Ishwari is not as wrong as she is made out to be!

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Hari73

@Hari73

Rocker

Posted: 8 years ago

#31

I am kind of hating ishwari character..

I don't know why I cannot sympathise.. We all know every parent go thru difficulties in bringing up their children assuming what difficulties they faced should not be faced by children. so every mother or father wants to keep their children out of their difficulties. here She keeps on reminding Dev about difficult days and keeps on claiming Dev got more love so he has to pay for it...which mother claims like that..did Dev asked her to love him more.. It is like punishment for Dev to be her son.

Also makers have shown her greedy and she wants power in the house. They have shown her as she is compiting with sona. makers are showing her in negative way...It is not us who assuming eshwari is bad.

Just imagine, instead of sending or trying send sona to sleep..and if they had shown us she is herself in the room suffering, whole forum would have been cried buckets for her.

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Destiny_015

@Destiny_015

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

#32

Ishwari does get special care. Dev and Sonakshi do as much for Ishwari. But Ishwari's insecurities and paranoia over non existent issues always takes over whatever they do. For example she royally ignored yesterday how Dev came to her to give time but focused on how he would be going to honeymoon leaving her. And the best part this is not like the first time Dev will be going out leaving her. Her problem lies cause its Sona. That is noway a genuine insecurity of a mother and which is acceptable. Personally yes , its kinda low for them going on a honeymoon when there is a crisis with his own sister in the house , but Ishwari was not upset cause Dev overlooked Neha's condition. Her reasons are different the one we saw yesterday but she will give out a different theory to fit in the case. Neha about whom she hasn't shown concern till now. Outsiders make people feel guilty, but Ishwari doesnt leave one resort on piling up the already burdened shoulders of Dev. Her approach is extremely wrong here. Talk maybe instead of lashing out. Ishwari has failed in many ways as a mother. She is a mother to Dev but not the girls my any means. Neha left her family and Ishwari is as laid back possible and her worry for Neha rises only when Dev is trying to get some deserved happiness in his kitty. Yes its Dev's duty to find a solution on it , but before that its Ishwari's. Which she didnt bother about till now. About DevAkshi's flaws till now I didn't find any except for the one yesterday where they told Ishwari to go and sleep for dinner. A mother's duty doesn't end completely with new bonds. I think both could have stayed and have that small daily routine time. No need of taking these small happiness for Ishwari. It leads her to getting paranoid more.
The sad thing is till today Ishwari still not for once has thought and understood where Dev's happiness lies , she got him married to Sona but not caue she is his happiness. For her his happiness concerns only her. And the simple fact that Dev deserves his share of happiness. For the first time Dev wanted and needed something for himself. Sonakshi. Tries to find his little moments of happiness with her. But unfortunately Ishwari everytime has shunned him down for thinking about himself which are in reality her insecurities. After working doing everything to support his family since childhood. The guy gets blamed for getting carried away in trying to find his moments of solace. Ishwari can't take in the fact someone is as important to him as her in his life. That's a real sad thing. And about the last line of noone caring about mother's PoV. There are loads of mothers in the forum, and they most of the time have a different story to tell for Ishwari. Do they also don't know about "mother's feel". Ishwari is a very flawed mother and she has miles to cross for redeeming them.

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Shaun

@Jade0001

Inactive

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

#33

Interesting discussions

For me a mothers place her well been would matter to me the most

and i do think that Dev respects his mother a lot does everything she says

she maybe feeling insecure that her son is now married and that is fine to a certain level but Ishwari as a mother gets happy that her son sleeps on the sofa normally a mother will directly approach her DIL ask her if she fought with her husband but here Ishwari gets happy when Dev and Sona don't spend alone time for me that's just wrong

Neha had chosen her lifestyle with Ranveer knowing that he has a poorer lifestyle compared to her brother's lifestyle still she felt love would conquere all , there was a time when Dev also tried supplying comforts to Neha and Ranveer did not approve of it , Neha leaving her marriage because her husband has a lower income compared to Sona's husband that is very wrong now she gets jealous and hurt that the newly weds want time away

Dev and Sonakshi had to go through pain just to be together again now if they both seem selfish to spend time away from the disturbing family how is it Dev and Sona's fault .

Neha has been at home is it not the duty of a mother to sit her child down talk to her and advice her about her marriage but Ishwari is been a coward in this regard she wants to concentrate more on Dev and Sona

she can be possessive about her son its her son but she is been nasty by trying to take her son's happiness away from him now that is wrong

NB: Ishwari was one character that i always liked and admired but she slowly turned into cunning person

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suma

@suma74

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

#34

Please stop talking about Ishwari.

Only Dev and Sona please, IGNORE ISHWARI

Things which you dont like should be avoided/ignored see only POSITIVE/HAPPINESS/GOOD THINGS ONLY FORUMIANS

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ltelidevara

@ltelidevara

Sparkler

+ 8

Posted: 8 years ago

#35

Originally posted by: suma74
Please stop talking about Ishwari.
Only Dev and Sona please, IGNORE ISHWARI

Things which you dont like should be avoided/ignored see only POSITIVE/HAPPINESS/GOOD THINGS ONLY FORUMIANS

. Iswari is good for me. TM felt for her and made the post. It is not Dev and Sona for me atleast. I respect Iswari. Since you said Forum members,I am included in it and I don't want to be told not to discuss about Iswari. Note the point.

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OmNaMaSteOm

@OmNaMaSteOm

Sparkler

+ 4

Posted: 8 years ago

#36

Originally posted by: suma74
Please stop talking about Ishwari.
Only Dev and Sona please, IGNORE ISHWARI

Things which you dont like should be avoided/ignored see only POSITIVE/HAPPINESS/GOOD THINGS ONLY FORUMIANS

Life entails good and bad, humans want only good stuff, to respect the good we have bad stuff as simple as that. Ignoring the negative or grey shades does not make them disappear, rather recur more often, escaping is no solution!

Don't get stuck at the problem stage, think of the solution stage or prevention stage.

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CoffeeCake

@CoffeeCake

Sparkler

+ 5

Posted: 8 years ago

#37

You should post in this forum

Unlike other forums where holy couples are worshiped and people get personal if you say something against their holy pair, here people are quite friendly. they attack the post, not the poster

Coming to Ishwari, she's beyond abnormal. Dont want your son to consulate marriage falls in which category of extra care? She's acting like sona is her sautan, not bahu. Even in saas bahu soaps where they fight like Tom nd jerry saas have no issue with physical relationship between beta bahu.

If she needs extra care, she should speak about it, say loudly like 'Dev I dont want you to sleep with sona' whats the point of fake fainting and chakkar everytime? People who need extra care wont stoop to the level of planning and plotting.

Coming to Neha. There's o issue at all. All she wants is luxurious life which Ranveer is not ready to take from Dev. One of them have to compromise and none will do that. More than Dev-Sona, Ishwari should be concern about her daughter. But she's busy with her plotting how to keep sona away from Dev, dhaughter jaaye bhaad mein. if Neha is her main problem, she should say this clearly that I dont want you people to go because of Neha. Dev would never say no. What's the point of emotional blackmail ?

Edited by Divine-Pearl - 8 years ago

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ltelidevara

@ltelidevara

Sparkler

+ 8

Posted: 8 years ago

#38

Originally posted by: -SparklingVibz-
That is really sweet of you.
I have been so sad seeing the way people make fun and mock Ishwari on this forum, they even disrespect the relationship so much that they doubt why Ishwari wont let Devakshi get physical in such a disgusting manner.

You know we all are of that age that we relate to Dev or Sonakshi more, maybe some big women would relate to Ishwari.

I know what a mother means, she has the most precious love for you. You wife may leave you, but your mother will never. It's heartbreaking to see that at this age she is being so tormented mentally that she can't even sleep.

Golden words. Yes Iswari is still trying to cope up with the changes in her life.

She needs support and understanding. Especially from Dev.

But I doubt the C Vs as they failed miserably in tackling this sensitive issue with conviction. They are following the typical Saas Bahu way .

A mother can not be replaced. That is her speciality.I hope Iswari will get mental peace and happiness.

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WeRockTheWorld

@WeRockTheWorld

Sparkler

+ 6

Posted: 8 years ago

#39

No one is wrong from their perspective because all are human and NOT god!!

Ishwari - she thinks she has given everything to her kids and especially to her son . Her son is her emotional support and has always been there for her from the time she lost her husband. She has put in all her effort to bring him up ...even by taking away her 2nd ones happiness so that he is brought up fine and become the "financial" backbone of the family

Did she succeed - yes !! came out with flying colours...her investment in her son didnt go waste. She and her daughters and living on the returns that she invested years back. She not investing much on the second one was in a way good..Neha always had problems with life and she will continue to have . So putting effort on her was never a good idea for Ishwari and hence she assigned duties which she thought Neha would be able to do...that is to take care of younger sisters

Dev - As he grew up ...its an instinct of every individual to find a mate...is that wrong ?? Just because he lost his dad when very young and his mom bought him up ...should he not enjoy conjugal happiness ? And does that conjugal happiness "time " have to be decided by his mom and his sisters. What fault is it of his that his sister didnt want to adjust at her in laws place??

Ishwari, Dev , Neha are all complaining abt Ranveer...so how fair are all these ppl to Dev's wife and fulfilling Sona's wishes??

Should Dev ONLY consider his mom and sisters when he takes decisions because they are his family...now my question is ...so a wife is not his family ?? Didnt she leave her house and everything that was hers to be a part of him and his house hold ??? And Still he is not able to see her as a part of his family ??

Sona and Neha - Sona being selfish in deciding HM ..because Dev' s sister has fought with her husband and came home. She is not happy at her in laws place as she has to adjust. Sona needs to be thoughtful of Neha and her pain...When Neha has gone thru the pain of her husband and family not fulfilling her wishes...how can she take away joy of Sona ?? Shouldnt Neha be understanding Sona better than the others in the family after what she has gone thru??

Sona like Neha has the right to want to go for a HM ...what ever happened to her sis in law is not her fault ...every one started thinking of Neha when Sona decided to go for HM ..

For Ishwari from the beginning used Neha as a "TOOL" to achieve things from Dev. Especially when he tries to go away from her control...and probably that is why many a times he has not spoken of his inner most needs /fears/ etc..hidden a lot of things from her..

If we have to analyse each character every one is flawed and there is no perfect solution. You cant find total happiness...sometime one person's happiness can end up as other persons pain. But that is life...to bring in a balance is very difficult. And there is no perfect solution. If each had to behave and go by the rule book of life then there wont be problems to face at all...

But life is all about challenges and solutions we come up with ...and for me that is KRPKAB!!

PS: I dont have perfect answers to the questions that I have asked in my post because the answers would vary with individuals and the way they see life...also what they have had to face in life...

Edited by WeRockTheWorld - 8 years ago

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WeRockTheWorld

@WeRockTheWorld

Sparkler

+ 6

Posted: 8 years ago

#40

Originally posted by: ltelidevara
Golden words. Yes Iswari is still trying to cope up with the changes in her life.
She needs support and understanding. Especially from Dev.
But I doubt the C Vs as they failed miserably in tackling this sensitive issue with conviction. They are following the typical Saas Bahu way .
A mother can not be replaced. That is her speciality.I hope Iswari will get mental peace and happiness.

Yes a mother loves her child ...she remembers every moment of his/her growth...as children leave home , it pains her ...there is a vacant feeling in your heart...I see that every time me and my sis returns from our summer vacation...this year when I was packing to get back after the summer ...my mom came and sat next to me ...I knew what she was going thru...I see it every year ...but this time I did ask her..how she manages to adjust to this...she gave an answer that shocked me ...my love affection and respect grew for her a million times ...

I would like to share that answer...

When god blesses a child to you ...your duty is to bring up that child in the most rightful manner..teaching all social norms that you learnt...sharing experiences ...but always keep in mind god also gave this child wings...wings to fly and find its own life and nest..

You need to allow them to be who they are and give them the liberty to fly...and giving them chances to take risk and challenges...find their own experience ..

So be happy that you have bought them up well and they are living a beautiful life and was successful in making a happy nest for themselves...

After all that is what you wanted them to be... just because you bring them up doesnt mean that you should stop them flying to find their dream and life ...when you do that you are going against the essence of life...

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