Balance: Part 2 EDITED:Page 1

Yesterday I talked about Balance and its importance.

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/kuch-rang-pyar-ke-aise-bhi/4736226/balance-edited-on-oct-21

That post brought out some excellent conversation from some very intelligent point of view.

And nothing inspires and stimulates me like an open discussion with smart people.

So thank you for all your comments. I appreciate it.

Some of you made some very good points and suggestions to maintain balance. Particularly the analogy on the bus driver hit home for most of you. (It shows how many of us use public transport and how frustrating it gets).

So I got from my point of view and others, there were three solutions for the new passenger.

1. She can still jump out of the bus.

2. She can convince the bus driver why it's unfair and fight for her rights.

3. She can keep standing in hopes of beautiful scenery that was promised to her in this journey and try to divert her attention from the unfair treatment, waiting for her turn forever until the older passenger gets down.

For the bus driver, the balanced approach I suggested was, to tell his long-time passenger that he is expecting a new passenger, so please keep within her space. Now they both have to make an effort so that the new passenger feels welcome.

As well as make sure the old passenger understand her designated area, so that she doesn't approach the new passenger's area and the new passenger doesn't feel discomfort or regret her decision to board the bus in the first place.

But I think, as all of you pointed out, that balanced approach seems beyond our driver's capability.

So what could be a solution?

I think, the bus driver should inform the old passenger that he is tired of driving the bus for so long. He'd like to rest and since the new passenger has previous experience of driving her family's bus, she can take over.

The original driver can then become the assistant who fills the tank, cleans the bus and do other maintenance, just he won't drive or decide which roads they should take to reach their destination.

The older passenger won't make space for the new passenger but she will make space for the original driver because of his long and faithful service.

The new passenger then can ride in comfort in the driving seat and steer the bus the way she wants to go.

Thoughts?

Episode tied in Balance: Part 3 - https://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=4737011

Originally posted by: tia.o

Yesterday I talked about Balance and its importance.

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/kuch-rang-pyar-ke-aise-bhi/4736226/balance-edited-on-oct-21

That post brought out some excellent conversation from some very intelligent point of view.

And nothing inspires and stimulates me like an open discussion with smart people.

So thank you for all your comments. I appreciate it.

Some of you made some very good points and suggestions to maintain balance. Particularly the analogy on the bus driver hit home for most of you. (It shows how many of us use public transport and how frustrating it gets).

So I got from my point of view and others, there were three solutions for the new passenger.

1. She can still jump out of the bus.

2. She can convince the bus driver why it's unfair and fight for her rights.

3. She can keep standing in hopes of beautiful scenery that was promised to her in this journey and try to divert her attention from the unfair treatment, waiting for her turn forever until the older passenger gets down.

For the bus driver, the balanced approach I suggested was, to tell his long-time passenger that he is expecting a new passenger, so please keep within her space. Now they both have to make an effort so that the new passenger feels welcome.

As well as make sure the old passenger understand her designated area, so that she doesn't approach the new passenger's area and the new passenger doesn't feel discomfort or regret her decision to board the bus in the first place.

But I think, as all of you pointed out, that balanced approach seems beyond our driver's capability.

So what could be a solution?

I think, the bus driver should inform the old passenger that he is tired of driving the bus for so long. He'd like to rest and since the new passenger has previous experience of driving her family's bus, she can take over.

The original driver can then become the assistant who will fills the tank, cleans the bus and do other maintenance, just he won't drive or decide which roads they should take to reach their destination.

The older passenger won't make space for the new passenger but she will make space for the original driver because of his long and faithful service.

The new passenger then can ride in comfort in the driving seat and steer the bus the way she wants to go.

Thoughts?

Originally posted by: pomegranate

they say a good marriage needs communication and honesty. do dev and sonakshi have that? they lie to not only each other, but others as well.

A good marriage needs many things; honesty, communication, compatibility, respect. if those are there then love and understanding will automatically follow. it is easy to fall in love but it is also easy to fall out of love.

A relationship with dev means a lifetime of compromises, self denial, and suffocation. in reality, not women will tolerate that for too long.

Originally posted by: sia.krpkab

The original driver thinks that nobody can drive better than him; no one knows this journey and its route better than him. So he won't let the new passenger take on the driving seat - the driver has trust issues, has a superiority complex when it comes to shouldering responsibility of the drive and thinks that he and only he has the responsibility and the right to suffer on behalf of old and new passenger.

There could be another probable option - the new passenger has to convince the driver to take her in his lap and arms and drive together - the old passenger will soon get the message 😊

In other words, the new passenger (Sona) has to feed in to the emotional needs of the driver (Dev is currently emotionally manipulated and thereby deprived of the real emotional needs for himself) and showcase the true colors of life - live, love and laugh and help Dev not only in opening up and sharing his emotional turmoil but also move forward and stop clinging to the past. The stronger the bond, the less will be the driver's Obhodro-ness.

The old passenger (Ishwari) will get to see the real side of Dev with the new passenger - and will

automatically realise her folly. Even if she doesn't, she will be forced to create space out of jealousy or the Dev and Sona will make her understand sooner.

What say?

Originally posted by: dsr11

Sona should make the people on the bus realize that it is a collective responsibility to run the bus smoothly and they cannot burden one driver or the other to fulfil their whims and fancies. She needs to win more people over on the bus before she goes against the troublesome duo.

Originally posted by: AnnTaylor

I like your post as usual, Tia. You know what the only solution I see now is for the driver to drop the old passenger to one of the psychotherapist for a treatment. She is getting out of hand.