I have to say, Ryka, that one line, disappointed me , immensely , coming from you,... I have always appreciated your stand on things and the way your defend your stance, Never expected you to defend that act of his asking for forgiveness for an act that is perceived unpardonable...or may be I am reading different...
So any man, who attempts a near rape on his wife , and comes and says "Laanat hai mujhpe.." the next day or jus goes running and finds her a saree of her choice in rains...or shed a tear should be forgiven and allowed to get away ??
At that rate , half the rapists and men with near close intentions will jus be roaming scott free in this world and we will have no one else to blame but our own mahaaan dils which forgave those despicable intentions...
Milind's intention to scare his wife in that manner was despicable , whether or not the act was carried out in actual...Soch hi gandi thi, harkat tho door ki baat hai!
If Prachi forgave him and thought it was a heartfelt repentance... it was because she is a damn fictional character, but to believe that that was a awesome gesture and his repentance was a glorious act... am sorry, I find it indigestible... much worse... unpardonable......
The woman, who feared the sound of a footstep after the act, and the day after... jus chose to ignore... and look all puppy eyed.. when he called her his wife...
The fact that a rape scene is being given such a romantic feel to it... in these soaps by the creatives is disgusting and much worse.... mocking the trauma of the woman face such situations in real....
Aapki har argument , is valid in its own way, except this one , which I as a woman find hard to accept.. Am sorry.
I dont intend to question you or anyone in particular, but just that why is it that being woman we chose to ignore such a glaringly despicable act ...
The act of rape is a far cry , jus the intention to even attempt it , to scare or otherwise is as unpardonable as the act itself !
Milind can never be forgiven for the act, coz his sister was never forced , but gave in willingly to Alaap, whereas Prachi was literally threatened and manhandled... against her will... and physically abused... which stands no comparision, to the act of willingly going all the way with a man, one believes loves her only to be jilted later...
From which angle did it look like i supported the pretend rape?😕 And from which angle did Milind's act be glorified because of his repentance? That repentance was surely special not because it glorify Milind... but because he accepted his sin and his willingness to pay for this for a lifetime. He NEVER asked for forgiveness for his sin... he said he deserves to rot in hell... and even if Prachi forgives him... he would still be guilty of it and pay for it all his life. Now having attempted that already... what is it that Milind can do? Even if he wants he cant go back and correct it.
What I appreciate about his confession and what he did after that was that it helped the victim to deal with the trauma....with absolutely NO justifications offered from him. Prachi was so traumatised that a sound of footsteps scared her. More than Milind suffering for his crime... My concern is Prachi coping with that trauma and putting it behind her, I surely cant see her sit in a corner frightened all her life... till she gathers the courage or till help reaches her. So for me when that emotional support came from Milind himself and Prachi needed & accepted it, I am fine with it. I am talking abt dealing with the aftermath of the rape and not the rape. I am saying Milind was sensitive in handling the aftermath and that by any means doesn't mean I justify his attempted rape. If I have to justify his rape I would be talking abt his reasons to commit such a thing. I never found it justified and never will. I don't know what made u feel I can glorify such a thing.
I give credit to Milind to be able to establish the security back in Prachi, I give him credit for being able to get his wife trust him and that by no chance was due to his puppy face act. It was in his humility, honesty and genuineness of how ashamed he was about his act. And that saree wasn't just another gift to his wife… It was symbolic of his efforts to restore the dignity he tried to rupture… for that he could fight a life threatening situation, I did make a post on the significance of the saree long back. That wasn't just a saree. How will u explain the two of them nursing eachother wounds which was caused by physical violence that transpired? Forgiving is a different issue…U might as well say Prachi can forgave because she was timid house wife….but how will justify her physical comfort with the man who attempted to rape her and enjoy being with him? She could have feigned and refused to allow him touch her… but no she was comfortable with him. Now how did that happen if it wasn't for Milind establishing her trust in him? I was talking abt that when I made that statement you quoted. For me it is more important of how genuine he was. For me that moment is special because it was a defining moment of Michi's relationship and if I can recall right, we agreed on that in some post abt fave scene of Michi...and I still stand by the fact that it was a defining moment of their relationship... and it will remain spl to me for that.
I am not talking about the general rape that happen… I am talking abt the pretend rape that happened on the show…. I am talking Michi specific. Yes, It is a fictional character and I could have said that only about a fictional character. And no matter how much I condemn Milind's act… I credit him for the way he pulled Prachi out of trauma…. Were u ready to see Prachi suffer every minute? I wasn't… and for that I credit Milind. That surely doesn't even out his mistakes… and I know it and he knows it too. For me the right to make the decision is with the victim and anything she decides in her right frame of mind without any pressures on her, I will accept it with no questions asked. And she decided in favour of Milind… and I respect her choice as much as I would have respected her choice of divorcing him or leaving him or taking legal actions for that crime. When we fight for a woman's rights then why don't we respect her decision whatever it is? It surely doesn't mean a victory to Woman's liberation if she had dragged Milind to the court…. For me the mere fact that she had the right to make a choice is victory and whatever choice she makes is fine and should be respected if we are fighting for her rights, u defeating the purpose of the fight for her rights by questioning her decisions.
I am very clear about what I think and what I stand for and what matters to me at the end of the day to be able to see my ownself in the mirror. More than half the time I am misunderstood and I surely cant do anything abt that than put up what I actually meant… I am used to it by now.
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