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Originally posted by: LiveLife321

Will share one real life story which i saw before my eyes. Will try to put it briefly in a separate reply. Hope you are having great time at home since you said its your last week of ur vacation. 😊

Originally posted by: LiveLife321

One of my bestie, she was my colleague for around 6 yrs and saw her amazing story before my eyes. Her marriage was arranged one and its a perfect indian wedding with all ceremonies. She is also just like any other normal girl who has dreams about her partner and their future. After some time of her marriage, slowly she came to know about all the lies from the guys side starting from his age to his salary. She was completely broken. No one can imagine the pain she went through because of this betrayal. I saw her breaking in to pieces before my eyes and I can never forgive that guy for this.

The best part is, She gathered her self and fought back. I got surprised when got to know that she wants to give him & their relationship one more chance. So many Q's were running in my mind but i was able to ask her only one Q. WHY? Her answer amazed me & taught me some valuable life lessons & completely changed my perception towards life. Below is her answer :

Perfect life partners or prince charming are only exists in fairy tales & in dreams. In reality, no one is perfect. Not U, not Me, not him & not even my relationship with him. He is not a bad guy but he doesn't know the meaning of responsibility because his parents never taught him. Even if i blame him or his family or my family, nothing and no can can undo the damage. I cant change past but i can build my future. He cheated me & broke all wedding vows but what about the vows i made? I cant accept failure so easily that too with out even fighting for what i want in life.

What followed after this is her amazing fight with her destiny. Things didn't change over night but she never gave up. Finally she built a wonderful relationship which actually took her tears, blood and sweat but she says ITS WORTH IT. 😊

Originally posted by: bookworm123

Originally posted by: JazzyM

Well said...

All 3 have their reasoning, insecurities and demons to work it out. None of them are actually bad person. However, all 3 have been shown as being comfortable in their skin, proud of their achievements, are able to advise others but when it comes to themselves, everything shatters...

In this whole fiasco, Sona would be the most impacted person. For Dev, his sacrifice would mean, he still has his mother. He would be totally lost without his mother. There is no way he could have chosen Sona above his mother unless he had witnessed Ishwari being totally nonobjective towards Sona, which he didn't. In a way, his conscious is clear.

Coming to Sona, she is the one most impacted and the one who would raise up from the ashes like a phoenix. The stronger one among the 3 because of her upbringing, her self worth, her fantastic family and mostly because she needs to overcome this for herself and her family.

Now, the interesting part would be, how the 3 characters are going to reconcile. If I'm Ishwari, I might be happy now that my son has chosen me above his love but in future his sacrifice would eat me up alive. Blatantly ignoring Dev's sacrifice and his sorrow is not going to be conducive for the mom-son relationship...

Originally posted by: ARCH21

Question is 'Does this guy love Sonakshi so deeply?'

I think YES but ATM he himself doesn't know the depth of his love for her. I think he will get some idea after their break-up.

All this guy knows is that his mom is not happy and probably tried to be but couldn't and all he heard in the hospital was his mom crying about how she is a bad mom. In his mind, his mom didn't like Sonakshi but tried her level best for his sake and finally instead of hurting him, she hurt herself - how is this guy ever going to go against this mom?

Am not sure he has it in him and the last thing I want to see is a mom's realization who then gifts her son the woman he is pining for.

If I was that woman, I would run in the opposite direction... fast

I thought with Ishwari-Mama conversation they will drop Ishwari's holy mask but looks like they have some other plan and as usual they went with their Ishwari Bhajans & Keertans. Looks like they have bigger plans for future (after seeing Ishwari's match fixing drama for Sona).

hahaha... Tell me about it. They were raining promises!

And now with the way the characters are throwing reality at each other, the makers don't seem to be justifying or sugar coating anything. It's like they planned this...

It seems to be a lesson in how not to love!

He broke his promises for his mom and she is gonna break her promises for her family. Made for each other. Any body will fall in love with a perfect person. Q is : Are they ready to love each other with their imperfections?

and what will make him realize his? According to him, he did the right thing even if its painful... What will open his eyes? Just jealousy cant be it!

Only time(Cv's) can tell us.

Yup, vacation almost over. It was a lovely break for all...talking, laughing, shopping, cooking and being the crazy people we are 😃... and am going to miss the night time TV viewing with my mommy dearest...

Happy to know that you are enjoying & making most out of your vacation. All these memories only will become our strength when we stay away from our loved ones. I can understand since almost all my life(15 yrs of study life & job life) went in hostels till i got married. I was like a guest to my house.😆

Originally posted by: ARCH21

Amazing!

First, thanks for sharing...

We are the choices we make, isn't it?

Perfectly said. She taught me that Winners find a way; Losers find a excuse. I strongly believe that nothing happens without a reason in life.

Who is to say this is right or wrong, it's everyone's own perspective. The least we can do is not judge and be a good friend when in need... and hope for the same...WORD.

I feel the only thing we can do for ourselves is to clearly know what is that thing we really want. To have this freedom of choice is so important. What we do with it then is our effort - to live with our decisions is so much better than to live with forced circumstances...

Much power to your friend 😊

She got her peace back with a happy family & happy ending to her struggles.😊

Drawing this to the show - tbh, if the current incident makes Dev decide that he is his Mom's Son and he will worship her all his life to the exclusion of everything or anyone, that's his choice. Then he should have the courage to live with it with pleasure and not pain...

Worst is to know who you are but still want to be someone else...Hope he will open his eyes soon before it becomes too late.

Originally posted by: LiveLife321