Is it so wrong to learn cooking ? - Page 2

Originally posted by: sjain

When sonakshi cleared it out to him that dev hasnt asked her to do so ..he didnt understand that as well..and he knows her daughter well..she wont agree to anything blindly !!

he can read beyond her words...he has always done that..ans now it's not everything about dev..his family influences are also there..he has noticed that she is giving in this way too much almost forgetting her own identity..and of you see from father POV.why he will even like it when he has nothing seen from Dev or his family side doing anything like this...h supports her in her decision but he will not let her consume by her decision..

Originally posted by: GoodyTwoShoes

It was not about cooking..he subconsciously has a feel that sona is going all low self esteem way ..she had conversations with her father a day before too like she doubts that she is good for Dev or not as she does not know ghar ke kaam and all..so as a father he must have remembered that his daughter feels she is not worthy of dev or his family and she needs to add worth to her personality by adding household expertise..

He did not ha e problem with her learning cooking..but he can see whats is foreshadowing..thats why overreaction..

Originally posted by: desigirl987

I perfectly understand his intentions , and he is worried about how she is being treated in Dixit house , but he could have handled the situations better , just like he talked to her when she was in self -doubt . Being a parent , also from his previous interactions I expected him to encourage her to learn it but by pointing out that , do it not for anyone but for you . Instead he was asking , for this only we had spent money to educate u , as if she is doing something wrong by learning to cook . I really felt he was overreacting ...

Isnt this exactly what Sona told Neha about learning English! Learn because that is what you want to do not because it is expected!

Yes. He is a perfect father and he doesn't want his daughter to change for others sake. PERFECT. 👏

Bijoy understood her daughter too well...and also the convo prior day with Sona...he was not over reacting but he wanted to make sure that his daughter is accepted and respected for what she is and no body is trying to change her before accepting...Loved that he is thinking very correctly and preciously as Father and know her daughter too well...

Bang on ! Actually he raised a question on our Indian mentality...I think people have now changed a lot. I couldn't relate with his thoughts.
I really didn't expected that from baba...I didn't understand him...was he blaming Dev for Sonakshi's sudden interest in cooking...he went over my head... Indian women are not so silly... my sister have two sons and both knows cooking...and u will be surprised to know that my daughter is 7 yrs old and except chopping she can cook anything...it's not I forced her to or we don't have servants or cook but it's up to her...it's a good pass time too...
Even I learnt cooking jus for my daughter...nt at all for my husband or in laws... before fixing marriage my father already told my in laws that our daughter dont know cooking or any house hold jobs...but they accepted me as I was & am..

I don't remember his exact words , but I think what he meant is you should not do cooking just because you are a wife of someone , for that you can arrange a person who prepares food . You can make food only if you love to do so . Your mother prepares food cause she loves cooking.

I liked his words . what a refreshing change from the majority of Indian parents? I agree with him too , Sonakshi can learn cooking if she wanted to do so , not for her husband or MIL . I know this notion is not acceptable in India but isn't this a progressive thought? Having said that I agree that cooking is not a bad thing , it is an art IMO