Why the heck was Gauri crying up a storm? - Page 2

well.....like they say sum things are easier said then done.....even if he hasnt sed he luvs her she luvs him n is possesive about him....u get me lol

neway tc

farina

Originally posted by: farina_m

well.....like they say sum things are easier said then done.....even if he hasnt sed he luvs her she luvs him n is possesive about him....u get me lol

neway tc

farina

yes i get u😊 and its very true as sana also said that u become attached to even a pet but then he(shiv) is a human and that to ur husband so ofcourse gauri will get attached to him and this very much happens in reality as well .....even if ur husband is not wat u expect him to be u naturally fall in luv wid him ...(well i believe in most of the cases this happens)😊

Khyaatee, so good to see you back on the forum and thank you for seeing my point of view as well... I know I did put it across strongly that my sympathies dont lie with Gauri and neither do they with Shiv...

I have always believed and still do, that love( oh how I hate to use this word....sorry pardon me...) .. makes one strong.... and not weak... and sets you free rather than bind you.... and that which binds and weakens you is no love...

As you said both of them may be at fault for their situations, but as on today, I do not empathize with Gauri crying... coz she was aware that Shiv did not love her.... Yeah about the cheating part .... yes , it hurts the sentiments of a wife.. even if it is jus a platonic one... I agree.. but lets jus see, has Gauri ever given him a chance or asked him about his love or been open about it? Instead , she has always shut him up with her emotional saga about her love for him... She tried to bind him, she wanted to give it a shot....when he wanted to set her free....

She is crying today not because he cheated on her, but she lost a battle that Shiv never wanted to fight... she was fighting a lost battle....She is crying that she couldnt get Shiv to be bound in the marriage....

All said and done , they are soulmates which is what I believe , but as an individual action, I do not at all sympathize when people cry for an action or a situation that is their own doing...

Sorry Khyaatee, but I loved reading your POV and chipping in my thoughts! I must say, I completely see where you are coming from, and much as I want to agree, I cannot accept that Gauri is to be sympathized or her crying is justified...

everything people are saying is tru but gauri was told by shiv himself that he does not know anything about the girl in the protrait were she is etc etc, and now to find that she was with him all this time and stuff make shiv's marriage to gauri all the more calculating in her eyes

Originally posted by: vcool

hmmmmm , i agree wid i guess all the views given, and i believe gauri did brought this on herself but still as every 1 said she is after all human and her crying is justified 😭 ...shiv did mislead her as she believes that he luvs the portrait only and not an actual human,and she is wrong coz despite shivz recurrent warnings she is still wid him! 😊 sareeta sweety nice to hear form u, we miss ya!😊

Aww Reem, you are such a dahling! Good to hear from you too! Yeah I agree with you statement that all the thoughts chipped in seem right in their own way and respect all of them and at the end of the day , show our perceptions towards situations.... implicitly.... its really nice to see such a variety of perceptions towards a single situation but at the end of the day, I agree with what Pippa Ji had to say... coz itz what I believed too....

Expectations and Blame games are something personally I dont identify with at all ... and hence my perception that Gauri having expectations from Shiv , that too froma marriage doomed from thestart .. seemed , in plain words.... "unreal..."

My thoughts!

Originally posted by: sareeta

Aww Reem, you are such a dahling! Good to hear from you too! Yeah I agree with you statement that all the thoughts chipped in seem right in their own way and respect all of them and at the end of the day , show our perceptions towards situations.... implicitly.... its really nice to see such a variety of perceptions towards a single situation but at the end of the day, I agree with what Pippa Ji had to say... coz itz what I believed too....

Expectations and Blame games are something personally I dont identify with at all ... and hence my perception that Gauri having expectations from Shiv , that too froma marriage doomed from thestart .. seemed , in plain words.... "unreal..."

My thoughts!

sareeta sweety these r for u🤗 🤗🤗, and abt the situation.....i am kinda confused and as u said every1s pov's are rite in their own way also i agree wid that and i believe wat u said at the end is also very much true...i guess she shldnt have pinned up her hopes soo high, but i guess this is wat ekta is trying to show that in reality girls do expect a lot from suffering realtionships and end up hurting themselves .....😭...., nehow i do feel sry for her....😭

Originally posted by: vcool

sareeta sweety these r for u🤗 🤗🤗, and abt the situation.....i am kinda confused and as u said every1s pov's are rite in their own way also i agree wid that and i believe wat u said at the end is also very much true...i guess she shldnt have pinned up her hopes soo high, but i guess this is wat ekta is trying to show that in reality girls do expect a lot from suffering realtionships and end up hurting themselves .....😭...., nehow i do feel sry for her....😭

Reem , dahling, thanks so much!!! * big hug to you too* and as for what Ekta is trying to show, that girls do expect a lot... well I see your point and yep it is true a large extent , but it is high time, we break out of it....

Women are treated as door mats , coz they chose to be treated that ! If a woman chooses to fight back , she can much as well, but how many of us dare to fight back and refrain and confine ourselves to crying and blaming our upbringing and fate for the situations we are in ? Gauri is a personification of one such ....There is a saying.."You are what you want to be..." ... and Gauri has chosen to cry ... and shed tears rather than do something... I did have a lot of respect for this character when she walked back to Shiv, coz I thought she knew what she wanted... and was sure, but it seems, she has pinned too many hopes and is walking the lane of blame game and live a cucconned life in a illusion... Illusions dont get us very far and Gauri is doing that and I cannot appreciate that aspect!

Originally posted by: sareeta

Reem , dahling, thanks so much!!! * big hug to you too* and as for what Ekta is trying to show, that girls do expect a lot... well I see your point and yep it is true a large extent , but it is high time, we break out of it....

Women are treated as door mats , coz they chose to be treated that ! If a woman chooses to fight back , she can much as well, but how many of us dare to fight back and refrain and confine ourselves to crying and blaming our upbringing and fate for the situations we are in ? Gauri is a personification of one such ....There is a saying.."You are what you want to be..." ... and Gauri has chosen to cry ... and shed tears rather than do something... I did have a lot of respect for this character when she walked back to Shiv, coz I thought she knew what she wanted... and was sure, but it seems, she has pinned too many hopes and is walking the lane of blame game and live a cucconned life in a illusion... Illusions dont get us very far and Gauri is doing that and I cannot appreciate that aspect!

thnkooo for ur hug sweety😳*mwah*, and sareeta very well said👏 !and i know that many women r suffering at the hands of abusive and onesided reltionships in the nameof love and wat not ....and i agree wid u that we shld break out of our expectations..... ,coz if we wont help ourselves then no 1 will and there is no 1 who will give a damn abt our tears and problems coz other ppl have their own problems to deal wid and to expect sympathy from ppl is also wrong coz if u dont sympathize wid urself then no 1 will sypmathize wid u and treat u like a doormat and wat not ,and one must put their trust in God and only expect from him who is the provider of everything rather than ppl....so i agree its high time women sympathize wid themselves and stop living in illusions coz no 1 can love u more than u urself (i hope i made sum sense😕(became kinda emotional) , and sareeta onceagain very well-written👏(missed ur awesome insights😊)!!!

sareta same here it feels so good to read your point of views after such a long time..

i'm happy to be back and actually i was missing your thoughts ..

today it feels so good to read your point of view and take part in the discussion...

back to the topic and once again i loved reading it and agree with what you said...i loved that bit you wrote.

"She is crying today not because he cheated on her, but she lost a battle that Shiv never wanted to fight... she was fighting a lost battle....She is crying that she couldnt get Shiv to be bound in the marriage"....

so right sareeta..

my opinion now its high time for gauri to see the truth and that is shiv was never hers from the beginning nor he will be hers in the future watever sacrifices she does..

high time for shiv to be brave and face the reality also to free himself from this guilt and free gauri from this bhram that he will be hers..

high time for ipshy to support shiv and make him stronger and not weak so as he can reveal the truth to gauri..

on monday i'm sure gauri will not believe wat she had seen "the hugging"and trust shiv but both of them must seize this opportunity to tell her about their relationship and set her free though it will break her heart and shatter her world..

sareeta why sorry in fact it was so good reading your point of views and you know how much i appreciate them..

hope to discuss more topics like this and its good to read others point of views also...

Originally posted by: 3 angels

"She is crying today not because he cheated on her, but she lost a battle that Shiv never wanted to fight... she was fighting a lost battle....She is crying that she couldnt get Shiv to be bound in the marriage"....

so right sareeta..

my opinion now its high time for gauri to see the truth and that is shiv was never hers from the beginning nor he will be hers in the future watever sacrifices she does..

high time for shiv to be brave and face the reality also to free himself from this guilt and free gauri from this bhram that he will be hers..

high time for ipshy to support shiv and make him stronger and not weak so as he can reveal the truth to gauri..

on monday i'm sure gauri will not believe wat she had seen "the hugging"and trust shiv but both of them must seize this opportunity to tell her about their relationship and set her free though it will break her heart and shatter her world..

hope to discuss more topics like this and its good to read others point of views also...

same here 3 angels, i rly hope wat u said comes true coz it is high time for every1 now! and agree wid ur view pt.s very well-said !👏