I think it is time for a test - Page 6

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

Quoting what I wrote in another post on the same topic:

Dev Dixit is just the guy a woman should never fall in love with or marry. They say that one should never marry a guy who hates his mother or one who is totally tied to his mother's apron strings. Dev in addition to being a Mommy's boy also comes with tremendous emotional baggage. In fact for any woman he is bad news with a Capital B.

all said and done Sona has done the stupidity of falling for this man. Maybe she fell in love with his apparent goodness and kindness to his family without once giving a thought to how difficult it would be to live on a daily basis with him and his family . Compromising your self respect for a few days is OK but it can't be done on a perpetual basis.

sona has further allowed him to take her for granted by quietly taking his Mamis insults. Fine his Mama helped them a lot but is he going to allow GKB a free rein because of that? Would he have kept quite if that foul woman was insulting his mother? Glaring once is just not enough. He should have spelt it in black and white but then again his mother's emotions come before sonas self respect.

I think Sona should either ask Dev to pull up his socks or run away as far as possible from this mother son duo. Marriage is not a week long affair that adjustments to this level can be made. It is not easy to live everyday Compromising or sacrificing your sense of self.

Originally posted by: ARCH21

😃 Sorry! I was in a bad mood ... the realism in the show touches you - for good or bad... I had to vent & I vented here 😃

Always welcome and I think it was cathartic for all of us. :)

Sorry to hear about your friend. I am sure she is all better and doing very well with such good friends around her!

Yes, it was all in the past, she has moved on and is content. I wrote about my friend not to depress others on this thread but to point out that as a female viewer we cannot be detached.

There are many insightful posts on the forum interpreting what the creatives wanted to depict and how the characters are real flawed people. That is all true to some extent but as I have said before makers need to be careful about evoking negative emotions. Negative emotions don't come about simply because they will separate (a milestone this story may have to traverse) but how they get to it and how the characters conduct themselves. Right now the journey and the behavior is not always appetizing. Not to compare but there was a youth based show on a music channel and even a non youth like me loved how the romance was shown, very matured. The separation track was amazing and everyone was rooting for the female.Even her righteous tears and strength through it all were a treat to watch, simultaneously the ML's conduct too drew sympathy..Most importantly the separation track was highly engaging and did not make us sad but a viewer whose senses were engaged/impacted

Our makers have shown great potential for the most part of the show barring a dozen episodes. I am hoping that they will execute with the same subtlety and strong characters as before..

That's another point with the show - these guys just don't have any friends - not Dev, not Sona nor Ishwari. We need both - friends & family in life to keep our vision straight sometimes. Sometimes family is too close to the issue and that's when friends bring in that welcome outsider's perspective. Otherwise we would just be running around each other in a box...

Sona had Elena and Dada and even her family. They need to show more conversations with them and occasionally throw some friends in too. Dev needs some male friends in his life, too many women in this show..

The contrast between both families is time and again shown clearly.

The Bose family is open and care for each member of their family even if it is a cousin. They are one whole.

The Dixit family draws boundaries and defines who's who...

The Boses say things openly - even if they don't like something.

The Dixit family beats around the bush. Especially the closest 2 - Mom-Son

The Boses sense something amiss with a family member and instantly reach out, even when they are pushed back. Talk, share and console.

The Dixits sense something amiss, make assumptions in their head and run their thoughts at jet speed in many directions. Until someone brings up the courage to address the core issue, the issue has already become a crisis...

The Boses trust each other enough to say what's on their mind.

The Dixits carry a faade of being one unit but don't even recognize each other.

Sona - slowly and surely turning into a Dixit!!!!!

Not once in her thoughts or in her conversation with Dev does she bring up her family. Only 'Maa' ko bura nahi lagna chahiye...

Bang on. The contrast has been shown very well. I loved how Dev got to know her family and would have loved to see more of that instead it has been completely cut off. He too needs to learn from her family and appreciate their ways, seek their counsel. ZGH did that very well. Bose family character sketch is actually good, they need to tone down the distracting comedic treatment given to their scenes

As they say, the shortest distance between 2 points is a straight line ... All Ishwari had to do was touch her Son's hand and ask directly... 'do you like someone?' or maybe reach out to him the next morning and ask ... the Son so obviously had something important to share...

All she did ... all she does ... is turn the focus on herself.

We all know what's going to happen He wasn't going to tell yesterday but he will in this week. But many times the action is as important as how you go about it... and this is what I want to see...

Absolutely. My views too and I stated that above. Him twirling her around on Friday after he has her rubber stamp will lose its charm if it did not come about the way I would have wanted to see it

There is always some drama going on around him. It was expected for him to be irritated the next morning after seeing his mother on the kitchen floor with the chula. His half-hearted answer to Sona about telling his mother could be explained that his mind was distracted with the kitchen drama...

His night phone conversation was in better senses and him saying, 'lets keep his hidden forever' was just like saying, its proving too difficult, can we just not do it... not that he meant it that way but just like sometimes we say 'oh too tough! lets not do it'... in the moment...

(Look at me trying to justify this... 😃)

I was just so angry with Ishwari and her self-centered vision, flashbacks & assumptions... It was funny! I hadn't had dinner and after looking at Ishwari & fuming at the drama... when my Mom asked me 'should I get you dinner?'... I was like, 'Please, I will get it myself'... 😆

:) I think no amount of eloquent explanations by forum members can make me relate to how they are making Ish behave these days. Previously I could completely see my mom or MIL behave like her. I know my mom would never sit on the floor and cook. She may not have an open conversation but atleast she would say something as direct as - you never tell me anything these days. That is what real moms even possessive ones do and just for the sake of drama they cannot make her behave this way..

The Dev of yesterday's episode upset many of us not because we cannot cut him some slack for hesitating. Of course it is not easy to talk about a woman you love, especially when he has never ever spoken about women/GFs/hsi own needs with anyone...

It upset us because they show us a romance that is way above a real life romance but then bring us down with a mighty thud by giving him feet of clay and reminding us that Sona's life will not be a bed of roses with such a family. Sona's current characterization is not helping as well..

Originally posted by: bookworm123

Completely fail to understand why they have made Sona such a doormat of late. Where is her life, family, career etc.? I feel for Sona because it appears that if they break up, she has nothing else. They need to maker her end of the story look richer...They also seem to have forgotten that from the begining Dev was very respectful of her family and very fond of them. Calling them mam/sir, gallantly offering to drop Elena home when they first met etc. What happened to that Dev??