Can somebody understand how much ROHIT IS GOING THROUGH !!!! - Page 4

When and where did Rohit blame Sonakshi? He merely stated that theirs was a fake relationship and it was done on his insistence. The only thing that I can infer here is that he did not want to be put on the spot and have to be choosing between Sonakshi and Raima right then. Not because he did not know what he wanted but because he did not want to be forced to make the choice at that instance. After four iyears, the chance to undo the damage that he believed he had done to Raima was before him. As a doctor, that was his priority and he was doing whatever he believed needed to be done to protect the interests of a patient. Even if we assume he was prioritizing his professional interests over his personal relations, it is what doctors normally do. Personal relations and issues are put on the backburner when faced with a medical crisis. In the middle of all this, his mother was asking him to make a personal choice and he had to shut her and the rest of the family up. So he told them what was once the truth, so what if things had changed since then. And yes, he knew that Raima's health might suffer a setback if the news of him and Sonakshi being together was made known to her. So he wanted to avoid any possibility of that happening by denying all of it to the members of his family/ household.

As for why he did not call his father out for speaking ill of Sonakshi, I don't think he gives a rat's ass what his father thinks or does not think. Once again, his priority is not to shut his father up or give him a talking to. At this point in time, he is not thinking beyond Raima, the patient. Obviously there is a personal angle to it too, since this is a girl he once loved deeply. So there must be some residual emotion. I would label it as caring rather than love.

Who cares what he is going through. You don't have the right to behave like a douche because you have emotional issues.

And frankly his pain is not worse than anyone else's. Raima is the one that lost 4 years of her life. Sona is the one that was cheated on by her fiancé and then degraded and now having to re-experience degradation at the hands of her new boyfriend and accusations from his ex. Despite knowing how many amazing things she has done for him he is allowing her reputation to be tarnished just to appease his guilt. Why doesn't he feel guilty about that? I actually don't care if he chooses to go back to Raima but there is a way to treat someone like Sona after all she has done for him.

There were many other ways to handle this scenario without throwing Sona under the bus. He could have told the family that he confused friendship with love and realized he still loved Raima etc. Taken the blame on himself and made Sona be the sympathetic person in the relationship in front of his family. Also this is a family of doctors, they have the ability to realize that a patients health comes first etc. I am not sure there is a real justification for him lying to his family once again.

People are calling Rohit selfish and abusive because he has been throughout the show. Not just this one track. Turning up to the KPK set to blast Sona for the show wasn't just a one time situation specific event. It has now been shown to be a pattern of disrespect for other people, their professions and their emotions. Attacking the telecom man for not working after hours to do something illegal. Attacking the security guard because he wouldn't let him into the church. This is the same person that refused to allow Sona to say hi to Preeti for 2 minutes despite the fact that Preeti was up and waiting for her. Sona is not allowed to question how he handles his professional relationship with Pulkit but Rohit has no qualms about barging into other people's workplaces and telling them how to do their jobs.

Originally posted by: sohit-mishbir

Ok.. So they are lot of debates about abusive relationships and all..

Abusive relationship is when one partner tries to harm the other mentally, emotionally and physically ... As in like controlling whom they meet, what they should talk what they should wear.. Not asking for the other's consent..... Telling mean things and making the other person feel unworthy about themselves...

I have read psychology , I don't hold a degree.. But I can give a clarity as to why rohit's behavior is like that..

Rohit is a doctor but at the same time he is turning into a patient.. Because he cannot openly express his emotions.. Nd when anyone is not able to openly express.. It gives mind all the burden and stress and the mind uses its own defence mechanisms to counteract it...

Moreover before sona entered his life... For 4 years he had formed a pattern of behaviour.. Going to hospital treating patients... Whenever he was free or say he was with himself his mind was always preoccupied by raima...

Then suddenly sona comes into the picture and all the pattern of behavior which was formed from 4 years starts to break all of a sudden... Which rohit's mind doesn't want to let go and his defence mechanism starts...

He shouts at her during the pooja's malfunction thing not because he didn't know her or didn't trust her.. It's because just before that he went to sona and put medicine when she was getting burnt... After he put the medicine he unconsciously is attracted towards her pain.. Again which was not accepted to his mind to like someone or to care for some other girl except for raima... So when the malfunction takes place.. He shouts at her tells her she is an actress that's why she can do this to get fame and all.. But all this he said in assurance to himself that he.. The rohit sippy cannot like an actress...

Finally when their friendship starts to grow... He starts to express.. And I don't know if u guys have noticed or not but... His every expression with sona is very raw.. Be it anger, love, frustration... All those emotions which were pent up for so many years starts to flow... Nd the only person who could bring out all those emotions was sona.....

In psychological counselling we tell.. Whenever the therapist tries to counsel the patient

There will be a stage where the patient attaches all those emotions of past with the therapist... Be it anger love, frustrations, sadness... Anything...

But this is a therapy and client relationship... Which can generally be bought in any relationship where one person wants to help the other one..

Like say mother daughter.. Mother son.. Literally anyone.. But that person needs to be head strong to deal with any thing the other one is telling...

In this case sona is head strong lady.. Who can let rohit rant to her anything because she understands all his pent up emotions.... (So their relationship is not abusive as rohit first has to get everything out from his mind and heart)

When rohit blames her for forgetting raima's birthday.. That is normal human tendency... Count the number of times we have blamed people in our life and not apologised to them... We do blame others because in our mind we can never go wrong... So this is also a defence mechanism...

Now when suddenly raima comes in... He is clear with all his emotions... He doesn't shout at sona or holds her responsible for raima's conditions... Cause now his mind is clear of all emotions...

The reason he discloses the fake drama is because he doesn't want to carry any burden of past to the future of his and sona.. He didn't kill his relationship with her but he actually feels the need to start a fresh his relationship with sona... Because before raima entered he somewhere compared her with raima.. Took out all his anger, rants, frustrations of raima on her... But now his mind is clear as to whom he actually loves... So he wants to start the relationship again by trustinf her from the beginning.... Standing by her side..

He not chiding his dad when he called sona cheap... Because he felt the one has gutter mind will continue to have tO so... Even if u give them thousands of explanations...

What matters to him the most right now is his and sona's relationship...

I cannot tell how the story further proceeds...

But till now all his impulsive behavior was because of those 4years of angst and pain... Mind u 4 years is really really long time...

I know the post is really big... But could not help to stop myself from expressing... When constantly people where questioning rohit and sona's stand for him...

A therapist-patient relationship is completely different than one between lovers. There is a reason why therapist don't get involved romantically with their patients because the boundary violation is detrimental to both sides. Sona can encourage Rohit to seek therapy to deal with this mental health issues. What no one should do is allow this to be accepted as "normal".

A defence mechanisms is not a justification for behaving in an abusive way. Its just a psychological explanation. There are immature defence mechanisms and mature ones that don't involve using or abusing other people. What you are describing are immature defence mechanisms that need to be addressed as toxic in relationships.

Ok... I just want to ask a simple question when u r stressed and confused over a long period of time or say u have a lot of pent up emotions filled in u... And then one fine day u start getting close to someone or say someone tries to help u seeing ur situation.... Say ur mom or dad or sister or friend... Anyone.. What will u do... U will tell them everything calmly even if u r in a hurricane of emotions ( if yes then I must say u are a saint)

The first thing any human would do is shout, throw tantrums.. Because someone is trying to break that pattern of ur mind which is been developing..

In that process the person who is there next to u.. I mean the one who evoked those untouched emotions is bound to get hurt / or not.. That depends..

That's why I said a head strong person is required for that purpose...

Say ur mom or any of ur friend is that person who decides to break a pattern which u r building and then u shout.. U get frustrated... So what will ur friend or mom or dad do.. They will leave u.. Thinking my child or friend is shouting, angry, not ready to listen so let me leave her/him as this is becoming abusive .. Or will they stand by your side and support you.. And when u r done with everything... You will automatically realise what you said them...and what were ur actions..

What I was saying was...penting up of emotions is a major sign of many psychological problems... And when it is in the preliminary stage then it can be cured by setting those emotions free to the person who is ready to take in whatever u r going through...

Rohit and sona's relationship has not started yet and you have termed it toxic already...

Like it was written in one post a doctor will go to any extent to save the patient... Like wise here Rohit didn't say anything to his dad.. Instead he walked off from there ... See the episode... It was clearly seen in his face that he was hurting himself by disclosing the fake drama...

He had to do it.. Because if by any chance raima would know to that Rohit has moved on... Then her state will move to the most critical stance.... Which he would never want again!!! Did u see raima's face in the precap when yk's mom tells that Rohit and sona are having an affair... She is shocked... Nd if that shock aggravates then her condition will aggravate too...

Rohit and sona should themselves tell about their relationship to raima once she comes to the stable position to understand and not react...

I hope u understand...

But I always believe in one thing... One opinion is bound to differ from the other... So opinions are never right or wrong they are just individual perspectives

Like it's said "mano toh bhagwaan na mano toh pathar "...

Nd each perspective is right in their own place..

The fact is people only blame man they cant see his feelings emotions same with rohit..the guy is in confusion anger n guilt state he is not able to understand what did happen within 24 hours in his life..so he need time which people r not giving him instead r busy bashing him..n he did give anger look to naren when he was talking shit about sona.i m sure he will give back to naren on right time

Hello everyone

I don't want to talk about anything about what is his emotions or decisions. He can choose whatever he wants.

But I am really upset what he said to his family. Why he lie to his family. If he wants to tell the truth he should tell the whole truth not the half truth. They were acting but finally Rohit first said Sona 'I love You' and ready to merry her.

And he should take all the blame on him about BF and GF thing because he blackmailed Sona for that in the washroom scene.

Rohit shouldn't allow his father to tell,' Sona is a cheap actress.'

I don't know how makers will fix these mess but I really want a sincere apology from Rohit because he does not need to tell about the drama things to his family.