having a child leads to fruitful marital life? - Page 2

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There are many who would like to have a kid and feel their life is incomplete without children .There are some who are OK being childless .There is no hard and fast rule ,it all depends on the couple .

Originally posted by: gemini54

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Agree Children's r not the solution to happy married life.

I can quote a real example of couple who r happily married for 35 Years.But they don't have kids.I have interacted with them.They r happy n content in their life.

These kind of track sometime introduced to get ratings.

Originally posted by: dikshat

The Great Indian Irony..

1. Marry so that you have license to have kids

2. Have problems in married life? Solution: have a kid

3. Save Save and Save for your kids for you can enjoy when your one leg is in grave.

4. Teach you child how to earn money but don't teach him how to live life.

Next generation

1. 2. 3. 4. on Repeat mode pls!!

Expectations + No Logic = Zindagi Ek "Suffer"

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Originally posted by: yyy

It depends on the couple .There are many who would like to have a kid and feel their life is incomplete without children .There are some who are OK being childless .There is no hard and fast rule ,it all depends on the couple .

Being childless definitely effects couplease because of parental pressure ,society and from what they have shown both Dev and Sona are found of kids so it will not be easy for them especially Sonakshi.

I would say it's hard to find guy like Dev who is ready to marry a girl who has very less chance of conceiving .Every person has the right to have biological kid and Dev deserves to be appreciated for his supporting Sona .

@Bold - For sure Dev needed to be appreciated.

Rare to see husbands who r ok if their wife can't conceive.Be happy in his married. I have only seen 2 cases like this in real.That couple cannot have child.Yet they r living happily.

Originally posted by: yyy

There are many who would like to have a kid and feel their life is incomplete without children .There are some who are OK being childless .There is no hard and fast rule ,it all depends on the couple .

Being childless definitely effects couplease because of parental pressure ,society and from what they have shown both Dev and Sona are found of kids so it will not be easy for them especially Sonakshi.

I would say it's hard to find guy like Dev who is ready to marry a girl who has very less chance of conceiving .Every person has the right to have biological kid and Dev deserves to be appreciated for supporting Sona .

Agreed it all depends on the couple what they want

I am going to be honest here , am sure many might not even like it ...but I know in this forum there are young women and men who are not married and yet dreaming of starting a family of their own. Hence this post...

First of all happiness has got nothing to do with your spouse , financial status , etc . It is basically your state of mind that you create for yourself and its in your control. There are a lot of people in the world who have everything in life , you name it they have it...not just in terms of wealth but even with their loved ones around them...still are not happy...Similary there are people who dont even have money for the next days meal but still feel happy...so it differs ppl to ppl..

Coming to marriage . You dont marry because you need to have a child . You marry because you need a companion to share your life. Marrying just to have a kid is road to disaster.

Regarding kids and being a parent, you need to ask yourself first if you are ready for it . If you are not then tell your spouse clearly about the same..its a huge responsibility . If you and your spouse are not prepared for the same then dont force yourself to have a child because of social fears. Especially for couples who are professionals and staying away from your family ( parents and in laws ). Its easier for couples who are living in a joint family. They can rely on them for help.

Professionals couples and nuclear family - Once a child is born the whole life changes for both husband and wife. Lady will have to take long leave . From day 1 till 5 yrs these bundle joys need complete attention and basically will be there 24x7 with you ( except when they spend 2 hours at play school) . Feeding , cleaning , washing ...etc..there might be times you wait for your spouse to return from office or call a neighbour to take care of the baby so that you could go to wash room.
OR
will have to keep full time - trust worthy servant to help you .
OR
Rely on day care..then you go thru this anxiety if your child is safe there...

whole dynamics of life changes with a child in your life. They dont show these in serials...but reality is far more difficult. This also leads to fights at home.Two people who loved each other so much will, all of sudden be at the edge... Because the wife would be waiting for the husband to come from office to hand over the child and the husband would be tired. Cant blame both !! Now imagine if both are professionals..

And in the due course you will be hurting yourselves , your spouse and that lil one .

Earlier days it was ok because most families were joint families so the child wouldnt be with the parents round the clock.

Coming back to your topic...to be parents ...you need to be mentally prepared and be ready to give in a lot of things that you love. Happiness is something that the couples create and its in your control, married , not married , parents , not parents doesnt matter..

PS : Not against having kids..in fact I love kids...and I feel every child is entitled to have a happy family atmosphere . And if couples are not prepared for to be parents then they wont be able to build that happy atmosphere at home and it affects the child.

Kids are not a must for a married life...you can be happy and married.