"Confusion is a word we have invented for an order which is not yet understood"
- Henry Miller
Which geeky moron invented the word 'confusion'? Hai Eesh right now I am confused as hell!
What should my stand be or shouldn't be with respect to the matter at hand?
😕 Lovely emoticon this - this is how I'm looking right now!
Up till a few moments ago, I hadn't quit altogether but had decided not to post anything until something definite happened.
I read this awesome thread and realize Raaga monkey, you are only being a darn escapist - allowing bhejas to fry and probably in some kona of yourself, enjoying it too! Beast! But ah Princess, your thread did wonders and it obtained you exactly one blessing and one curse from me! One blessing for opening my eyes, one curse for opening my eyes and disturbing my drooling over my Munna - awww this guy only gets better by the day
Now before I talk further nonsense, I want to quickly applaud the efforts of the Dev Team. Princess, Minnie and Sree, you are awesome women and I wish I could boast of being at least half as mature, patient and sensible as you guys. Thank you very much for your dedication and taking the time out to explain things to us so the whole situation is in front of us and we can try and understand and if possible and willing to, can pitch in and help too, so that our KS parivar is back to normalcy. Thanks indeed.
Correct me if I am wrong but from what I have understood, Khoo and Monika have been entrusted with the responsibility of this section and they have been doing a great job. We owe them for maintaining the spirit of this forum. We are also indebted to each and every member of our Parivar for making this section one of the livliesta dn the best places to be on net. We are one huge family. But like it happens in all families, something happened and it is not new to anybody that Khoo Monika and the AF started having lot of issues. The twists and turns that the AF thread has undergone has not been suffered by even my Munna! I have no right to comment on whether what happened with that thread was right or wrong or wise or foolish because I was hibernating then, because at least one of the AFians is my thick pal and moreover, it is pointless anyway. But the bottom line was that the decision of the two who thought were responsible for this section was overruled and this happened more than once. Naturally it was taken as an insult and when you are insulted by a supposed outsider and that too in your own house whose almost every corner bears your name, you cannot pretend you are a mahatma and you are loving and enjoying every moment of it! After all Khoo and Monika are not Amma and thank god they are not!
It may be that I am wrong and some entirely different issue has angered them. And I think 'anger' is not an appropriate here. I think the two are more hurt than angry.
But two things are clear:
1. The AF is not to be blamed and I think it's very childish to hurl nasty vituperations their way and openly hint that they quit the forum. To quote Princess 'Quitting is no solution' especially when it was never the solution!
2. The members of the IF Dev team are not responsible either. Thanks Minnie for clarifying that you guys are not sitting idly with hand on hand and are making efforts to solve this totally unnecessary issue.
And I wish people will take the trouble of studying both sides of the coin before they jump to conclusions and lay the blame at one person's door. I nearly became guilty of this very same offence but thank God I found the right path at the right time. There is no point in quitting and shunning responsibility. We are mature and responsible people and even if we are not like I am not, because we are all after all different but one thing that is common to each of us that has been responsible for this Parivar for this bonding is that we all love each other, we love our Parivar, we can go to any extent to get it back on track.
And that's what each of us doing in his/her own way. In a way I am glad this happened. Don't kick me but like they say it is only in darkness that you understand the value of daylight and you actually understand the value of something you have taken for granted. I for one have taken this Parivar for granted. This was an escape world for me where at the click of a key I could be transported in to fairy land and I could lose myself and I had no choice but to give reign to the foolish child in me. This Parivar has been an eye opener in more ways than one. This place brought out the hidden 'me' and I found out so many things about myself that I didn't even realize existed. I made so many friends so any relationships. This was my utopia. We were all queens and nothing could wrong.
But one fine day I find my fairy world upside down and I realize the worth of this world I had taken for granted, the worth of the silent people slogging away to keep my fairyland in ace condition. I also see that in spite of the differences that separate us and make us individuals, we are all beads of the same necklace bound by the same thread.
We are the same people who were jumping up and down when the C scene happened. We are the same people who screamed through the roof when that cockroach brained Pia barged in to JB's private moments. We are the same people who unanimously agreed to say goodbye to KS if and when the JP angle happened.
We are the same people who pray like there is no tomorrow when any of our co parvarian is in any kind of trouble.
Today we are the same people standing together wishing our Parivar gets back to what it was. Agreed that the way in which we express ourselves is different but even today we are together and united in the goal to get back our perturbed family members back and get our family rocking again.
Had not this incident occurred, we would have gone on taking things for granted and the world could never have got to see our mutual love and unity. But we cannot help but feel sad that this unpleasant incident need not have taken place in the first place. But what's happened has happened. The trick is to stop blaming people and try and do away with threats or emotional black mail and try and help if you can.
The reason why I thought I will keep mum till things get back on track was because I believe in solidarity and not because it was a protest against the Dev team or any particular section or that I endorse the reasoning or pleas or behavior or statement of any person(s).
One thing I am violently against is forcing people to come back by what ever means. Like someone said here, give them time. They have not had an easy time either. I am sure Khoo and Monika and all those people who have left are as distressed and confused as we are. It would not have been an easy decision to tear themselves off from their family. So let's give them time for time is the greatest healer, isn't he?
In no time our friends will be back and we will be a rocking family once again for none of us are morons like our duffer couple that we will willingly kick our happiness and stay away from the place that means so much to us. So let's just leave it to time.
I would like to take this opportunity to thanks each and every member of the Dev team. I reckon many of you must be housewives working women busy students having your own busy life to handle. I think it's commendable that you guys take time out for us from your busy schedule and make this place so lovely. We owe you our family.
Thanks loves. And thank you to each and every member of my family. KS Parivar is what it is thanks to you! A huge hug to all you! I so love my family!
Khoo and Monika and to all of you who have abandoned us, if you are reading this, we beseech you to come back but after having shed all the bitterness all the unnecessary baggage. I am sure nothing was ever meant to intentionally offend you guys.
We love you and this place is not the same without you.
I am not going to make any post until my family is back because I just don't have the heart to post anything and pretend everything is normal when it is so not.
My dear loves, our KC scene is around the corner and how can we enjoy with this sword hanging above us?
We don't deserve this. You don't deserve this. What ever decision you take, please remember your family is lost without you!
Tact and subtlety have never been my strong point. My heart felt apologies if I have hurt any one with my words and/or sentiments.
Tomorrow is another day and I hope tomorrow is gong to be the best day for our Parivar! Amen
-Raaga