Would you marry a guy like Dev?

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-mistyeyed-

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Posted: 8 years ago

#11

Wow! I am pleasantly surprised by the response on the thread so far! Frankly, I was expecting replies to the tune of 'I would marry Dev because he is hot and he is a great lover' ect!

Glad to see that the young women here have their heads firmly fixed on their shoulders! Its one thing if you are stuck in a marriage with a Mama's boy but to know beforehand and still go with it is quite another.

But some people do go ahead with such relationships even with their eyes wide open, because they are simply unable to go through the pain of ending a relationship or make decisions with their head rather than their heart!

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Posted: 8 years ago

#12

I would like to keep it simple the answer is Yes not because he is handsome or he is dreamy looking but because he is a gem of a guy and has all the qualities of a good life partner .Looks will go away with time but what matters is the nature of the person .He has one weakness and so does everyone in this world. Am I perfect No I am not then what rights do I have to expect my partner to be perfect .

Every guy is a mama's boy in somehow .I have been in Sona's shoes and I still dont regret being with my guy because he has given n no of reasons to stick to him than dump him.

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-mistyeyed-

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Posted: 8 years ago

#13

Originally posted by: yyy
I would like to keep it simple the answer is Yes not because he is handsome or he is dreamy looking but because he is a gem of a guy and has all the qualities of a good life partner .Looks will go away with time but what matters is the nature of the person .He has one weakness and so does everyone in this world. Am I perfect No I am not perfect then what rights do I have to expect my partner to be perfect .

That's a beautifully written post!

But Dev's weakness is not a drinking or smoking problem, it is his mother, who has the ability to make life-changing decisions in his life, without caring for the other people who are part of his life.

My question was, if you knew that your future depended on the whims and fancies of a third person who has complete control over your life-partner, what will you do? Ishwari is not Dev's weakness, she is his decision-maker, around whom his life revolves.

You can love a person like Dev but can you spend your entire life with him?

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Moony87

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Posted: 8 years ago

#14

Marry someone like Dev?

😆 😆 😆

Even the thought gives me jitters and this is one of the reasons also, that people don't want to get married these days. Every other weakness or flaw can be dealt with but not this. And while it looks so romantic on screen for the heroine to fix the hero strengthening their love or whatever it is. In real life, it hampers the couple's love and also spoils the relationships with parents. The everlasting bitterness for the in laws creeps in and the warmth for your partner ultimately reduces.

Marrying someone like Dev.. Never.. There is no security with him. No stability. Coz every love needs to have a limit. Dev and Ishwari are an unhealthy mother-son duo.

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Tinkerfairy

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Posted: 8 years ago

#15

No never 😆😆

I value myself much more , because i know i deserve someone better than dev ,

Not someone who will make me second option😉

For me definition of love is RESPECT AND TRUST .

ye nahi toh love hain hi nahi.

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Shaun

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Posted: 8 years ago

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The truth many women out there says they would choose the extreme best for them and yeah some even do but realistically speaking no girl knows how a guy's mum treats him she only truly finds out once she starts dating .

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easyandbusy

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Posted: 8 years ago

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Well !!! Not sure how many of u would agree but most of the boys are mumma boys !! Jus percentage varies and I often hear mum's saying jab Se baby aayi hai mujhe Bhool Gaya so agar Dev me kiya you Kya Hua ! I am by no means justifying what he did but I am just sorry for his IQ level and how blindfolded by his faith in his mummy dear.

To answer ur question YES I will marry a mumma boy like him and I have and I am very happy !!! Guys never grow up they depend on their mum then their wife and then their children so I don't know what expectations are different from DEV . Not being unfair I think Sona needs to act lil more rationally and not punish him for something that he is not aware :)))

Well let's see what sona decides !!!

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leavesandwaves

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Posted: 8 years ago

#18

No and a big No. Even if he has a face like Shaheer's

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aaliah3108

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Posted: 8 years ago

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The reality is that this question does not come into picture at all in the beginning. No one talks of parents and family in the beginning... U are able to ask this question coz Sona has been able to interact with Ishwari before hand. In a real life scenario...love or arrange... u just cant decipher the behavior of the person's parents.. The situation is u r already ahead in the relation and then u take next step of talking to parents... Thats where the whole thing comes into picture. There is no gurantee that if u leave ur lover coz of his mom. ... The other person u get in a relation with will have sensible parents ...and in Arranged marriage you know nothing ... dont we take a leap of faith then ??? . Do we keep switching relations coz parents are problematic or difficult to deal with ...

Parents are not expected to leave their children if they are problematic ...they are expected to understand their kids and deal with them or find ways to deal with them...So when it is the turn of the children ...why look for easy way out... I do not believe in taking this route. Why talk of only the guy's parents ...girls parents r also v difficult to deal with ...what do u do then ?

. ... There is nothing absolutely nothing black and white in real life.

I will marry the person I love so the answer to your question is yes. At least I know the person loves me and so do I ...if I go for another relation ...I dont even have that solace !!! how do I make sure beforehand that the other person's parents will be good to me ...or not !! I am willing to take the Leap of faith in the situation I decide with the person of my choice rather than with someone I know nothing of ... coz there also I have to take the leap of faith ... I cannot escape it . Of course I take the onus of facing what comes ahead.

All boys r mumma boys like all girls are papa's princesses. It is nothing wrong in being a pampered child whether girl or boy !

We need to deal with situations as and when they come and that is what life is all about. Escaping the situation is not the solution ever... one thing or the other will keep coming up

Edited by aaliah3108 - 8 years ago

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Posted: 8 years ago

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Originally posted by: easyandbusy
Well !!! Not sure how many of u would agree but most of the boys are mumma boys !! Jus percentage varies and I often hear mum's saying jab Se baby aayi hai mujhe Bhool Gaya so agar Dev me kiya you Kya Hua ! I am by no means justifying what he did but I am just sorry for his IQ level and how blindfolded by his faith in his mummy dear.

To answer ur question YES I will marry a mumma boy like him and I have and I am very happy !!! Guys never grow up they depend on their mum then their wife and then their children so I don't know what expectations are different from DEV . Not being unfair I think Sona needs to act lil more rationally and not punish him for something that he is not aware :)))

Well let's see what sona decides !!!

Boys are Mama's boys - agreed - but most of them start questioning the mother and start a balanced relationship -once married. In these cases mother often says - beta badal gaya - and the problem starts.

Boys who do not question - wife suffers and its again a problem.

IN either case problems are there and its mainly the guy who has to act smartly and be a bridge - for happy life.

BTW - have you observed that if the MIL is not alive but FIL is alive - non of the problems exist😆😆😆