Such fragile trust - Page 3

Originally posted by: BoxedIn

I would say 'trust' is a two-way street. Nandini's trust for Manik didn't come in a day, nor was it unexplained in any way. It came because he had 'earned' it. Given their history, Nandini could have chosen to ignore all the little signs of goodness she had seen in him and walk away, but she did not. Willingly or unwillingly, he showed his trustworthy side to her through little incidents, and she actively chose to believe in him and overlook that 'monstrous' side that she was well-aware existed in him.

Trusting someone is always a choice you make based upon their actions. Expecting Nandini, or any other character for that matter, to be a mind-reader and get through immense pain and shock in order to read his eyes is extremely unrealistic in my opinion. Yes, unconditional trust should exist in a relationship, but that can only happen when it is supported by communication. Every time Nandini 'saw through' Manik and comforted him, she already had an inkling that he was disturbed in some way, be it when he hugged her or when he shouted at her when she told him about Cabir. This is why the responsibility for this particular fiasco rests solely on Manik for me. He simply did not communicate. Instead he deliberately hit her where it would hurt her the most. He cheapened the trust he had built himself. Nandini, in the future, might figure out his reasons. I am hoping she will. But her 'trust' should not return until Manik learns to communicate honestly.

Originally posted by: zohasad2.0

Fab post dear!

Trust is one of the most important yet fragile things. People come and go and what remains mainly is trust coz u link that trait to judge a person every single time.

When u say u love someone, it doesn't always imply that you trust that person. In their case I would say that yes they trusted each other in little things, petty cases...even in some bigger occasions but they only trusted when they wanted to.Ultimately you trust a person coz u want to. You choose to believe him/her, put your full confidence in him/her.

Manik wanted her to believe that he is the MONSTER...hamesha and she believed him. BEcause he was convincing enough and she chose to believe it. It is always easy tos ay she could have still questioned...but dde when a guy is saying all that ON YOUR FACE why would someone think of any other lame excuse just in order to believe him.

Now is the real test...they will have to go through this TOGETHER...and build their relation on TRUST...real TRUST.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Indeed😆

Yes, Monster Manik has made the most impact on Nandu...that is the side of Manik that she has seen the most...he has always successfully confused her by displaying that persona...it's rare that she's managed to see past that persona of his...

True...trust was in it's nascent stages right now...with time it might have solidified more and withstood this test possibly...

But then it's all just been timed so well...Manik and Nandu could sense each other's feelings but they both wanted to hear it from the other's mouth first...Manik much more than Nandu...and looked at in a certain light, it can be considered suspicious that he only wanted to hear her say that she loves him...to elaborate what she thinks of him now...so that left room open for the misunderstanding to take hold...that she was just a challenge he wanted to win.

oh yes..when we think of it now..writers were smart indeed to leave such a big scope of misunderstanding...no one could catch it no..??? good observation yaar

In that sense the writers have been smart about it...OFFICIAL love confession nahin hua😆...they saved it for later I guess...round 2 of when these two get together😆

seriously..i would have loved this more than official confession but alas manik ne sab beautiful moments ka intentionally kachra kar diya..

Regarding your question...yes I think Manik would still have tried this method even if they'd progressed further in their relationship...whether Nandu would have believed it as easily then or not is open to speculation.

Waise there seem to be bigger troubles ahead for Fab 5 now with Cabir's secret out to everyone...this will only make Cabir and the group hate Nandu more...Manik will have to manage that too...
yes ofc he has to deal with Cabir and manage accusation on nandini..and atm it will be a distraction for him ...plus there is this alya who is gonna bug him hard as she might ask for his support to make Dhruni happen..what a torture it would be for him ?😆
Now even if Nandu accidentally sees Manik's true feelings surface from time to time, she will find it hard to believe and trust what she sees...always wondering if this is some new plan of his to trick her.

Originally posted by: OneThatGotAway

Young love yes ! 😆 The first thing that comes to young ppl's mind when they are in love is FOREVER. When you are young and all dewy eyed, it all seems so great in theory ... because then they are too young to know what forever actually is. I knew something was going to go wrong the moment Manik started extorting promises of HAMESHA from Nandu ! 😆 Same here😆...Hamesha came a leetle too quickly😆

That's the thing about young love, you love with all your heart so your brain doesn't come into play. Which is why as much as it feels good to FEEL with all your heart, when you are faced with a test like this ... you are missing the one KEY player that could bail you out of this mess, your brains. And so you have no choice but to yield. And suffer. Bingo👍🏼

Bitchin' paradox - Man its like Hopeception. Hope against hope against hope ! 😆 LMFAO...what an analogy, Rafi👏👏...you are too good at this stuff😆But alas it failed him and how so ! Because, Monster Manik, unfortunately is a facade he had perfected over the years. So when the time came to press the self-destruct button, it served him perfectly. Except he wishes it didn't but this is HIS Frankenstein that he brought back to life for this very purpose ... of crushing Nandu and his first love. Yes he's created this monster so he will have to bear the burden that comes with it, deal with the destruction it wreaks...self-destruction is nothing new for Manik...but this time he's pulled Nandu along into this mode and her pain will not let him be at peace.

I said this somewhere else , and I am elaborating on it further here . The best thing about young love is its resilience. Young love suffers, young love weathers and young love bounces back. Like the tender bamboo shoots that bend when a gust of wind comes , and bounces right back up. Its that quality of pliability that you no longer have when you grow older. By that time you are already jaded by the big bad world and all the eeevil in it ... it hardens you , and hardened trees no longer have it in them to withstand a storm, they just let it blow them over. But when you are as young as Manik & Nandini are, you still have that zest for life ...Very well said👏👏...oh the optimism of youth...what a lovely thing it is....😊that willingness to give life every chance it asks for. Which is why I say when I say what I say. I have hope for these two.

Originally posted by: poo_j

Very well explained..👏 Completely agree!

P.S: I remember your amazing posts in NBT 1..Glad to see you here..

Originally posted by: Sanely_Insane

I saw Anu and all the LTL memories came back. Good ol' days. 😆

Very well explained, I was always intimidated by your posts, lol.

Their journey has been a smooth one, the transition from hate to love was quite..err quick(?) And this is their testing time. They need to go away from each other only to come back, this separation is needed for them to grow, to realize what they actually meant to each other. There is trust, but not as strong as it should have been.

You can't blame Nandini for not trusting him, it was all new to her, he was very convincing, she never really pondered over the transition from hate to love, she never really thought about how he changed from a monster to a human, why did he change? What made him change?

The new feelings and emotions made her euphoric, she was only going with the flow.

And Manik, whatever he did was outright wrong, he had no right to claim for her trust and break it into pieces the next day. But he made this assumption that this love was not meant for him, it was meant for his buddy, the good guy, and Manik snatched it from Dhruv. He thinks Nandini deserves to be with the good guy, not realizing that Dhruv was made a good guy by Manik himself. He will realize how wrong he was. And then, he'll work his ass off to win her back.

That moment where he says "toh rok lo mujhe" and she recollects all the times he asked her to voice out her feelings for him, and then she says "isliye you wanted to know what I feel about you?", the disbelief in her voice, he closed his eyes as he knew his job was done, she believed in his lie, although he didn't want her to. His plan worked, although he didn't want it to work.

He will have to work very very hard to build the trust, make her believe in love again, because she is shattered, she lost all her belief, she let go of her fireflies.

Angst, is going to be painful. There's no "fun".

Originally posted by: -sylph-

You are Anu right???

I have always loved reading your takes, so happy to see you in these forum.

You are so right here, the trust is so fragile.

I do get why Manik pulled of this stint, but seeing her broken so bad and also he needs to know he cannot make her fall for Dhruv now when he is her true love, he needs to set Dhruv free, he needs to tell truth to Dhruv and make him face it and he himself needs to learn that he cannot take decisions for others..

Same way i do get why Nandu believed his monster side soon, but had she trusted him enough it should have struck her somewhere , she has seen his humane side way too many times and that was not a lie, him saving Rishab, his loyalty towards fab5 and care ,love for them, him saving her a few times , the moments she spent with him where he dint put up the facade of being the monster, she known his vulnerable state.. May be Nandu still needs better understanding of Manik , she has not known him properly yet that is why she was so easily convinced on his act.. He almost pleaded indirectly if she can stop him, it was not the moment where she could think about all those, but i do want her to ponder over all these and some where feel that this aint the Manik she has come to understand , she needs to fight for her love she cannot just let it go..

Both Manik and Nandini have growing up to do, trust a better understanding needs to be built from both ends..

Wonderful post Anu👏.. Makes me think from both the sides so well now..

yest i was way too pissed with Manik's act, but the growing up is needed for both here..