any forum was is who got married post 30 and had to face criticism?

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Anuppama

@ak75

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Posted: 11 years ago

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I got married at 25. I have seen some of my college friends go thru this. Its very painful for the girl and her parents when people talk like that.

In the show we often hear Ulka and Prachi's MIL taunting Saachi abt her being unmarried.

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Remya

@Remya77

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Originally posted by: ak75
I got married at 25. I have seen some of my college friends go thru this. Its very painful for the girl and her parents when people talk like that.
In the show we often hear Ulka and Prachi's MIL taunting Saachi abt her being unmarried.

Yes Anu, so true...ulka and prachi's Mil are truely the voice of our biased society.

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tina tartari

@tinatartari

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Originally posted by: Remya77

Sabr ka phal meets hota hai... As our sachi said. You will find ur Dv very soon my dear

I just hope so...
plx pray 4 meevery1 who reads my cmnt...

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sudip1203

@sudip1203

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Originally posted by: Remya77

Very true sudip...unless we are strong it becomes difficult to face such situations. The more our society is educated unfortunately the more narrow minded one is becoming.

Ya, I know...but, the reason is also that the education system, sadly does not concentrate on holistic development of students...kids know whats written in books but not what it takes to be a good human being...kids who question are ridiculed and discouraged...also, at home, parents put pressure to get 90% in exams and sadly, leave out the other part of teaching them the basics of life, how to be a good human being, how to respect others and other's freedom and rights , how to accept others's views which may or may not be compatible with ours... 😕

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Sheela1210

@Sheela1210

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Originally posted by: sudip1203

Ya, I know...but, the reason is also that the education system, sadly does not concentrate on holistic development of students...kids know whats written in books but not what it takes to be a good human being...kids who question are ridiculed and discouraged...also, at home, parents put pressure to get 90% in exams and sadly, leave out the other part of teaching them the basics of life, how to be a good human being, how to respect others and other's freedom and rights , how to accept others's views which may or may not be compatible with ours... 😕

very well said sudip!

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nancy

@naneta

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Posted: 11 years ago

#16

nice post...but I hvnt as I m jus 23...in future I don't know.

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lakshmi aparna

@aparna37

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Posted: 11 years ago

#17

It's better to get married after 27 years.

Edited by aparna37 - 11 years ago

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Punya

@PunyaS

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Posted: 11 years ago

#18

I would like to share two instancces that I have seen from really close quarters and thinking about them really make me feel frustrated about our society and it's way of thinking.

First one is of my mausi. she was married in the year 2000 when she was 29. But acc to society she was way past her marriagiable age (Duh!). She was a very outgoing, beautiful and vivacious personality and wanted to marry a guy of her choice. However, that rishta didn't happen and my Nana Nani in haste got her married to another guy. I don't like my mausaji (her husband) for he is a complete shrewd and has a very narrow-minded approach to life. My once vivacious and full of life mausi (as I remember her to be from my childhood) is now a woman with no mind of her own.

I am seeing her life wither away because of the pressure this hopeless society created on my nana-nani to get her married off asap, as if she was a FMCG to be done away with!!! Today I feel sad for her, seeing her wasting her life in an unmatched and incompatible marriage!!

Another one is of my colleague who in due course of time has become a really close friend. She is 31 and unmarried. I see her getting frustrated while recounting various instances where the match was rejected because apparently she does not look like a prototype of tv models (her being a sensitive, caring and responsible person with a beautiful heart doesn't really matter in our beauty obsessed society 😡).

Seeing her dad running pillar to post for a rishta and taking out his frustration on her when things don't materialize breaks my heart. What on earth has she done so wrong that she has to undergo such heartache is beyond my reasoning! Is waiting for a compatible partner such a crime in our society??

Edited by PunyaS - 11 years ago

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vinee_vinee

@vinee_vinee

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Posted: 11 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: PunyaS
I would like to share two instancces that I have seen from really close quarters and thinking about them really make me feel frustrated about our society and it's way of thinking.
First one is of my mausi. she was married in the year 2000 when she was 29. But acc to society she was way past her marriagiable age (Duh!). She was a very outgoing, beautiful and vivacious personality and wanted to marry a guy of her choice. However, that rishta didn't happen and my Nana Nani in haste got her married to another guy. I don't like my mausaji (her husband) for he is a complete shrewd and has a very narrow-minded approach to life. My once vivacious and full of life mausi (as I remember her to be from my childhood) is now a woman with no mind of her own.

Just like your Maasi...even I have seen a similar thing happening to my Maasi too...which I have also shared through this post. I remember whenever any rishta came my mum being the eldest of her siblings would visit my naani's place and I have closely seen what my Maasi always went through. Although I was very young to understand this but not that young to not understand my maasis frustration and her tears whenever the rishta did not materialise. My Mausaji doesn't respects my Maasi and she is living a very loveless life...I feel very bad seeing her like this till now...years after her marriage.

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