Most people use their struggle and hard time to learn life lessons... They learn from their mistakes and rejoice in their triumph for coming through tough times.
But Dixit family use their struggle and hard times like excuses for their behaviour and use them like weapons of manipulation.
They expect their every underhanded, diabolical and unethical behaviour to be excused or overlooked because they had a tough time.
Well, boo hoo.
Mother Teresa had a tough time, Swami Vivekananda had a tough time, the freedom fighters of this country had a tough time, the army in Siachin border face tough time. That doesn't excuse them going out and abuse someone or turn into a manipulating psychotic dipsh*t, pardon my language...
It seems like they are the kind of family who keep a piggy bank. Every penny they spent on their child and every affection they shower on them, they put an IOU note in the piggy bank to be collected later.
There are families who collect payment in form of dowry at the time of marriage saying that they educated their son, invested money on him, so they deserve pay back.
And there are some families who are like Shylock who want their pound of flesh.
The later is more dangerous.
At least the families that ask for dowry show they mercenary face before wedding where the girl and the family can dump them and cut their loses.
But the families that demands a quarter pound of flesh in instalment over a lifetime are the ones harder to get rid off.
The annoying part is that the debt here belongs to Dev (which in my opinion has been paid back many times over). If he wants to keep paying interest on interest, that's his prerogative (you can tell I work in Financial industry).
But if someone is serving a life sentence, that person should all intent and purpose, not get married and involve another innocent person in his life sentence.
It's like if you are sentenced to prison for life, would you marry and trap another person with you behind the bars knowing well that this person is used to freedom and independence?
How is that fair?
Now giving excuse that he is a difficult person to live with is not enough. Difficult person can be dealt with. But Dev, you are not at all difficult person. What is difficult is your situation that you happily have trapped yourself in.
You can help a difficult person overcome his challenges. No one is perfect. An alcoholic can get help from AAA, a person with anger issues can be taken to anger management course, a person who is insecure or insensitive can be taken to a psychiatrist.
But when someone intelligent (seemingly) with all their senses intact locks them into a vicious vortex of misery, that person can't be helped nor can be rescued.
To be with that person is basically, your own life ruined in that same vortex.
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