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cscs

@cscs

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Posted: 8 years ago

#11

You never fail to surprise me with your posts. Do you? 😛 This is what i called Dev wala perspective. Yes it is indeed a very important reason for Dev to not to question Ishwari as she has sacrificed all her life. Now many will say, it was because she wanted Dev to be successful for the family only. And she used Dev only to fulfill her family needs. But is it wrong? Dev has taken the father figure of the Dixits at a very tender age. Yes he has been nurtured in such a way that all he thinks of his family first. And not only that He has seen his mother doing a LOT to support the family and being the eldest he thinks its his responsibility to share burdens of his mother. CVs have invested lot on initial episodes to show mother-son duo relationship and specially Ishwari's sacrifices. He feels that his life indebted to his mother. And that is the reason he never questions her.

Ps- How many posts have u made 😲 I can only see ur posts on first page of forum. Going to the next 😃 n sorry dunno y like button is not working. 😕

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sona_naksh

@sona_naksh

Sparkler

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Posted: 8 years ago

#12

i agree
for dev ishwari is someone who has sacrificed everything she had to make him Dev Dixit
dev treats ishwari as god ...so wenever ishwari does sth dat she shud nt do ..dev finds ithard to believe and is hurt beyond limits n dis ll continue till dev accepts his mother to b a normal human being ...i think prenup agreement sona's disease n khatri truth ll play a major role here

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pkbdas61

@pkbdas61

Dazzler

Posted: 8 years ago

#13

what you have written is true for all mother - child relationships. This is not special for Ishwari or Dev. it is also true for ishwari - neha, riya, nikki as well as Asha - Sona, Saurabh.. This is the fundamental law of life. Likewise, the relationship between wife and husband is also fundamental and above the parent - child relationship. Now that Dev and Sona are married, they are ONE.. Dev needs to give his wife more priority than even his mother.

honestly, i am not able to understand Ishwari- Dev relationship at all now. It has gone beyond all my understanding where mom expects herself to be above even his wife.

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sjain

@sjain

Trailblazer

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Posted: 8 years ago

#14

So here I am back with my detailed view

Well what you have written like I said is the only reason for Dev to accept or even see Ish's faults or misdoings ..

But why its like that..The one and only reason for this is Ishwari has given her life for him ..she has done so much which he feel indebted to..she even compromised on her daughter's needs for him..because he was their only hope (according to ish) to come out of poverty..(lets not talk about male female equality here, becoz thats not important)...Dev has seen world from his mothr's eyes..during childhood every kid do so but once they grow up..they find thier own identity their own point of views..But even after growing up Dev did everything according to how Ish guided him, he saw what she showed him..for example She always reminded him of his responsibilities towards his sisters, towards working hard and succeeding..He couldn't form himself under the pressure of giving best lifestyle possible to his family..He is Dev -the son , Dev -the brother, Dev - the bread earner , Dev- the pilliar of strength responsibility..but he couldnt become Dev - A 28 year boy..He lost himself in this..He fulfilled dreams of Ish & his sisters but he couldn't dream for himself..Everyone could conveniently fall back in him..but he had no one to fall back on..He provided love happiness uncondinally to his family but he had no one to to provide all this to him..He always kept their needs demands first..but he had no one to keep his needs his wishes first..

Until one day Sonakshi entered his life..He stumbled in to a new space..Unknowingly he entered their..which he himself didnt know ever existed..Dev a young boy a 28 year old man a 8 year old kid was born that day.. HE was born..his dreams were born, his wishes were born..He saw a life for himself..just for him..Sonakshi just didnt bring LOVE in his life..she brought alot more then that..He was flying free..away from all the clutches aka Dixit ladies LOL

Now coming to seeing Ish's faults easily ..well I firstly wont use term GOD for Ish..I personally dont want to so yeah ..though I believe that parents r form of God for children on earth..but here I dont want to use it ..Dev didnt say anything (in his senses..though he said in drunk state) when he came to know she was the reason of separation..He didnt asked her for any explanations..so now when Sona will confront him about Ish's state Its gonna be one hel of a time for him..and coming in terms with it will be traumatic ..I am scared like shit

I feel I kinda deviated from the topic..but I was messed up while writing it dont know why thoughts were all muddled up -_- huh

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sia.krpkab

@sia.krpkab

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Posted: 8 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: pkbdas61
what you have written is true for all mother - child relationships. This is not special for Ishwari or Dev. it is also true for ishwari - neha, riya, nikki as well as Asha - Sona, Saurabh.. This is the fundamental law of life. Likewise, the relationship between wife and husband is also fundamental and above the parent - child relationship. Now that Dev and Sona are married, they are ONE.. Dev needs to give his wife more priority than even his mother.

honestly, i am not able to understand Ishwari- Dev relationship at all now. It has gone beyond all my understanding where mom expects herself to be above even his wife.

I am intrigued with your perspective, PKB!

Y do you feel Dev should give priority to Sona over Ishwari? Or even in generic terms, you hold such a thought that a husband should give priority to his wife over mother?

I would like you to elaborate more - never heard a man 's thoughts on this.

P.S. I personally agree with this thought. But my reason could be different from yours. So I will reserve my reason until I hear yours 😃

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sia.krpkab

@sia.krpkab

Navigator

Posted: 8 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: dikshat

1. Yes u can call it sentimental perspective..that Why I said I felt my thoughts are incomplete coz this is only one aspect that I am linking it to but when you look at things you need to look at all aspects together to come out with that final thought. But each aspect has some weightage.

2. He's not forgetting that there is one God above all, this concept is not there in his dictionary. No acceptance to the fact.

3. He knows she cannot define his destiny. But whatever he can decide,,...his own actions which will define his destiny need her approval, her nod. I always use the word "Conditioning" for Dev. His mind is conditioned to think in that way.

4. Her mother is not just a mentor to him..Mentor shows you the way but doesnt walk with you, you alone have to walk the path. For him, his mother has walked on that path with him taking his hand in her hand and not letting him fall.

5. Ask a devotee what god means to him and you will know how it comes in the end to one thing..God, no logic..only faith.
He's not become dysfunctional, his acts involve doing something he feels will make his god happy and not upset. He thinks of her reaction first and then actions follow.

Yes he will eventually learn..I too feel so and infact know that. Thats what the story will be all about.

I feel you have gotten into the skin of Dev's character. Bravo Diksha! Your case above defines him as such a complicated character for me. And I can't understand how such people exist in real life (I am sure they do) but for me, it would be so difficult to overcome this psyche.

Thank you, thought provoking indeed. 😊

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dikshat

@dikshat

Voyager

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: --Destiny--
Dev is no way wrong for considering his mom everything. He does what very few people can. Giving parents the devotion they deserve. And Ish has done loads for him to behave so. So it will really take time for him to budge from it.

Yes surely...I think he's very different than many kids these days. The son like him is rare these days.

And giving your parents that much respect and a level above all is not bad either. But sometimes too much of everything is bad. He jst needs to realize that being fair to his mom and loving her with his all his heart is not a problem. Problem is when this thing affects other relationships. In the act of being fair to her he shud not be unfair to others.

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dikshat

@dikshat

Voyager

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Posted: 8 years ago

#18

Originally posted by: shilpa2323
Gud post!
Coming to d post I think parents can never be at fault so ishwari too bcoz she has gone through so many difficulties that she don't want to look back n don't want to loose her son at any point of tym bcoz she has seen his struggle all his life n dev vice versa that's why shez being so possessive especially about her son.
Coming to sona... I like her point in which she says take only that gift which u know u can give it...

I think parents can surely be wrong as they are humans too. But instead of getting angry with them or maybe on the other hand not saying anything to them is not valid. As kids, we also have some duties towards our parents. I dnt knw if we shud tell them they are wrong or not, but we can certainly tell them what is to be done and how they can improve their act or thought on things..

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dikshat

@dikshat

Voyager

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Posted: 8 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: cscs
You never fail to surprise me with your posts. Do you? 😛 This is what i called Dev wala perspective. Yes it is indeed a very important reason for Dev to not to question Ishwari as she has sacrificed all her life. Now many will say, it was because she wanted Dev to be successful for the family only. And she used Dev only to fulfill her family needs. But is it wrong? Dev has taken the father figure of the Dixits at a very tender age. Yes he has been nurtured in such a way that all he thinks of his family first. And not only that He has seen his mother doing a LOT to support the family and being the eldest he thinks its his responsibility to share burdens of his mother. CVs have invested lot on initial episodes to show mother-son duo relationship and specially Ishwari's sacrifices. He feels that his life indebted to his mother. And that is the reason he never questions her.

Ps- How many posts have u made 😲 I can only see ur posts on first page of forum. Going to the next 😃 n sorry dunno y like button is not working. 😕

hehe..I think its better to surprise than shock 😉

I loved the Dev wala perspective definition👏😳

Yes certainly nothing is wrong I also feel. Only if someone has seen days like them will realize why they are the way they are. Its not easy..In the race to earn money, lot has been left behind and lot that they cannot get now.

@ Red/: Totally agree...too much time to shape up their characters. The characters graph is so consistent that for everything they do, I can feel why they did so. More than judging them, I really feel that need to understand them..Its a class act by the makers.

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dikshat

@dikshat

Voyager

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

#20

Originally posted by: sona_naksh
i agree
for dev ishwari is someone who has sacrificed everything she had to make him Dev Dixit
dev treats ishwari as god ...so wenever ishwari does sth dat she shud nt do ..dev finds ithard to believe and is hurt beyond limits n dis ll continue till dev accepts his mother to b a normal human being ...i think prenup agreement sona's disease n khatri truth ll play a major role here

I totally agree.

He needs to bring her down to a human level. Till the time he treats her as god, nothing will happen. And this entire thing will be very very gradual...it cannot b done in a day. Infact many major things need to come up one after another. Small things wont work. Big things to come, each big reason will build up to make that solid reason when he can tell himself, his perspective to view things need to change.

Prenup will be one major thing here for sure...

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