love makes you weak?

I just heard this dialog in a movie recently... it said that after falling in love...even the manliest of men become softies...

I didn't particularly like this idea on love...but its not the first time i've heard it...that a woman's proximity makes a man's heart and will grow weak.

Why is love depicted in this manner? All tv shows show that once the lead couple falls in love they'll loose their sense of purpose and drive...its all about love...i don't agree with this theory...that love makes you weak and lazy (you know the nikkamma kiya iss dil ne...type scenerio).

I was thinking bout this because of the way Milsi has been depicted often...I totally don't like it. I want my Milind Mighty Mishra back and i want him back without his heart being hard with hate and revenge. I want this guy to prove that his love does not make him weak but is his strength. Why do they do this...ridicule the institution of marriage and insult such revered emotion as love. Why is love shown to have negative effects on a perfectly well functioning person's life. Are they trying to deter people from falling in love and getting married?😕

Couldn't agree with you more JC. Milsi is not recognisable from the man they showed him to be in his initial days of marriage. Yes, love tends to soften one up but that does not mean you lose your senses all together. They have never shown Milsi being assertive, think independently and rationally and be his own man after he fell in love. Don't like this concept of love at all.

Sad but true. I was thinking about it as I walked home from work. After falling in love with Prachi, Milind was never shown to take things in his hand as he used to before.
But then, though he might have spent 5 years of pining in Devdas mode, when he realizes what he was denied of, the same love can turn him vindictive and he might shatter Prachi's Dasgupta world to set things right. At least that's my hope.

Well that's true love makes you weak the biggest example being Milind Mishra. Ever since he fell in love with Prachi he lost his senses as rightly put in his own words during the hospital scene "Pehley main kisi ko bhi maar deta tha, lekin ab main jeena chahta huun tere liye, tera ho ker". Before Prachi too he had responsibilities Suki and Baba but that never stopped him from giving the person on the other end the needful. But with Prachi came his insecurities the fear of losing her made him vulnerable and the best time to attack a person is when he is the most vulnerable and that's what Mallika did.

Shuba these extremes of either total surrender or total revenge as products of love is basically senseless and in my view belittles the strength of love. I dont know why the characters have to be ruined to show this distorted view of love.

That's because more often than not, BT serials are women-centric. Focus is given more to what a woman goes through, how she adapts, and the repurcussions of these situations on her and her loved ones. So, when it comes to love, it still is no different. women are usually shown to be more stronger, wiser and loyal. Men the opposite - for the most part not always. By saying that let me add that i am in no way being being gender-biased. just stating the obvious.

But if we were to talk about it generally, then i would say it just depends from person to person. Like JC said, its true that we always hear men being weak when it comes to love. May be it is due to the fact that people start thinking more from their heart and less with their minds?? that could be one reason i guess. oh well, it would be nice to have a man's opinion on this one. Any men in here?

Opti Akka,
I remember one of Milind's dialogues.. "tension leta hoon bhi zyada, deta hoon bhi zyada". That defines him. He does everything extremes. He took revenge on Ayesha to the extremes. He loved Prachi to extremes that he left his everything when she wasn't there. Now I guess he will again take things to extreme again as realities open in front of him.

OK this was in reply to Shuba's post.


I don't know if Milind was never show to be his true self again...i would say he was at least a few times...the most recent being during the time right before Ayesha died. He was his self...and he was so Milind Mishra where PPP was concerned...from the first business meeting with her to canceling dinner with her to the way he didn't take too well when she "fell on him" to his violence at the end of it all. That was totally Milind Mishra and he rocked big time...when he yelled at Prachi for hurting herself and to the way he reacted to Ayesha's death... he was totally in character. but since then...so sad...and in the PA track he was a real Zombie until the end of it...i don't want them to make him like that again. The fact that during the Michi reunion part Milind was shown pretty much himself again shows that the current creatives know what the character is like...they better not change him so drastically that he becomes unrecognizable...at the same time i don't want him to be vindictive and full of hate for Prachi...i've seen his hate for Prachi before ..more than once...it was pretty hard to forgive him but i was able to because he didn't do anything too drastic. But each time...my heart comes to my throat thinking that he'll loose control...this time i want him to have a bit of mercy in him...so that i'll be sure he'll not loose control completely and ruin whatever little was remaining there to salvage.

And in your words I don't want him to shatter "Panchi Dasgupta's" world...because she is not Panchi...she is very much still his Prachi and her world is the world of Michi. If he shatters that...it'll just be tragic.

i think BT is FAAAAR removed from true life. i think they've got dissatisfaction and peace all mixed up. maybe their directors/writers are too young.

Originally posted by: blind horizon

Well that's true love makes you weak the biggest example being Milind Mishra. Ever since he fell in love with Prachi he lost his senses as rightly put in his own words during the hospital scene "Pehley main kisi ko bhi maar deta tha, lekin ab main jeena chahta huun tere liye, tera ho ker". Before Prachi too he had responsibilities Suki and Baba but that never stopped him from giving the person on the other end the needful. But with Prachi came his insecurities the fear of losing her made him vulnerable and the best time to attack a person is when he is the most vulnerable and that's what Mallika did.

True what you said. But what Milind said was something that is understandable...and beautiful infact...i find that to be a strength of love that it makes you less reckless. But often what is shown is a complete destruction of a person...a person gets ruined in love (a guy more often than women). And that just bothers me. I don't agree with this popular view of love that it makes you...useless basically.