What a fab performance by Ram!! - Page 50

Originally posted by: aditee

AD, Pi

Hope you do find that special some one soon 😛
Mine was an arranged marriage..... and I had my fantasies too but JW IS JUST NOT THERE IN THE REAL WORLD, OR HE DIDNT EXIST IN THE 1990's DELHI 😭

We can again blame M&B for cooking up these ideas in our brains, ivy league educated, good looking bhi chahiye, rich bhi, sexy bhi, smart bhi, (speaks fluent English, this was my first condition:-)..........

When we pick the guy we either "think" we got it all or some happy medium 😛

😊 Thanks Aditee. Well like I said I'd rather just not have too high expectations so they won't be crushed later 😛.....well that's my philosphy at least....different things work for different people. I think that "happy medium" is something for everyone to keep in mind while choosing a partner coz there's no one ideal guy.....or so i've come to the conclusion at....so someone who closest fits the bill should do! But now when you start with RK as the ideal guy all the other guys have some pretty big shoes to fill 😉😆

Originally posted by: armaandeewani

What changes did u want in particular?

Nothing other than the ones you mentioned really....communication was my key one 😉

Originally posted by: aditee

AD
I totally agree Indian marriages, be it love or arranged does not place ANY emphasis on talking......... the couples just go with the flow, as long as there is no crisis. Crisi about the emotional quotient is rare, I mean mostly its MIL problems, or kids studies or money......... Indian marriages/couples talking about how one feels about the other or how often they shud be having sex etc is UNHEARD OF.....

American shaadiyon mein maine dekha hai, in fact desis will often make fun of this by saying "Honey we need to talk!"

Indian couples I know of and am close to ( I dont know the 1 billion 😆 ) not one has ever told me they "talk"........... thats a perfect recipe for drifting apart over the yrs. That Oprah show last week just reinforced the fact that even gora marriages are like that

The list u mentioned is pretty much what I can imagine the issues being for the couples in my family...parents...aunts/uncles...cousins. But I also know one big (+) is that in all these cases they know that watever it is they need to make it work...and there is no solution but to make it work. Whereas in gora marriages and Indian marriages of the new generation usually kuch aur nahi toh final solution is divorce...very sad.

Originally posted by: aditee

AD
I totally agree Indian marriages, be it love or arranged does not place ANY emphasis on talking......... the couples just go with the flow, as long as there is no crisis. Crisi about the emotional quotient is rare, I mean mostly its MIL problems, or kids studies or money......... Indian marriages/couples talking about how one feels about the other or how often they shud be having sex etc is UNHEARD OF.....

American shaadiyon mein maine dekha hai, in fact desis will often make fun of this by saying "Honey we need to talk!"

Indian couples I know of and am close to ( I dont know the 1 billion 😆 ) not one has ever told me they "talk"........... thats a perfect recipe for drifting apart over the yrs. That Oprah show last week just reinforced the fact that even gora marriages are like that

Actually I would think Aditee that gora marriages are even more so like that. Coz I mean they might have the communication but they don't have the will to compromise. Whereas in Indian marriages compromisation is like the USP. Almost every Indian marriage I know of (I don't know the 1 billion either 😆) has some sort of compromisation embedded in it. They might not "talk" per se but they keep it together somehow....don't know if that's the ideal marriage but at least they keep it together. 😕

Originally posted by: aditee

The root cause cud be..... men are so much less talkative and expressive in general.......... na woh khud kuch kehte hain na hi woh 10 mins se zyaada kisi ki sun na chahte hain 😉

Men = defective pieces 😆😆

Originally posted by: Piscean

😊 Thanks Aditee. Well like I said I'd rather just not have too high expectations so they won't be crushed later 😛.....well that's my philosphy at least....different things work for different people. I think that "happy medium" is something for everyone to keep in mind while choosing a partner coz there's no one ideal guy .....or so i've come to the conclusion at....so someone who closest fits the bill should do! But now when you start with RK as the ideal guy all the other guys have some pretty big shoes to fill 😉😆

I really agree w/that...it kills me when I see ppl around me (or even me myself at times) imagine marrying a hunk or some high-class sophisticated guy when we ourselves are far from being just that. Being an average looking nicely educated person it makes no sense to be dreaming of some 'ideal' guy...like Akshay Kumar's character in Dhadkan or Bobby Deol's role in Humraaz...nice to watch in a movie...then it's time to snap into reality.

After that bitter reality meds, back to hottie.......

(Wonder what the silent readers are thinking abt our exchange? hmm)

Must be fooled into thinking hum teeno sudhar gaye hence 3 beds asylum mein khaali rahenge, but not for long........ here comes my ride to insaniworld 😆

In the episode she sews his button and soon after the breakfast scene (i know i know main 2 hazar baar baat kar chuki hoon is baare mein:-)

So any ways........... when she is telling aditya abt whats wrong with her, look at JW's expressions, he's itching to ask her something, but controls himself with great difficulty, OMG, did he look hot or what in taht scene..........

But koi baat nahi even tho he didnt ask, she didnt tell him, she did "tell" him with her eyes that she was going to bed

These two! Huh! Kya boloon main

Originally posted by: armaandeewani

I think this is why I don't ever see myself married...because this is the ideal guy...and he doesn't exist. And I refuse to settle for less...my parents know I am far too stubborn to argue w/for long. So as sad as it sounds na mile toh koi baat nahi...zindagi bhaar will have to make do w/such eye-candy. Btw I am completely w/u on the 'speak English' bit...a friend of mine is on shaadi.com...I shortlist half of the guys lol cuz they can't spell or write gramatically correct...wat a turn off. She thinks I'm too harsh 😆 ...

I guess we differ in our ideology that way AD but I have to agree with the 2 of you on the English bit too. I must say the one thing that kept me hooked to this forum was the articulate writing of some of the people here. And I guess similarly it's a turn-on if a guy is able to articulate what he's trying to say/write well! Poor guys have to meet with so many demands. Waise AD aur kya kya demands hai tere? 😉

Originally posted by: armaandeewani

The list u mentioned is pretty much what I can imagine the issues being for the couples in my family...parents...aunts/uncles...cousins. But I also know one big (+) is that in all these cases they know that watever it is they need to make it work...and there is no solution but to make it work. Whereas in gora marriages and Indian marriages of the new generation usually kuch aur nahi toh final solution is divorce...very sad.

Man AD it's scary how u and I think so alike....I just said something to that extent to the same post by Aditee! 😕😃

Originally posted by: Piscean

Men = defective pieces 😆😆

Take Jai Walia...if he just heard Bani out every once in a while kya loot jaata uska. Kaal when he asked Bani for a simple 'yes or no'...for a change man leave ur male single-direction thinking land and understand that things are not always black and white (actually are they ever---except for Jigs and Roshni).