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Hi all,
I watched today's episode - post Dev and Sona's maha wedding episode.
I must say - all the technicalities aside I feel Dev and Sona are not going to stay married. Hear me out guys - I feel Sona should have never married Dev - her original decision of moving on was absolutely correct.
Yes Dev is a nice guy, yes he's successful, handsome with a heart of gold - that's all great. What is not great is that he is emotionally immature, he's not in tune with himself and he doesn't really think for himself - he's essentially a Momma's boy - that is a HUGE red flag for me in a relationship. I find that to be a recipe for disaster.
Sona on the other hand - is much more balanced - she is smart, sensible, kind, patient and understanding. However she has been raised in a much more liberal enviornment where children are encouraged to think for themselves, make mistakes and learn from them.
What kind of marriage is this anyways - everyone is so grumpy - no one is truly happy - everyone is constantly walking on egg shells, its all so passive aggressive.
Sona was totally justified in confronting Dev and being angry after Ishwari's fainting spell - Sona is smart she is sensing that she is still not welcome in the Dixit household, she's the latest acquisition of business tycoon Dev.
How long is this going to last? Sona is clearly not being well received and how is this fair to her anyways - yes she's from a different community, they have cultural differences but where is the tolerance? Where is the compassion - why are cultural differences, food habits and all being magnified instead of magnifying what is truly important - Sonakshi as a person?
How dare Dev bring up his mother's "insult" - is he serious? He threw Sona out like a pair of old shoes with out a second thought - why because his mommy didn't approve of her. Then he didn't really do much to make amends - waited on his mother dearest to change her mind. If he really loved Sona - would he not have tried harder to stand up for himself and their relationship?
Ishawari herself was no less "insulting" towards Sona's parents.
IMO Dev and Sona has so much to work on in their relationship before jumping into matrimony. Marriage is not a catch all - it won't fix issues - in fact it'll make it that much worse.
Dev and Sona needed more time with each other to find their synergy - what are the core values that bind them, what sacrifices would they be willing and not willing to make - what is most important to them - individually and in their relationship. How are they going to resolve conflict - they needed to have more clarity and direction in their relationship - to be able to be a unit, to be able to stand united so that any conflict that comes their way - they can tackle together rationally without getting emotional and egoistic - because they have cultivated that baseline understanding.
I'm disappointed that these issues were not addressed, Dev's redemption was not properly depicted, I was hoping for a much more detailed introspection, much more vocalized apology and Sona's internal struggle - of wanting to be with this man she's fallen in love with but is struggling with herself to come to terms with his ruthless treatment. Dev needed to apologize PROPERLY to Sona's family BEFORE sending his mom there to ask for Sona's hand in marriage.
I'm disappointed with Sona also - for such a strong willed independent woman - she gave in pretty quick - I was hoping they would show her struggling more - being happy that Dev wants her back but at the same time extremely angry that he could just walk away coz mommy said so. I wanted to see a scene of where she talks to Dev and says - i love you but I'm not sure if I can trust you - you've disappointed me once, I don't know how to believe in you again.
At the rate they are going right now - I don't see this marriage lasting very long. Perhaps this is CVs grand plan - they didn't really think before jumping into marriage - no family is 100% happy - Sona's family is more anxious than happy, constantly fearing Dixit family will hurt Sona or not treat her they way she deserves to be treated. Perhaps all these meaningless cultural differences will drive a wedge between Dev and Sona to where Sona reaches a breaking point and walks out and THEN starts true redemption and Dev's introspection, Ishwari's introspection and then mission get Sona back - by working through their differences and establishing that understanding.
What say guys?
Kumkum Bhagya
Anupamaa
