love makes you weak? - Page 2

Originally posted by: optimist

Shuba these extremes of either total surrender or total revenge as products of love is basically senseless and in my view belittles the strength of love. I dont know why the characters have to be ruined to show this distorted view of love.

Originally posted by: jinc118

True what you said. But what Milind said was something that is understandable...and beautiful infact...i find that to be a strength of love that it makes you less reckless. But often what is shown is a complete destruction of a person...a person gets ruined in love (a guy more often than women). And that just bothers me. I don't agree with this popular view of love that it makes you...useless basically.

Originally posted by: jinc118

OK this was in reply to Shuba's post.


I don't know if Milind was never show to be his true self again...i would say he was at least a few times...the most recent being during the time right before Ayesha died. He was his self...and he was so Milind Mishra where PPP was concerned...from the first business meeting with her to canceling dinner with her to the way he didn't take too well when she "fell on him" to his violence at the end of it all. That was totally Milind Mishra and he rocked big time...when he yelled at Prachi for hurting herself and to the way he reacted to Ayesha's death... he was totally in character. but since then...so sad...and in the PA track he was a real Zombie until the end of it...i don't want them to make him like that again. The fact that during the Michi reunion part Milind was shown pretty much himself again shows that the current creatives know what the character is like...they better not change him so drastically that he becomes unrecognizable...at the same time i don't want him to be vindictive and full of hate for Prachi...i've seen his hate for Prachi before ..more than once...it was pretty hard to forgive him but i was able to because he didn't do anything too drastic. But each time...my heart comes to my throat thinking that he'll loose control...this time i want him to have a bit of mercy in him...so that i'll be sure he'll not loose control completely and ruin whatever little was remaining there to salvage.

And in your words I don't want him to shatter "Panchi Dasgupta's" world...because she is not Panchi...she is very much still his Prachi and her world is the world of Michi. If he shatters that...it'll just be tragic.

Originally posted by: Bee-dz

That's because more often than not, BT serials are women-centric. Focus is given more to what a woman goes through, how she adapts, and the repurcussions of these situations on her and her loved ones. But its not just BT serials i am talking about...any show i watch...and i watch a number of non-BT shows...they all seem to give out this message..."love makes you loose your senses completely....love bad". Even non-woman centric shows do the same.

So, when it comes to love, it still is no different. women are usually shown to be more stronger, wiser and loyal. Men the opposite - for the most part not always. Agree. By saying that let me add that i am in no way being being gender-biased. just stating the obvious.

But if we were to talk about it generally, then i would say it just depends from person to person. Like JC said, its true that we always hear men being weak when it comes to love. May be it is due to the fact that people start thinking more from their heart and less with their minds?? that could be one reason i guess. oh well, it would be nice to have a man's opinion on this one. Any men in here? Don't think there are any men...but i'll give an example from real life...this guy i know...is around the marriageable age...was quite irresponsible (not a bad guy though) but you know how young ppl are...he worked for himself...and spent all his money on luxuries...reckless in many other ways...when a girl entered his heart.. the guy took a 180 turn...it was delightful to see him like that...we used to tease him so much. But sadly that ended in a bad way...and the guy went crazy...however...the one thing that remained was the change in his attitude towards life. He tells me now that he is glad for the fact that he met her...because it taught him how to live life the way its meant to be enjoyed...and he'll never regret what happened. To me thats the power of true love...its not recklessness...it leaves behind something good...something positive. It makes a person...builds character...rather than destroying them.

Originally posted by: blind horizon

Well hun that's what BT men re portrayed as slaves of passion, sad but true. Though history too is strewn with men in particular who destroyed themselves for love which is rather a harsh reality to deal with.Though fictitious Ranjha, Majnu, Farhad lets not forget our very own Devdas the problem with them was they let love rule them. Yes we all love but we should keep it in a balanced state reasoning with the heart from time to time, you may not believe but I have encountered men in the real world who have out done themselves in terms of love and at such times not only have I been baffled but very much shocked too because the women they took the pains for never acknowledged their misery terming them as stupid and brainless. Talk about being shot and then stabbed that's what happened with them.

Originally posted by: jinc118

Originally posted by: michifanreal

And then JC, Milind can never hate Prachi. He has loved her truly madly deeply. But he will have to put up an act of revenge to again break Prachi's "Dasgupta world". Do you think when Prachi realizes Milind hasn't moved on with Mallika will run away leaving Dasguptas behind (I would be dancing if she did so). Day by day, Proteek seems to be getting determined to make Prachi his. So, even if she wanted to run to Milind, there will be obstacles where she won't be able to tell the truth to Milind and can't do what she wants either. Milind can't be begging her to get back with him. He has done it in the railway station. She didn't listen to him.

Originally posted by: blind horizon

Yes JC parents even today term love as rubbish and shun it considering their children's futures flushed down the drain once they fall in it. The media today had damaged the idea of love specially BT all men are showcased as raging bulls turning into docile cows after they taste the nectar of love. Women though remain strong and vigilant marching ahead with their brains full of sanskars God knows which ones though a selective few I believe.