Identities - Page 4

Originally posted by: vandana1965

ishwari needs to find other things to do in her life. maybe get a pet
dog

Originally posted by: gemini54

For the first time @Sam I am not in agreement with your post and have a differing opinion

It was bound to happen at some point. This is a very contentious show! 😆

In reality after just a bitter break up how much ever sulja hua you are the scars remain. Yes they may realize that they love each other but I certainly do not see it go the way as the promos...even if they are cordial I dont forsee the hurt and the doubt that Dev will always chose his mom go away because in the promo the way I understood it Dev was having difficulties talking to his Mother about them and tells Sona even though she is hurt at first( First Promo) she keeps urging him to talk to her..the bitterness that was shown yesterday was not there..just my two cents worth

There is very little I disagree with here, to be honest. This break-up and the way Dev has treated Sona will definitely leave scars, but perhaps in the long-run those scars can be what growth comes from. Right now we are all furious at Dev and highly defensive of Sona; rightly so! But for me, it's hard not to see how helpless Dev is. He has never been taught how to deal with this level of emotional complexity and is totally messing every relationship up as a result. The tragedy is that Ishwari is allowing him to do this without lifting a finger because it serves her short-term needs.

Dev has always been shielded from any kind of emotional duress, and so he just has no idea the kind of pain and torture that is coming his way; there's a difference between saying you can cut off your arm for someone and actually cutting off your arm. That pain is what is going to help him understand what precisely he sacrificed. He may see himself only as a son at this moment, but he is still the same Dev who cannot tolerate Sona's anger and indifference. I predict that he will spiral out of control once he realises this, and only Sona will be able to pull him out of it, even if she is still unwilling to reconcile. Once Sona's anger cools down, being the kind of person she is, she will empathise with Dev, though she may not trust him.

The rest of the show will likely be a journey of Dev winning back Sona's trust (and I have a feeling Bijoy's also!). The promos can't show everything, na? They are just a hint of what is to come. My point was that the promos show a possible moment when both Dev and Sona have moved past the initial blow of the break-up, where they acknowledge that they can't be together (Dev because of his mom, and Sona because she can't trust him) but are able to discuss their feelings in a mature way. In essence, I think the tagline of the promos, "dilon ke faisle dimag se" is the key. Dev has made that mistake now, and next it will be Sona's turn with this new entry, I think.

Originally posted by: LiveLife321

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

@ARCH: Sorry I caught this post a little late, both here and on my previous post, but I very much enjoyed reading your amazingly succint summation of where all the characters are in their respective journeys right now. Indeed, the story has centered itself around the question of identity. Both Ishwari and Dev have built their identities around a relationship that rests on a foundation concealment and suppression. Refusing to face the weaknesses in their relationship is what has caused it to become so mutually toxic. And poor Sona, without realising how precarious their relationship was, put her identity - at least partly - into their hands, where it was treated with little respect.

I also wanted to address the disussion on this thread about the promos. Unlike many here, I don't see the complete abandonment of the promos in the current arc of the story. Right now emotions are running high and both Dev and Sona are acting on those emotions. Dev is wracked with guilt and self-hate, making him see anything other than his mother as unimportant and inconsequential. Sona too is rightfully furious and heartbroken at Dev for his behaviour and his lack of tenacity in the face of this problem. But think, with time, when their emotions and pride (and ours!) have cooled, they may very well be able to have conversations like the ones in the promos, where they both acknowledge how much they mean to each other but how they can't be together for reasons outside of their control.

It seems obvious that though they will be broken up, they won't really be able to stay away from each other (Dev especially) or stop loving each other, and eventually they are going to have to address those feelings in a mature way, even just in the interest of proper closure. Both of them have been written as too suljha hua for this not to happen eventually! 😆 But before they do cool down, they will both go to the extremes -- Dev will become excessively emotional and impulsive (if the drinking thing is to be believed) and Sona will go excessively sensible and pragmatic (meeting, and considering marriage, with this new guy her parents suggest), until they realise they aren't solving anything by denying their true feelings.

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

EDIT: Just went and watched the promos again, and actually they do make a lot of sense, especially the one with the phone call. Dev says, "you said you weren't going to call" and Sona replies that she called for Ishwari and not him. Ishwari's expression when she sees Sona's call is also very subtly displeased... perhaps something similar will happen that will prompt her to start the groom search for Sona? *Sigh* I know I might be in the minority, but seeing the promo gave me renewed faith that these CVs know what they are doing :)

Originally posted by: ARCH21

I think what changed is their treatment of Ishwari. I don't think they initially planned to make her evil to this extend. The vocal insults to Sona, the vocal insults to Bijoy Bose. I feel the original plan was to keep Ishwari's discomfort a lot subtle but now Maa bahut kuch kahti hai & everybody knows... so the subtle treatment of this phase was snatched away and this led to the break-up being so troubled opposed to a quiet acceptance (as in the promos)...

This is my long long view of the short few sec promos that got us all hooked 😃

After today's episode and seeing the Bose family & Sona's maturity, I am looking forward to see where the makers want to take this story now...