The only thought that is disturbing me..

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Ever since I saw the episode, only one thought has been disturbing me
"How could Shaheer have real tears in his eyes during this speech"
I am wondering since an hour and I still cannot figure out.
The speech was the most fake, regressive and un-emotional use of words I have ever heard.
I felt zilch emotions during and after it. Did you feel the same?
I am honestly bored with Ishwari-Dev now. Want to mute most of their parts.
I don't even remember most of It now but it made it look like being a mother is the only sacred achievement of womankind. That you are nothing if you aren't a mother yet when a child grows up he forgets his mother. Mothers are born to suffer. They are the victims of wrath of destiny.

I am sure we have many mothers here and many daughters and sons who love their mothers eternally, The bond between a child and his/her cannot be explained in words yet this attempt tried that and actually turned out to be insulting to the beauty of how it actually is.

Ishwari saying "Jisne janm nahi diya hai usse kaise samaj ayega" "uske liye to mumma's boy rahega"
Was a taunt. No emotions attached. Clearly indicating how much Sonakshi will have to bear with only because she cannot be a mother.🤢 For Ishwari, being a mother is an ultimate achievement for womankind rest everything is secondary. I wonder would she have the same approach had her husband been alive? Had her parents been alive?
And what was with the taunts of Kaushalya and Ram ji?
Tell me just one moment when Dev abandoned you? Forgot you ? Tried to be happy without including you?
It was always about You!
Still this woman has the guts to emotionally blackmail the child that "You dare not forget me because I am the epitome of sacrifice and goodness. You owe me big time"
Ah! And yes, apparently this mother, who cherishes motherhood doesn't even mention or even look at her other three children!
How is that even possible. My mother always said that the children are like two eyes, you cannot choose which one is dearer to you. How is Ishwari so partial and the daughters okay with it?.
I was equally irritated with Dev today. I know he didn't do anything wrong today but just the fact that he is so supportive and equa encouraging for his mother irks me a lot. He literally roams around disillusioned these days, like a lost cow, with no decisions and thoughts of his own.
I don't relate this Dev to the sauve and smart Devrat Dixit who was ambitious and sharp to achieve and get whatever he wants. This Dev is actually an eight year old.
CVs you better give some character strength to Dev, it is quite bothersome now.
And great , One icecream and the guy is already shivering with fever!👏 Don't worry bay, Mumma is always there for you😳 Your wife can keep sulking and die of guilt and your ignorance.

P.S loved Bijoy Bose today😆🤗
P.P.S Please dont mind if my words are way to harsh today. I am angry and badly need to vent out😆
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Perfect description. Speech felt just some words n felt fake n just to prove a point. I felt the scene where Asha feels bad was way too emotional. It added to the many regressive things being promoted in the show - favour of male child, no respect for wife's family, no love for girl child, DIL shud never be included in family, insulting people with good intentions in the name of customs.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Maybe he was crying about how their characters has been reduced too😆😆jokes apart this is what I was feeling if you will will listen carefully without being emotional and seeing tears of ishwari and dev .you will see what bullshit she was saying 😆 all others are happily hugging and smiling😆
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Posted: 8 years ago
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The tears in the heroes eyes after listening to the speech which says being a mother is what defines a woman? am i hearing it right? is this real? if it is I have no words and it is indeed disturbing
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: randommusings

Perfect description. Speech felt just some words n felt fake n just to prove a point. I felt the scene where Asha feels bad was way too emotional. It added to the many regressive things being promoted in the show - favour of male child, no respect for wife's family, no love for girl child, DIL shud never be included in family, insulting people with good intentions in the name of customs.

The speech was very regressive but I hope they show some things in correcting this wrong doings and don't dump them in the name of reality. 😕
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Considering how many mothers took offence to that speech, just shows how fake and regressive that speech was.

Really? The person who gave birth don't understand what being a mother means? Then why give example of Yasoda and Krishna?

And Ishwari has four kids, but the rest of the three might as well be invisible, imaginary children based on the attention she gives them.

This is not motherhood, it's fixation.

I can bet you Ishwari is going to use it on Sona during infertility track.


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Posted: 8 years ago
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Still need to fathom the courage to watch the episode.. Perhaps Shaheer was thinking about his own mother who is potentially not partial
Or may be a marketing ploy
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Awesum post saumiee
Loved bijoy today ...
Ishwari's speech was emotional reminder to dev and taunt to sona ..
Sona ll have very hard tym wid taunts n all wenever infertility issue comes up
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I was thinking the same exact thing. How the hell did shaheer cry on hearing this speech? I guess he just cried for supriyaji's acting and he felt bad that she has to potray sucha regressive character.
The speech was so full of BS. In my opinion, it only made way for the infertility track.
Dev realllyyy needs to man up yaar. I can't bear to look at him these days. I was watching old episodes today, and man the way he handled the whole Neal thing.. he was so smart, sarcastic and still managed to convince us that he's lost on the idea of love. That's the Dev Dixit I want to see.
I think the makers are just running in circles. Why do they want to repeat each and everything that has happened before. It was cute that they repeated the first meet fight. Repeating Dev's illness is just not needed right now. Are they running out of plot points? Here's a suggestion - why not try and close the points that are already opened and are completely haywire right now. For eg: Neha ranveer issue, prenup, infertility, Vicky elena, Sona's business venture, the gift that's lying unopened in dev's cupboard, pending honeymoon, Dev actually fulfilling atleast one promise that he makes to sona, mami burning her house down. I can go on but I guess you get the gist.
I like that the Sonakshi we know is making a steady comeback.
Lastly, the Hum sath sath hai hug didn't click with me at all.
Edited by Malvika07 - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Saumiee please don't feel bad as I am gonna share a different opinion here . I would like to say it was a mother talking about her experience on motherhood .She said being the mother is the ultimate satisfaction for every women but she was talking from her experience and she did not mock women who can never be a mother.She was talking about herself here .She spoke about her experience of becoming a mother for the first time and the changes that brought in her life .She said once a women becomes a mother her first priority will be her kids .Isnt it true ? Few days back Sona dadi said the same about Asha as well .She said how a mother when tensed will not think of anything but her children .She is mother first then a Bahu

She is not a bad mother .She is insecure about Dev's love and that has led her to making some mistakes in life.She was the one begging Sona to marry Dev .She wanted to give Dev what he wanted and for that she could go to any extend even forget her self respect .Only a mother can do that .Lets not forget that she is Dev's mother not Sona's so expecting her to treat Sona as her daughter is not possible at this stage .The bond between a DIL and Mil will grow with time ,it cannot happen the day her son marries .

When she said about mama's boy she meant only a mother will know the dynamics between mother and child .Its like saying "Jab tum Maa banogi tum samjogi" .We have seen Asha using the same dialogue .Some maybe feel it was a taunt but for me it was just a way to convey her message that calling him mama's boy hurts her .Each it's own so won't force my opinion on anyone .

Coming to the taunt , I have the same rule for Ishwari ,RRand Bijoy .If Ishwari/RR was wrong in openly taunting Sona then so was Bijoy .Yes Dev made a mistake but being a elder person he could have handled the situation maturely .Taunting him when Ria's family memebers were present was not needed .Making a tamasha was uncalled for .Yes you are hurt but let's not forget that there will be a time when his daughter can make mistake (had made mistakes too ) but as a father you will not appreciate if they taunt your daughter openly .I know I am the minority here as many would disagree .

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