Just Too much Sonakshi contd.Edited. - Page 5

Originally posted by: yyy

Edited by ltelidevara - 8 years ago

Totally agree with you. It is absolutely fine for a husband and wife to share the household chores but with some consideration. If they both go to work, work timing is by and largepredictable and have no other support system at home, yes, the work has to be appropriately shared. There is no second thought about it. But when her husband is such a busy person who has to run a company, who cannot obviously stick to a routine, I am sorry; I don't understand why Sona is not considerate about him.

Till now i don't understand what is wrong in taking help from a mother in law who is ready to help in taking care of house hold routines. In fact, elderly people feel very comfortable and important by taking responsibility of such small works. What do we really mean by dependence and independence? In our family, all of us share the work according to what comes easily and naturally for each person. Thus, some of the tasks are taken care by my MIL. When she is not at home, we are still able to deal with those works also. It is not dependency; rather it is a team work. Even if it has to be termed as dependency, what is wrong in being dependent on your own people? Not everyone is all that lucky; just thank God and enjoy your good fortune. There is absolutely no need to feel guilty about it. In my personal opinion, it is more important to be together as one family where everyone feels inclusive irrespective of age and gender than being independent. This is the beauty of joint family system. This suggestion also applies to those who are reluctant to include the Bahu even in important discussions.

In the wardrobe maintenance case, may be Ishwari felt that as her son goes to work to earn for the bread and butter of the family, she would take care of household works to share the load. This is absolutely fine, right? For that matter even Sona did not even know to make a sandwich for a guest who happened to come home in the absence of her mother. So what? Just like she didn't have the inclination to learn to make even minimal food, Dev didn't have any inclination to learn to fold his clothes or arrange his cupboard. Big deal!! When situation demands, people learn the necessary things naturally!!!

I have my own soft corner for Sona and on certain occasions felt irritated with Ishwari but in this particular scenario, I felt Sona was just trying to take control over Dev and looked like a mellowed down version of Ishwari. Sometimes, before we blame a liar, we should also think if the fellow lied just like that or by any chance we had induced any fear in his/her mind that forced the person to lie and escape the situation.

Originally posted by: Gita_N

Totally agree with you. It is absolutely fine for a husband and wife to share the household chores but with some consideration. If they both go to work, work timing is by and largepredictable and have no other support system at home, yes, the work has to be appropriately shared. There is no second thought about it. But when her husband is such a busy person who has to run a company, who cannot obviously stick to a routine, I am sorry; I don't understand why Sona is not considerate about him.

@ Yes that is the problem. She intentionally is ignoring Dev's work pressures,and time constraints.She is inconsiderate.

Till now i don't understand what is wrong in taking help from a mother in law who is ready to help in taking care of house hold routines. In fact, elderly people feel very comfortable and important by taking responsibility of such small works. What do we really mean by dependence and independence? In our family, all of us share the work according to what comes easily and naturally for each person. Thus, some of the tasks are taken care by my MIL. When she is not at home, we are still able to deal with those works also. It is not dependency; rather it is a team work. Even if it has to be termed as dependency, what is wrong in being dependent on your own people? Not everyone is all that lucky; just thank God and enjoy your good fortune. There is absolutely no need to feel guilty about it. In my personal opinion, it is more important to be together as one family where everyone feels inclusive irrespective of age and gender than being independent. This is the beauty of joint family system. This suggestion also applies to those who are reluctant to include the Bahu even in important discussions.

@ Thank God still I find people like you who realise the contribution of elders in our day to day busy life.Frankly speaking I wouldn't have managed my career,my daughter and my home without my MIL .And I am not guilty of that.

In the wardrobe maintenance case, may be Ishwari felt that as her son goes to work to earn for the bread and butter of the family, she would take care of household works to share the load. This is absolutely fine, right? For that matter even Sona did not even know to make a sandwich for a guest who happened to come home in the absence of her mother. So what? Just like she didn't have the inclination to learn to make even minimal food, Dev didn't have any inclination to learn to fold his clothes or arrange his cupboard. Big deal!! When situation demands, people learn the necessary things naturally!!!

@ Iswari is not at fault in looking after Dev's needs. if Dev is not interested in doing such things Kaun sa Pahad toot pada?

If Sona wants she can take over otherwise Iswari will continue.

I have my own soft corner for Sona and on certain occasions felt irritated with Ishwari but in this particular scenario, I felt Sona was just trying to take control over Dev and looked like a mellowed down version of Ishwari. Sometimes, before we blame a liar, we should also think if the fellow lied just like that or by any chance we had induced any fear in his/her mind that forced the person to lie and escape the situation.

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

Yes. Sona slowly is turning into a replica of Iswari.If Dev lied Sona is at fault. Not Dev.

Thanks for looking at the picture perfectly.

Originally posted by: pkbdas61

I would really like to hear what is it that Dev has done for Sona, i mean of all the promises he made to her.. He has not even taken her on a honeymoon yet..which looks like it will now never happen.

Originally posted by: dhank

ohh I so agree with ur topic TOO MUCH👏...I was gona make d same thing..u did d needful...she is being unnecessarily bossy..

its kiddish ghar ka kaaam I mean its ok..he cannot b so dependent on maa...but thoda bahut chalta h..she wants him to iron as well??really????😲

Originally posted by: thedramaqueen

Today everything was Too Much except one thing - Patch up... On a scale of 1-10 if the previous ones were a 2 today we got a 4.. Getting there.

Its only his 28th/29th birthday folks. Why are you getting so excited? Is it because its his first birthday in Ishwari Niwas? Is it because its his first birthday after getting married? Is it because its his first birthday where he is actually looking forward to celebrating it? Is it because its his first birthday where someone is actually excited for him and not just for themselves(Ishwari celebrates the day she became a mother not the day Dev was born... )? Too Much

Sona, everyone in your house knows but no one at your inlaws'... Is it because you are truely fed up of Ishwari Niwasees? Is it because you cant take your Sister in law in confidence even? Is it because you are feeling insecure? Is it because you naively think that sharing your husband with everyone in day time means they are sensible enough to leave the lovebirds alone at night? Too Much

Mami, kya observation hai... Why is it that you are the only one who can read people's minds? Why is it that you are the only one who is at the right time at the right place? why is it that you have no idea where your son is while his special cousin's birthday is being celebrated? Too Much

Dev, you have changed because now you want to celebrate your birthday and in the past you didnt want to? you have changed because today you again said an oxymoron - "hum ab kabhi nahi ladenge" - not possible b'day boy... Too much

Ishwari - Raat ke 10 baje bahu ka ataa pataa nahi hai... koi baat nahi... Delhi is a very safe city.. Too much

Neha - haan bhabhi ko kyun involve karenge... Too much

In my opinion, one thing that wasnt too much today was the way Sonakshi dealt with her mother in law without any assistance from her husband. Well done. You made it clear that you now share this room with her son and need some space. I hope the message was loud and clear. Knowing the story makers, this topic is now closed.

PS: Sona, not done. Please talk to Elena