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Posted: 8 years ago
#21
I have to agree with you, she should have backed off when he asked her for space. This fight reminded me of the accident episode where she admits to Dev that he does a good job of handling his family. She needs to be reminded that the Dixits are not the Boses where everything is black and white.
My interpretation of the precap is slightly different, I don't think she is questioning his change of decision. She is making her hurt known to him, that she felt excluded. IMO it is healthy that she is talking to him, the more they fight now the better they will understand each other in the future.
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Posted: 8 years ago
#22

Originally posted by: gmgi

Dev now you know what you discuss with your wife should just remain with you. See the cost of blabbering about your wives idea 😆

Sorry Lavu, I expected this yesterday and I am neither with Sona nor with Dev. He opens his mouth at the wrong time and keeps mum at the wrong time too. Sona has to get back to her job ASAP. Don't want to jump my guns regarding the precap. Let it play out. And I loved Sona - Vicki tashan. She will always remain a pain in his a**. 😆



well didnt we already scream at Dev yesterday when he revealed... but i wonder if the situation would have been any different even if it was Dev's own decision... I sm sure vicky would have thrown the same tantrum , gkb would have gone and cried infront of ishwari and ishwari would have said the same to Dev... Dev would have probably promoted him ...


Bekar mein badnam hui Sona... Sona has a habit of going on suggestion spree - she should understand the complexities of this family and then suggest.. dont just suggest based on logic . as logic doesnt apply in Dixit mansion...

I really want her to go back to work asap... She is only causing more trouble...
tashan with Vicky ,, i am more scared for sona than her being a pain in the ass for vicky.

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: Krpkab_meg

I have to agree with you, she should have backed off when he asked her for space. This fight reminded me of the accident episode where she admits to Dev that he does a good job of handling his family. She needs to be reminded that the Dixits are not the Boses where everything is black and white.

My interpretation of the precap is slightly different, I don't think she is questioning his change of decision. She is making her hurt known to him, that she felt excluded. IMO it is healthy that she is talking to him, the more they fight now the better they will understand each other in the future.



Lets hope that is what precap is about... but her tone didnt make me think that ... lets wait and watch...
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Posted: 8 years ago
#24
Excellent post Lavanya 👏

I just rushed through all posts to see if I could see anyone sharing my view and there you go girl!! Thank you !!

I won't blame anyone here because whole forum reacted exactly like Dev today 😆 hurt, confused and helpless.

Remember the scene when Dev was in the verge of breakdown after Neha's vidaai and Sona came to help him? She approached him for help but when he was quiet and said nothing, she was about to leave only to be stopped by him and then he listened and she consoled. Thats the Sona I expected here today. The girl who gave him that space even though she knew he needed her..

But today Sona was desperate to prove her point just like Ishwari. Like someone said Dev doesn't need another Dixit, he need a Bose and it should be Sonakshi Bose!!

And I don't blame Sona either..any girl with the pressure she is handling right now can't think straight 😳 Thats what marriages to a family like Dixit will do😆 Ask me !!😆

Problem is we all want to see Devakshi behave the way our heart desires but the makers are showing how a husband and wife in such setup behaves in reality !! Sometimes realities are the bitter truth and people with such experience knows how to swallow it😆

CVs should be more careful from hereon because no body wants to see the ugly reality in TV too so they better buckle up and give some rosy fictions to satisfy everyone😆


But I am sure things will come around next week as am sensing there is more to what to saw today😳
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Sharing what I posted on another thread.
The learning curve is for both. Dev is wrong to burst out no doubt. But expecting to have a solution for each problem is also wrong Sona cannot solve everything. Not everyone needs help. Sometimes just support would do. Sometimes it is better to let the partner think and collect his thoughts. He himself would have shared.
If Sona had just gone there and sat next to him quietly without saying anything Dev himself would have shared.

But this equation comes with maturity and experience. It's all new for them. They have to find their balance. As both have pointed out not all things can be said out loud they have to be felt. Similarly not all things are right or wrong. Things are never just black or white. There is Grey.

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: dlavanya


Absolutely.. I can only say Dev was human and Sona was trying to be Ishwari today..


Of course, poor girl has been spending so much time with this chaotic family for last few days with hungry stomach! Even after listening to Ishwari's sarcasm, RR's insults and Dadibua's nonsense she is not in an asylum is a great thing! If Sonakshi can listen to all these crazy people all day Dev can listen to Sona and her dad once in a while😉!

After all this is a progressive show, so wife should have equal right to making a mistake and learning!
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: pkbdas61

Sorry lavanya, but this time I have to differ with you. I think it is not about Sona here. It is more about priorities and sensibilities! This completely over the top drama seen today, resulting in Dev screaming at his wife is just not acceptable behavior by a husband. It only shows that Dev has not understood one crucial aspect of the mystery of marriage and marrying a girl like


First, marriage is a mystical union where two become one. Sons had been drilling this into Dev's head ever since marriage. Secondly, it is about respect. In marriage, when two become one, they are like one body, mind and spirit. One cannot disrespect ones own body and Sona is part of Dev and vice versa! You cannot disrespect your wife, for anyone, especially when she seeks your own good. Thirdly, it is a woman who leaves her home and comes into a new environment, sacrificing her family, her comfort zone, just about everything to be joined to another. How much more should the man be sensitive to the feelings of his wife, in this case Sona? Fourthly, if Dev really knows that Sona does not care about anyone, except for what is good for him and his real family, he will not, even for a moment doubt her intentions! Fifthly, in a marriage, there is no selective communications. it is based on open, transparent and truthful communications. Shutting off is not going to help!

Then the most important point. If Dev really wants to live for 'others' then he should not have got married in the first place. He cannot have it both ways to be a smooth ride. In Sona he has actually got the support system to make it easy one way atleast but is making it hard on himself. In the process he is making it very hard for Sona too. She has time and again told him that all she needs is his support, nothing else! He promises to but does just the opposite.

Then there is sensibilities! Vicky as project head! WTH! The guy was shown to be struggling to lear his studies. Then Vicky mid-behaved with so many people, including Tina! If Ishwari is shown emotionally blackmailing Dev, then why the hell is Tina not shown talking to Dev about Vicky? Absolute nonsense!
Then the less said about Ishwari the better!




I understand your POV. but I only wanted Sona being the normal and sensible girl to help his Complex and complicated Husband. She always knew the complexities.. we know that Dev takes a lot of things by face value and will only do things with good intentions. But, Sona knows how GKB and vicky are.. what Ishwari and ehsaan lecture is capable of... She knows that Dev has only Given and given all his life..She accepted all this and married him.. She said she will not approve all his decisions but will always support him. Today he was in crisis... His mother put so much pressure of expectations setting aside logic... She was ok even if Vicky fails and cant help Dev anyways... but if it means that they get an oppurtunity to pay back to mamamji's ehsaan... So I am sure Dev replayed all the help mamaji did ever since his dad died... it is like he is in a state where he is reliving all that past in that moment... He is thinking how he can set this right and pay back for all that Mamaji has done.. Honestly i dont even think he was thikning anything along the lines of - Sona misguiding him or anything.. He knows sona was right and logical.
But Logic doesnt hold any place in Ishwari Nivas...

Anyways under this situation when he is re-living his awful past, Sona walks in and tell him he is right and she is with him and she will support him... SO basically for him she is trying to steer him in the other direction that he doesnt even want to think about... SO he told her to stop and give him some space.. We all do this .. this is human nature when we hear somethign distracting our ideas.. But Sona did not listen... All i can hear is he pleading to him space and Sona kept on coming at him... with all the logic and all... all i am saying is her intentions might be right but that was not the time to uderstand his feeling about his past... that should be for another time..

Dev is not a regular person... He is someone with a very heavy baggage... Sona should have never married him.. But she did... now this is part and parcel of the deal.. He is complicated and he his family is full of phsycos.

Lastly, they just got married and they are still in the process of making the rules of marriage and what is ok and what is not.. how to communicate etc... So it is too early to expect both of them to behave like someone who has been married for a while. couple learns from their mistakes, it takes time to perfect a relationship. I see a lot of growth in Dev but yet to see Sona's growth. I actually expected her also to say sorry in the car when Dev was trying to say sorry to her after he picked up from Bose house... but she didnt..

coming to Vicky as Project head --- what ever is going to happen... he is very much going to sell his brother and his company to competitors to pocket money... Let it happen and that is the only way for Dixit family to realize that Dev and Sona were right... some people dont deserve certain positions just because they are born into that family.

Lastly Ishwari is not going to change anytime soon... my only hope is from Sona to grow some sense and understand that all is not well in the dixit mansion and come up with strategies to minimize damage with out getting herself into trouble...
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: dlavanya

Thanks Sam... I know i will be in minority today and majority of the post will be bashing Dev and calling Sona punching bag... But i reallly dont see it that way...
If Sona wants she can stand up and give it back to GKB in her own style... and she does it too once in a while.
I am a very strong supporter of Sona but I couldnt support her choices today. Yes, I do like the Macho sona or wanna be Super woman.. I am too worried for all the troubles she will bring upon herslef because of that...
Dev can protect Vicky from loses... but i ca see vicky selling Dev off one day... When that day comes ... we will all be sitting and enjoying the show..when dixits have to live off Sona's salary.


You are right of course, Sona will face much more trouble with Vicky before she sees any positive results out of her approach. Reminds me of the quote:

"Never argue with an idiot. They will only bring you down to their level and beat you with experience." 😛

As for her approach with Dev, I have to agree with you completely there as well. Like you said, it's not that I am trying to be harsh on Sona, just that at this particular point in the story, I can see her bringing huge troubles to both her and Dev with her behaviour, and I want to save them! 😆

Dev hit the nail on the head when he tried to tell her it wasn't about her. It really wasn't. It was about incidents and experiences that their family had gone through long before Sona arrived on the scene, and long before Dev was the man whom she met and fell in love with. In that way, though Ishwari's actual argument was BS, her discomfort with Sona's involvement was understandable. Sona is naive about the actual motivations behind Ishwari's move, and for a second, allowed Dev to be naive with her, which caused Ishwari to deliver him a sharp reminder .

I think Ishwari's motivations stem from guilt over how much wealthier she became than mamaji, when he was their only refuge during difficult times. It doesn't help that Radharani keeps rubbing her supposed "poverty" in Ishwari's face. The problem is, Mamaji won't allow Ishwari to finance them entirely and wouldn't even come to live with them until his house burned down, so Ishwari tries to get around this by giving them expensive gifts and insisting as much as she can that they come and live at their house, and enjoy the luxuries. But she's aware that all of this is temporary and that her brother would prefer to return to his own house ASAP. In giving Vicky an important post at Dev's company, she is able to ensure that her brother becomes equal to her and wants for nothing, while also keeping his pride intact.


The actual execution of this "perfect" plan, given Vicky's disposition, is where it all falls totally, totally flat. But this is where Ishwari expected Dev to take over: forget how Vicky actually does the job, and use him as a pawn to tacitly give mamaji economic parity. This is why there was different treatment for Rhea and Vicky... because for Vicky, it was never about him or his work at all. For a second, with Sona, Dev let himself believe that he was a normal CEO, and all that mattered was what was right for his company. In her stern march down memory lane, Ishwari reminded Dev of all these "under the table" responsibilities that came from the favours they took in dire straits. Dev making Vicky a trainee/"chapraasi" highlighted the discrepancy in status instead of erasing it, as Ishwari intended which is why she got so angry and disappointed.

I'm not saying Ishwari's right -- she's really, really not -- but there is so, so, so much more going on than Sona understands. Ishwari's discomfort with her is merely the symptom of much bigger concerns. That, I think, is what Dev was trying to tell her when he said, "it's not about you."

Well, that went into a full-blown rant! 😛
Edited by Samanalyse - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
#29

Originally posted by: fanktlk

Sharing what I posted on another thread.

The learning curve is for both. Dev is wrong to burst out no doubt. But expecting to have a solution for each problem is also wrong Sona cannot solve everything. Not everyone needs help. Sometimes just support would do. Sometimes it is better to let the partner think and collect his thoughts. He himself would have shared.
If Sona had just gone there and sat next to him quietly without saying anything Dev himself would have shared.

But this equation comes with maturity and experience. It's all new for them. They have to find their balance. As both have pointed out not all things can be said out loud they have to be felt. Similarly not all things are right or wrong. Things are never just black or white. There is Grey.


WORD.. DEv is wrong but just human.. But Sona is no saint is what i wanted to say from what she did today...

they just got married and they are still in the process of making the rules of marriage and what is ok and what is not.. how to communicate etc... So it is too early to expect both of them to behave like someone who has been married for a while. couple learns from their mistakes, it takes time to perfect a relationship. I see a lot of growth in Dev but yet to see Sona's growth. I actually expected her also to say sorry in the car when Dev was trying to say sorry to her after he picked up from Bose house... but she didnt..
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: fanktlk

Sharing what I posted on another thread.

The learning curve is for both. Dev is wrong to burst out no doubt. But expecting to have a solution for each problem is also wrong Sona cannot solve everything. Not everyone needs help. Sometimes just support would do. Sometimes it is better to let the partner think and collect his thoughts. He himself would have shared.
If Sona had just gone there and sat next to him quietly without saying anything Dev himself would have shared.

But this equation comes with maturity and experience. It's all new for them. They have to find their balance. As both have pointed out not all things can be said out loud they have to be felt. Similarly not all things are right or wrong. Things are never just black or white. There is Grey.



Thank you Divya. Exactly. I couldn't have said better. 👍🏼

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