Devs behavior Towards Sona - Page 2

Lovely post dear 👏 agree wid u

dev going to get sona back instead of ishwari saying dat she sent sona to stay for few daz says a lot ...dev can never say ishwari to stay out of it ...if he gets sona back dis tym next tym ishwari wont try to send her

Dev not being able to convert his 'me' thought process to 'we' thought process by having a clear discussion with Sona is complicating the issue everytime.

Whenever they say/do something,it's either Dev's POV or Sona's POV but not a common POV which is the first basic step towards a successful married life.
A couple must have a mutual agreement and even if they don't agree then they must atleast convincingly agree to disagree with each other.

Here the couple totally seem to ignore each other in terms of building a mutual understanding.
They are just transitioning from one issue to another by ending each issue on romantic patch up note without actually dealing with the main issue.

I guess DevSona needs to work on their basic Couple goals first before they get into family dynamics that involves fitting other people of your family in your relationship.

If they don't act on it now then their relationship will remain vulnerable and prone to external factors like Ishwari,Neha ,GKB etc as ever before.

I will not blame Sona as much as I blame Dev for this.
She made her efforts and failed miserably due to Dev's reluctance..
But after all that she is still not letting a third person question their understanding.
I loved how Sona took a stand for her relationship when Neha questioned their understanding and mutual agreement.

Dev on the other hand ,one incident after other, is giving away his relationship in the hands of these ladies by not signaling them there is infact a thick and clear line beyond which nobody is allowed to control or say stuffs in their relationship.

High time for Dev to act now!!

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

Ishwari told Dev 3 weeks back - From now on will you take every decision for your family after discussing with your wife ?

Today Dev told Sona - I will not take every decision for my family after discussing with you.

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Ishwari told Sona - You keep yourself out of Neha's matters.

Dev told Sona - You keep yourself out of Neha's matters.

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Ishwari told Sona - You were not part of our dark past, so you won't understand.

Dev told Sona - You were not part of our dark past, so you won't understand.

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Ishwari told Dev - I want my bahu back. Go get Sona shoo 👏

Dev told Sona - I want Sonakshi back. Come come with me shoo 🤗

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Devakshi relationship has been dead for quite a while by now. It's Ishwari-Sona's relationship which Dev-Sona have been living for quite sometime now. Hope Dev realizes that Sona is MARRIED to him. The primary responsibility of Sona in Dixit House is HIS. That he is supposed to know Sona the best, and his family is supposed to know Sona THROUGH him. If he behaves like Ishwari to Sona, I dont know what complications will be there in near future. 😵

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

Yes !! He loves her . She is like oxygen for him. He needs her to stay alive and enjoy life. She is also the one who will help him to see the world thru "PINK GLASSES". But what about Sona? Is he able to accept her completely into his life. When it comes to solving problem at his home and Sona trying to help, he alienates her saying that she will never understand the bonding betwn him and his family.

I know it takes time for a couple to adjust to each other post marriage and understand each other's family. Yesterday when Dev decided to go and pick Sona , his mom says she is the one who sent Sona home for Bhai dhooj. Dev's reaction is what scared me . He did question his mom politely and even emphasized on the fact that Sona is a part of their family...but I felt when his mom said she has allowed Sona to stay at her parents house for few more days after Bhai Dhooj, he should have objected to it . He should have made it very clear that when it comes to his wife there are certain things that he will decide. He again behaved like the Dev during the break up track days!!

I know he has changed a lot but I feel he is still allowing Ishwari to take decision for the two of them ...or let me rephrase it ...his behavior and attitude will allow Ishwari to manipulate the situation and spoil their relationship.

Yesterday we did see him saying it loud that she is his wife and a part of his family, though his actions were far from what he spoke. I am glad at least he said it aloud. Till this time, she was only a part of him and not his family. Now he has slowly started getting used to the idea of her not only being a part of him but also his family. And probably that is the reason why he told his mom the same.

But what he needs to understand is until and unless he gives her that position in his life and establish the same in front of his family, his family is going to treat her as an outsider. He has to not ONLY feel but also behave in such a way that ppl see Sona as his family...

If he doesnt make changes to his attitude , his mom and sis will literally spoil their relationship. Today Ishwari being able to keep Sona away from him was an example...I felt more of trailer to the actual separation that might come up in future track

Let us hope he will soon realize this and behave accordingly.