Not Understanding Dev's Character - Page 2

Originally posted by: lovely_lady

I haven't watched the show regularly so my opinions may be a bit off, but I'll try to answer your questions as best I can.

1. After Sona took the job, he's generally been nice to her. I mean, there's obviously some friction between them, but that's that. He just started to get a little annoyed when she started interfering in his private life, i.e. buying him a shirt. He wants to keep the relationship professional. But he doesn't realize that keeping Sona in his house will quickly make the relationship turn personal rather than keep it professional. And he doesn't blame her for everything. When Ishwari first got sick after eating all that horribly fattening food she made after dismissing the cook, Dev didn't immediately blame Sona. It was only afterwards when Sona kept quiet that he blamed her. Even then, it's kinda understandable. He didn't know the cook had been dismissed and thought Sona had failed her job.

2. Said earlier, he's generally respectful to her and keeps his distance. But when it comes to his mother, he cannot think straight.

3. Did he know she was gone on a personal leave? I mean, I don't remember Sona telling Dev? But yeah, he felt as if she didn't do her job properly. She just left without leaving food for his mom (it's his fault tho he didn't notice the list on the kitchen). He was rude there I agree.

4. Regarding his behaviour with Sona. I just don't think he's used to someone constantly challenging him like she does. So he behaves by lashing out. In general, I feel like Dev's childhood scarred him in more ways than one. Both Dev and Neha are extremely defensive people who feel like they're always being attacked by others, even when they aren't. So their tendency is to lash out. A good example would be when Sona first told him she got some tests done on his mother and that he wasn't taking care of her. (Sidenote, that was pretty rude of Sona to insinuate he wasn't taking good care of his mother). Sona was probably making a general statement but Dev took it as her attacking him and he responded back harshly.

5. I don't think Dev really knows what happened with Khatri. I doubt Ishwari has told anyone that Khatri tried to molest her. So it makes sense that Dev didn't realize he lived there/ it was a big deal that Khatri lived there. He's only realizing it now, seeing Ishwari's reaction.

I agree in that Dev's character is definitely pretty rude and brash. But I also think it's pretty fitting for the way he's been brought up. Neha and Dev are both damaged people and its reflective in the way they treat people. Neha is shy with others because she hasn't been outside that much and doesn't have much experience tehre, but she's harsh with her family members because those are the people she's always been around. Dev is the opposite. He's nice to his family members but he's much harsher towards strangers. Probably because he went to school/ got educated/ spent more time with strangers and had to bear their taunts and hence developed a harsh skin around them.

I also think Dev is kinda emulating the behaviour he saw growing up. Like in that flashback scene where Ishwari broke her employers vase when she caught Dev skipping school to teach him a lesson, the employer was kinda mean. So we can presume that Dev and his family were treated like dirt because of their poor status by many others and he witnessed how people with money were treated differently and treated others. Hence once he got money, he basically treats people like disposable entities. Sona's right when she talks about how Dev thinks money means he can treat people like dirt.

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I feel immensely grateful to you for analysing Dev's Charecter with so much understanding and depth. You deserve applause. Never did I see any post that came nearer to yours in putting forth the merits and flaws of Dev.You exactly realised how Cvs are trying to present him like never before. It is a multi layered Charecter very complicated but just too endearing to dismiss him as a Charecter not worthy to be loved. Shaheer himself admitted that Dev is very complicated Charecter to portray. And he is doing it with great elan and understanding.Agree with all your points .Especially the Khatri one.You must have remembered the scene in Chak De India. Shahrukh Aka Kabir Khan brings his mother to their old house in Delhi where they were insulted for his failure He could have bought her a villa as then he got back his reputation and power.No. Why? There will be an emotional connect with that place. He returned there only to show people his reality,his worth. Same is the case with Dev. Not thinking about Khatri doesn't make him brainless. Khatri did not figure in his mind while buying that house. That's all. And now he is far more powerful to tackle Khatri kind of people.Thank you very much for understanding the real Dev. I will look forward to read more of your views.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@juhi emotional scars are hard to heal. Any physical injury it will heal. Because we can see it, apply medicine and then with time it heals.

Problem with emotional scars is that we don't know where is the problem. We cannot see them. And so we don't know their existence. Healing an emotional scar needs lot of introspection. For that first you need to accept you are emotionally scarred. Then the healing process will start. It always need a loving person. In Dev's case a loving understanding woman who is emotionally balanced and in Neha's case a man who has his emotions controlled.

Dev is not any criminal. He is a product of a system. A system that doesn't know to treat poor well, a system that has no humanity. If Dev has to change for me when he has nothing wealth or power someone has to love him, stand by him. Showing him the world is not that bad.

I think the bad blood ( if you can even call it that) stems from how they met and how she made him chase her for him to get his way. He's clearly not used to hearing no for an answer, and in terms of his "niceness" it's only ever directed to family ( and that's who we primarily see him engage with). We also get to see him interact with some of his coworkers and he is professional, but in terms of Sona I think that professionalism went down the drain the moment she dropped atta on him and named him Mr. Obodro. He does try to be well composed and nice to her, but Sona doesn't always make it the easiest.

Originally posted by: Bolly*_Crazed

I think the bad blood ( if you can even call it that) stems from how they met and how she made him chase her for him to get his way. He's clearly not used to hearing no for an answer, and in terms of his "niceness" it's only ever directed to family ( and that's who we primarily see him engage with). We also get to see him interact with some of his coworkers and he is professional, but in terms of Sona I think that professionalism went down the drain the moment she dropped atta on him and named him Mr. Obodro. He does try to be well composed and nice to her, but Sona doesn't always make it the easiest.

One can't stop living thinking about death.

Originally posted by: Divine-Pearl

One can't stop living thinking about death.

Same way he shouldn't kill his dreams because of khatri

No doubt prevention is better than cure, but he can't run away from khatri forever. One day he has to face him. Cowards or people who are wrong should run away. Khatri had wronged them, not the other way around, so khatri should hide his face.

When he has money and power, he shouldn't be hiding from any khatri, he doesn't want any revenge, but if khatri wants to again mess up with him, Dev should not move back.

Coming sona, he has been acting selfish. He just ruined the career of young nutritionist just because his mom. He should not misuse his power on less fortunate people, when sona said she doesn't want to be private nutritionist, he should find someone else. When she said no means no.

Working at his house is like just earning money, no job satisfaction. Dev cant give her promotion Or higher status Or any certificate? Dealing with different patient would give her more experience. She is just wasting her time sitting with one crabby old woman who doesn't care about her own health.

Doctor can just write down a prescription or diet plan, if patient doesn't follow it, it's not duty of doctor to run behind patience and forcefully make him/her follow it. Anyone would prefer to write down 100 prescription in a day sitting in a hospital and get just 20000 , than to just waste entire day behind behind an irritating old woman probably in her 50s who has been told 100 times that oil and masala food is not good for you, still she would eat it on every possible opportunity. At least in hospital she won't get blame if any of her patient doesn't follow diet plan intentionally. Here, she (sona) is answerable if ishwari intentionally plan to fall ill.

Sona has accepted job just because there was financial problem at her home and she failed to find any other job.

Dev needs to understand sona is not always in fault and his mom is not flawless.

Agree even sona is not acting like a professional, but whatever has happened with her job and career, she has every right to get angry.

Originally posted by: JuhiRockz

Your take on Khatri is interesting. I never thought it that way.

Agree on Sona's behavior 100%. On top of it I feel sad when she says to Dev's mom let me do the work na. I take so much money. Let's see if CVs try to redeem Dev's character now.😊

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