Just Too much Sonakshi contd.Edited. - Page 3

Originally posted by: pkbdas61

I would really like to hear what is it that Dev has done for Sona, i mean of all the promises he made to her.. He has not even taken her on a honeymoon yet..which looks like it will now never happen.

Originally posted by: Shaavi

@BOLD. The arranging of cupboard was exactly that and nothing else. Sonakshi never wanted Dev to iron his clothes or arrange them in the cupboard. All she wanted was Dev to ask Sonakshi for those things and not his mom. She wanted him to come to her. She wanted to feel that Dev needed her too. That he remembered her.

Sonakshi wanted to Dev to feel this and did not want to have to spell it out for him. She wants him to give her place as his wife, to mean something to him and she wants Dev to show it to her without her having to tell that directly to him.

Till date Sonakshi has surprised Dev with resort date, with the scooty ride and coffee date, now the birthday date, but Dev has not done anything special to Sona nor has he made any effort for her to feel like he values her in his life anymore.

Every one likes to feel wanted/needed. It is not just with a spouse. It with every relationship, be it siblings or parents and child or even friends. And this is what Sonakshi is looking for.

Originally posted by: gmgi

Lakshmi, I have always tried to understand your perspective but have never been successful. Now I have accepted that may be I never will. 😳

Originally posted by: Shilky88

Since you are an ardent Dev Dixit fan.

I suggest you correct 'dikSHIT' to 'Dixit' so that we know this post is not written with sarcasm and is not meant to be taken in a fun way.

If you chose to take Sona's side, for a change, then ignore my above suggestions!

To your post... I quiet agree that Dev Dixit, the Business tycoon, is not supposed to do household chores.

But there are two things that I certainly wanna add here

a) The issue is not addressed properly -- I have a strong feeling that there is much more to it then Dev being self -dependent and all...Ishu barging into DevSona room with one reason or another is something that Sona needs to express.

b) Dev hiding stuffs from Sona (stuffs concerning her and against her wishes) teaming up with his mom., for whatsoever reason, is not correct.

Originally posted by: randomramblings

@Shaavi sorry to say this , Dev did try to things for sona (to prove that he values her) even before she became his girlfriend.

1. Dont forget the great Orange colour shirt . he tried it out and also had taken pride that he had changed for the better.

2. Gifts - he is never a one to buy gifts keeping in view the personal choices of the person receiving it. remember nikki says, he presented a calculator for her birthday, but his first give for Sona was ear rings, but unfortunately they never reached her:-(

3. Gajra , roses ., puchka...

@ Dev always tried and did his best like you mentioned

The problem here is for Dev Sona is an integral part of his life and he does not feel the need to prove it to her. same goes with ishwari, she is an important part in his life, he proves it only when tested . otherwise he remains neutral.

@ true.

in this instance also, as i said, Sona gave him a target( she knew his shortcomings) but never really tired to equip him to face the target. so the first option he has who knows his shortcomings perfectly is his mother, so he ran to her.

@ Quite natural for him to do so.

Its a natural reaction of any of us, when faced with an uphill task, we run to our most closest person for help.

@ Exactly.

if you can recollect, when his mother was giving him a hard time with chula thing, the first person he ran to asking for solution was sona.

here sona was putting him to task, so he ran to his mom. that's his nature and as he said, Sona needs to deal with it.

@ Just perfectly explained. Agree with you.

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

@ PKB Das

Please go through the list given by yyy in her post Standing Up. You will definitely know what Dev did for Sona.

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

Great going Sonakshi. Agreed for once I thought post marriage she did the right thing by speaking her heart out to him and so did he...in true sense their marriage just started yesterday. One should not hide their feelings to the spouse that creates even more problems and when you hide your dislikes /dis-comfort/ frustrations and irritations etc to your spouse that shows you are not confident of him/her and do not trust the relationship. Share all your emotions openly. After all that is why you have a companion in ur life...if you cant then that marriage is not worth it.

You should have married Ritwick who will have the whole life time to follow your instructions to the T. Nahhh ...madam would have got bored with him..and he cant match her vigor in character ...she needs someone like Dev who is equally strong and adamant..who will keep her grounded too...remember the scene in which he broke her phone and when he goes to give her new one what he says"kisi ne mujse kaha ki ap mere jitna zidhi hai " Why did you marry a business Tycoon whose daily schedule demands so much both physically and mentally?

She didnt marry the business tycoon...she married her Dev a man she is head over heals in love with . Its not his business tycoon image that she fell for ...its his compassionate yet rude character ..his love for his family...his struggles ...his journey from nothing to something big...and somewhere deep down in her heart she saw her characters mirror image in him...

The meetings,conferences,deal fixings ... What not he will have that calls for his presence and I am sure Dev belongs to that category .

How could you even think to ask him do such things like have you lost your sensibility?

You want him to iron his clothes and burn his hand?

Why not ?? why cant a wife ask her husband to do household chores...just because he earns more doesnt mean that he shouldnt participate in the household activity...its a give and take ...the day he has more work at office she should do more at home ...and when she has more patients at the hospital he should do more work at home...if he comes home first then he puts the tea...if she comes home first she puts the tea...one washes the plate the other wipes it dry...isnt that how it should be?? Times have changed...we should stop looking at wife as slave and men as ATM machines...balance is required and is the need of the hour.

Many people thought that Sonakshi just asked him to arrange the ironed clothes.It is not true.

The way Dev still felt bad for his lie shows how noble he is and how much he love her.

Yes he ought to feel guilty because he lied ...and his lie is because its all new to him and didnt want to hurt her ...all he had to say initially was to ask her help and that slowly he will change and accommodate her thoughts...but he needs time...which he told when they fought and good , that he did.

Dev Dikshit who can opt for another shirt went to his mother and got his work done.

Yes he could have but if he did then she would have asked why he didnt clean and ...would have got caught red handed which again means hurting her

How scared he is of Sonakshi that shows us.I pity you Dev, Kaha phas Gaya tu.

Yes he is trapped in her love and so is she ...its fear of loosing your love that is making them behave like this...happens especially with couples in the initial stage of their marriage when they are living in a joint family.

The way Sona argued certainly shows how adamant she is to make Dev do her wish.

She says Dev should have told her in the begining itself rather than going to his mother.

Dev should have made it clear even I feel but I am not sure Sonakshi will leave it there.

On one hand she says he should be independent. On the other hand she says he should not call his mother but if he asked she would have helped. I feel she is not sure what she wants from him.

If she wants him to do such things she should have understood he can not do

If her problem is with Iswari then she herself should have done his work.

Oh she was adament ...and she has the right to be...its the birth rt of every wife to nag...🤣 woh shadhi bhi kya if a wife doesnt nag her husband...😆😉😳...and imagine if she had tears flowing out of her eyes...😉...then I would say CVs showed reality ...🤣jokes apart.. her MIL and GKBs attitude towards her is making her insecure..the point is not about Dev doing things by himself...the point is he will/should also listen to what she says ..she wants to show the right she has on him...she wants to connect with him because his mom keeps telling her that she knows him better than Sona and that they are one unit.

Sona needs to understand that his mom knows Dev ONLY AS A SON and not husband..the privilege of knowing Dev as a man is ONLY hers !!But to understand this it will take time in a marriage...years...😉

Sorry Dev your mornings are getting spoiled by your too intelligent wife and you have to leave for work with a disturbed mind.

Do you think so ?? That is, mornings are spoiled because of her...I doubt ...one day with out seeing her face in the morning will make him loose his day...he would even think...its ok to fight but at least she is around...

There are many posts saying Dev doesn't deserve Sona but I say Sonakshi doesn't deserve ,the noble,good at heart and lovable Dev Dikshit.

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

My dear, marriage is not abt who is right or wrong ...there is no concept of perfect husband or wife or marriage...its more like a train...an engine and bogie...one person cant be the engine always ...sometimes the husband takes the role of an engine and wife follows...and sometimes wife takes the role of an engine and husband follows...it all depends on the strength and weakness of couple.

Regarding disagreements ...it should be there ...after all marriage is also about living with your loved ones flaws too...we should be able to speak to our spouse openly with out any inhibitions..we should be able to express all our emotions with out fear of him or her walking out of the relationship...

I really liked yesterdays episode because for the first time as a husband and wife they fought genuinely...😆👏with out that fear ...which was good ...needed in a relationship...atleast now they know what to expect...there will be many more...infact bigger ones ...there can be separations too...but what matters is they dont hate each other !! and that is marriage !!