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Originally posted by: SandyAquarius
Tia, here are few of my thoughts on the episode posted already on another thread. I am also posting a short discussion from that thread...hope you don't mind 😊
Frankly, IShwari's happiness is frightening. But I believe the Cvs are taking that route to fix the larger problems through this attitude of hers. Because the day she knows Sona is not pregnant/or she loses the foetus, will be the time Ishwari's other avatar will make a comeback in a fiercer way. But that will also be the time, the protector (for Sona) in Dev will finally and completely awaken. This will lead to the ultimate clash between the man who loves Sona like his own life and his beloved mother. - Yes, I think we are heading that way. But keep in mind, Dev becomes powerless when Ishwari sheds tears along with her master weapon of emotional blackmail. So far Dev has not been proven to be immune to that attack.Whether we, as the more progressive women in our society like to accept or not, the fact remains that women, (especially when the woman is viewed through the lens that fixes her in the position of a daughter-in-law) are still held to certain expectations and their acceptance is based on those expectations. The way the in-laws view the daughter-in-law who has the ability to produce wonderful progeny is extremely different from the one who hasn't and can't. #RealityCheck - I personally think that a child is born of two people - father and mother. Whether the child is born of simple biology, through modern science or comes from heart i.e. adoption, it belongs to the two people who decide to have the child. The family may request for a baby, but they can't force them. If a couple chooses to remain childless, it's not them being selfish, it's them living the life they chose. Just like the family decide their course of life on their own. But the reality is that the burden of expectations is forced on every child. Until they study, they are nagged for marks; when they get good results, they are nagged to get a job; once they get a decent job, they are nagged to get married; once married, they are nagged to get pregnant; after one child, the nagging starts for another child; then the nagging moves in to the children and their life. We have to as a society stop telling people how to live their life and live our own. Have expectations for our own life, make a goal and achieve them. But stop making goalposts for other people.P.S - Motherhood changes a woman and motherhood changes her priorities but yes, as a woman, who has seen the world (that people like IShwari will never see), I know with great certainty that motherhood alone does not define a woman. But that is me...and qhite a few of us on the forum. But lets try and convince the traditionalists and all those women facing infertility problems that motherhood is not the be all and end all. It'll be in vain. The exact reason why Sona will be broken when she comes to know the news... Coz when someone chooses not to have a child it is different versus a woman who cannot have a child - I totally agree with you that a woman is much more than a womb. Sona wants to be a mother and she may not be able to. That is extremely heartbreaking. But you know what is more devastating? That she will loose all these glimpse of heaven in terms of receiving everyone's love, respect and care and losing that when she fails to meet their expectations. That is a more devastating news than just infertility, it's letting down the people who should love her anyway, baby or no baby. That is what I know might make her give in to Ishwari's blackmail/leave Dev.PPS - Did you notice how shocked Dev was to see his mother's behaviour with Sona? Doesn't it speak volumes about his awareness of his mother's unacceptance of Sona until now despite all his protests to the contrary earlier? Finally, Dev is allowed to emerge from a the false cocoon he was wrapped in and I for one love that. Of course, now the Cvs have decided to dumb down Sona instead. It seems, CVs don't know how to create drama realistically without dumbing down characters.- I always had an idea that Dev knew everything that was going on, he just chose not to see and acknowledge it for fear of having to believe his mother is not as Goddess like person as he had been led to believe. That is consistent with his characteristic. He'd rather live in fool's paradise than face reality as his constant lies/hiding the truth reveals. I think today he could acknowledge the truth because he thought that what worried him about his mother is no longer relevant and his mother has accepted Sonakshi. He didn't know that the acceptance came with strings attached.
