having a child leads to fruitful marital life?

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@xsumi

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Posted: 9 years ago

#21

whether you have kids or not, your marriage life is perfect no matter what

but we live in a culture where Asians want you to have kids and if you dont they question you its so sad

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WeRockTheWorld

@WeRockTheWorld

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Posted: 9 years ago

#22

Originally posted by: yyy
There are many who would like to have a kid and feel their life is incomplete without children .There are some who are OK being childless .There is no hard and fast rule ,it all depends on the couple .

Being childless definitely effects couplease because of parental pressure ,society and from what they have shown both Dev and Sona are found of kids so it will not be easy for them especially Sonakshi.

I would say it's hard to find guy like Dev who is ready to marry a girl who has very less chance of conceiving .Every person has the right to have biological kid and Dev deserves to be appreciated for supporting Sona .

@True..not many would ...thou I do know one who did the same...and god decided to show him and his love the meaning of "miracle". God blessed with a boy !!
When you do an act selflessly the one above sees it ...and will bless you with a miracle !! Never forget the one above us - GOD 😊
PS : If there was issue with Dev , I am sure Sona would have stood by him too. These two love each other immensely. I just hope those venomous ppl around them ..do not separate them

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Tia.0

@Tia.0

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Posted: 9 years ago

#23

Very good question... In Asian countries which of course include India, the whole purpose of marriage is basically license to have kids.

As some of you rightly pointed out, there are lot of couples who are happy without children and a lot of couples who are miserable with kids.

But society pressures family and family pressures couple to have kids otherwise you are a failure and your marriage is worth nothing.

But here's my few questions.

1. Do you want to let society define your relationship or do you want to define your own relationship?

If you have a supportive partner and I am talking for both husband and wife, why wouldn't you tell society to keep their opinion to themselves because your marriage is none of their business.

2. Do you think it's fair to put the responsibility to define the success of your relationship on a child who is not yet born?

Why would a little child make your marriage a success? Isn't that your and your spouse's responsibility?

3. In Indian society, women still stay with a husband when he can't have kids, but men leave their wife when she can't have kids because men must have biological children (God forbid, they are asked to love a child not their own). So while we expect the woman to do the right thing (otherwise she is a heartless b**ch), we accolade men for the same thing because women can only have urge for biological children if the man is capable. That's societal norm to expect more from women than men.

When do you think it's time to change this unequal, gender biased expectations? We are in 21st century and still talking of unfair social norms but not even registering it in our mind as UNFAIR!!!

So no, if a marriage can't survive without a child, then the only thing having a child would do is bring additional obligation to keep you shackled to a already broken relationship. And one day when the child leaves home, the marriage will be again where you started.

And if a marriage is strong in spite of parental and societal pressure, with or without child it will be strong regardless.

The purpose of a marriage is not binding one person to another with as many obligation, pressures and duties you can find. The purpose of marriage is spending your entire life with your life partner who will be by your side no matter what. Not because he/she has to, but because there's no place on earth they would rather be than by your side.

And if you have this relationship, whether you can have children or not, it won't matter. Because no one else can make them as happy as you make them.

Edited by tia.o - 9 years ago

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vibg

@vibg

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Posted: 9 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: gemini54
Here is a couple who havent even kissed yet and talking about babies already!
CV'S and their logic go figure

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vibg

@vibg

Rocker

Posted: 9 years ago

#25

Originally posted by: VIMAL.M

@Bold - For sure Dev needed to be appreciated.

Rare to see husbands who r ok if their wife can't conceive.Be happy in his married. I have only seen 2 cases like this in real.That couple cannot have child.Yet they r living happily.

Good, he is supporting her as he should. Love is above all.. and not having biological kids is not the end of the world. But, not telling her again is a blunder. He is doing it again. When will he learn? Doesnt he know anything about Sona.. how level headed she is. She has been begging since beginnig to share and make decisionstogether.

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ssimmy

@ssimmy

Voyager

Posted: 9 years ago

#26

There are plenty of couples who are happily married with no children. But Indian norms and beliefs have made it seem like couples without children have marital issues, which totally is not the case. It's up to a couple if they want to make a family. If anything, it's unhealthy to pressurize two people to have a child when they clearly are not ready for it- which seems to be Dev and Sonakshi's current situation. I hope they don't take these grandchild expectations to their head, and follow their own pace after marriage.

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sudhajyothi06

@sudhajyothi06

Beginner

Posted: 9 years ago

#27

A child might complete a family but will never complete a relationship. Love between husband and wife is made whole by each other only and not by their children. Specially in the current scenario when' the children hardly stay with parents and to be brutally honest some of them don't care about their parents when they grow old, children should be treated like a season, enjoy the time while it lasts but don't get too attached to them. Hence its the true love between husband and wife which gets them going when the going gets tough!!!

Edited by sudhajyothi06 - 9 years ago

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