Originally posted by: Shalzie
Ok got your POVs. You are right in what you wrote. I simply viewed the eps from a fictional POV. As you know, I am not from India. So, there are many things which I never had to face or even am aware of. But the way I justify the story is that it's a different environment and culture from what I am used to. In my corner of the world, it is frowned upon to marry in the same family. I do not understand the concept of marrying cousins. I agree that I overlooked certain problematic aspects of Murtasim's character in the beginning but the rational was that he was like that due to his upbringing and environment. If you look at the eps after the slap scene, they changed Murtasim's character. He becomes supportive of Meerab.
my impression from the start was that murtasim is a highly egoistic character who cannot bear to be questioned or shown the mirror. so at some point, he will devolve further than a slap was not surprising. I couldn't keep the slap aside because I didn't think it was warranted in any way. he slapped her so hard that she passed out. thats why I didn't buy his latter support. my feel was that it won't last long and I dropped the drama because I was getting so irked.
as for cousin's marriage, I am not sure I get it even though I know some of the cultural logic behind it. so in my culture (south indian), we have cross cousin marriage -- meaning a brother and sister's children can marry. because the sister has married out and therefore under another family tree, her children are cousins but not cousin sister/brother.
whereas, if two brothers/sisters had children, we would be cousin sister/brother and basically extended siblings. even the word for uncle/aunt is so defined -- so your father's older brother translates to big father. similar with aunt. basically it means that your father's brother or your mother's sister are almost equivalent to your parents. whereas the word for uncle aunt where it is your father's sister or your mother's brother shows a degree of separation and they are partially different family tree so to speak.
in my family, we grew up with having extended sibling relationships with many of my cousins and a very paternal/maternal vibe with some of my uncles and aunts who saw themselves as extended parents.
so a part of me does cringe when I see cousin's marriage in dramas and movies. but it was explained to me by my elders that the cultural logic in those days was those marrying someone known was better than unknown. basically they thought a relative wouldn't harass or discriminate a daughter-in-law. however all the serials (as well as some real life) shows that the opposite is true. 🤣 I think marrying within the family/clan only leads to more family politics and not better family relationships. 😂
in PK, it seems all cousins are up for marriage material which I don't really get. hard for me to imagine the lack of extended siblings, extended parental aunts/uncles and fun of everyone being an extended family feels.
Edited by mango.falooda - 2 years ago
