happened the day after the wedding, not today.

Poor Dev was pleasantly surprised to see family bonding and thought it was because of Sonakshi. But when Sonakshi announced they are expecting, his face was one of utter shock.

Dev, my dear, this is why I say that lying never solved anything. You have dug a trap so big that you can't even crawl out of it. If I were you, I'd start thinking pronto starting with coming clean about what you know. The more you let this go on, the worse the news is going to sound and the more it will hurt everyone.

Your lie has grown so massive that now it's no longer is just about you and Sonakshi, now it include her family and yours. As time will pass, it will just grow bigger.

You wanted to save Sonakshi from hurt from what would have been a shock, but it might just turn into a fatal wound. Time's running out.

Precap: Dev asks Sona to get her pregnancy tested.

DUH!!! Sona should have done it before she and Ishwari announced it to the world. This lady seems to have lost a few brain cells since getting married. Who the heck shares any news on a possibility?

ANNOUNCEMENT - Hello peeps. How was your weekend?

Well, my last weekend and the next one are just filled with Christmas parties.

Not to mention, I have an exam to sit for on Dec 22nd. Ergo, I will be working full time, studying, partying all at the same time. So that means, I will be sleep-deprived, bleary eyed, zombie version of myself.

Trust me, if I had to pay for my course, I'd have never done it. But the work is paying so gotta do it.

The good news is, that I am not working or studying during Christmas week. Yay!!!

So if you see less comments/posts for me. That would be the reason. However, feel free to use my posts (whatever I post) for discussion zone. Hope you guys have a wonderful Christmas and New year...




@ bold, yes, you are totally right. For Christsake, Sona is a Dr. Come on..I am not watching this serial anymore..

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