Can somebody understand how much ROHIT IS GOING THROUGH !!!! - Page 2

Originally posted by: alvina

Hum hai Rohit ke saath

Baksh do bande ko

Abhi kuch ghante beete hain and his family is asking him to choose between sona and Raima

Bande ki duniya hil gayi aur Ghar waalo ko - a and b mein se choose karo ki padi hai

Atleast he could hav defended Sona when his father talking all nonsense about her na Al?? 😭

Originally posted by: sahisri

If rohit is abusive then y did sonakshi loved him??

He is same character from starting??

He is the person who cant control his emotions.....when sonakshi was stuck in mathre case he stood against all(his father especially) n got slap from his mom too...

What rohit is doing to sona is completely wrong if we see from sona side....there will always 2 sides of a coin....let's wait for rohit reaction

In a split of anger dont throw the words which cant taken back...

Seriously fed up of this blaming bashing things

So do u seriously think no one loves abusive persons . Haha then how abusive relationship s r thriving ..

In abusive relationships sometimes abused thinks abuser loves her and they too think that it's a loved relationship and keep on forgiving abuser just like what Sona is doing ..

Sona character is like any typical abused partner in abusive relationship ..he first lover was an abuser ..in a diff sense ..but she had years of relationship with him

Now sane repeating with this new relationship ..basically Sona character don't accept reality which is like any other abused person in abused relationship

What 2 sides of a coin ..why he let Sona get blamed in front of his dad ..what side of coin u saw in this deed ..what's the necessity ..already he lied that he did not love Sona ..it's ok ..he is doing it for raima ..ok some what justified butt why put nautanki fake relationship blame on Sona .is he not man enough to put blame on him ..which is truth ..raima had no role in this deed of him ..don't use raima to justify Rohit

So tomorrow if he cries and apologise ..every thing becomes ok and u forgive Rohit ..haha abusive relationship pattern is this ...

I am not saying this in fit of anger ..from first observing his character

He is manipulative ...lying and fake dramas to cheat his parents

He is self centered and selfish to the core ..every time he talks it's about him his raima his sorrow ..never did he want to share Sona sorrow ..and grief ..he always remember his pain ..he is immune to other person pain ..he does not even care about his family pain ..that's why he so easily cheated his family and so easily forgets his mom bday bcos that day raima got in to coma

. Yes there is pain but a unselfish person tries to keep pain in himself and gives hapines to others ..he can't even give hapines to his mom how can he give happiness to his lovers ..no chance . Tomorrow he will hurt raima too matter of time

He is abusive . Yes he repeatedly demeans Sonakshi profession and Sonakshi now let his dad abuse her ...with no fault of hers

So by careful observation the opinion on him is formed . This is not fit of anger that would go once he cries and apologises ..because accepting this type of characterisation is like accepting abusive relationship

Rohit character is done and dusted

Originally posted by: l-NiklausFan-l

Atleast he could hav defended Sona when his father talking all nonsense about her na Al?? 😭

Originally posted by: alvina

he did give him a stare but at the moment he is thinking abt only getting raima back to normal

What stare ..if he can give a stare .he can talk a single line ..u can't let a person get abused ..bcis another person u love is on bed ..what kind of logic is this ..

Already he is a pucca liar and cheater ..at least he would have seen innocent person won't get demeaned and abused bcis of his lies ..that's minimum a human can do ..

Originally posted by: VARUNI2014

So do u seriously think no one loves abusive persons . Haha then how abusive relationship s r thriving ..

In abusive relationships sometimes abused thinks abuser loves her and they too think that it's a loved relationship and keep on forgiving abuser just like what Sona is doing ..

Sona character is like any typical abused partner in abusive relationship ..he first lover was an abuser ..in a diff sense ..but she had years of relationship with him

:karan was acting innocent always infront of sona...when karan true face came out engagement canceled..even if karan was abusive then any person dont want same fall for a abusive person again

Now sane repeating with this new relationship ..basically Sona character don't accept reality which is like any other abused person in abused relationship

What 2 sides of a coin ..why he let Sona get blamed in front of his dad ..what side of coin u saw in this deed ..what's the necessity ..already he lied that he did not love Sona ..it's ok ..he is doing it for raima ..ok some what justified butt why put nautanki fake relationship blame on Sona .is he not man enough to put blame on him ..which is truth ..raima had no role in this deed of him ..don't use raima to justify Rohit

wait for tmrw episode...he dont want his family to reveal about rohit n sona love to raima....if no raima means then there will b no confusion itself...rohit loves sonakshi.

So tomorrow if he cries and apologise ..every thing becomes ok and u forgive Rohit ..haha abusive relationship pattern is this ...

Acc to bts,he is said to sona how u think I will doubt u...

I am not saying this in fit of anger ..from first observing his character

He is manipulative ...lying and fake dramas to cheat his parents

He is self centered and selfish ..every time he talks it's about him his raima his sorrow ..never did he want to share Sona sorrow ..

He is abusive . Yes he repeatedly demeans Sonakshi profession and now let his dad abuse her ...with no fault of hers

Demands means his POV about actors ,he recently said his POV about actors...why he is silent infront of his father n y he fake drama n all wait for upcoming story...

So by careful observation the opinion on him is formed . This is not fit of anger that would go once he cries and apologises ..because accepting this type of characterisation is like accepting abusive relationship

Rohit character is done and dusted

If u feel rohit character is abusive then they will be no change in upcoming too because he is the same person from starting....

Ok.. So they are lot of debates about abusive relationships and all..

Abusive relationship is when one partner tries to harm the other mentally, emotionally and physically ... As in like controlling whom they meet, what they should talk what they should wear.. Not asking for the other's consent..... Telling mean things and making the other person feel unworthy about themselves...

I have read psychology , I don't hold a degree.. But I can give a clarity as to why rohit's behavior is like that..

Rohit is a doctor but at the same time he is turning into a patient.. Because he cannot openly express his emotions.. Nd when anyone is not able to openly express.. It gives mind all the burden and stress and the mind uses its own defence mechanisms to counteract it...

Moreover before sona entered his life... For 4 years he had formed a pattern of behaviour.. Going to hospital treating patients... Whenever he was free or say he was with himself his mind was always preoccupied by raima...

Then suddenly sona comes into the picture and all the pattern of behavior which was formed from 4 years starts to break all of a sudden... Which rohit's mind doesn't want to let go and his defence mechanism starts...

He shouts at her during the pooja's malfunction thing not because he didn't know her or didn't trust her.. It's because just before that he went to sona and put medicine when she was getting burnt... After he put the medicine he unconsciously is attracted towards her pain.. Again which was not accepted to his mind to like someone or to care for some other girl except for raima... So when the malfunction takes place.. He shouts at her tells her she is an actress that's why she can do this to get fame and all.. But all this he said in assurance to himself that he.. The rohit sippy cannot like an actress...

Finally when their friendship starts to grow... He starts to express.. And I don't know if u guys have noticed or not but... His every expression with sona is very raw.. Be it anger, love, frustration... All those emotions which were pent up for so many years starts to flow... Nd the only person who could bring out all those emotions was sona.....

In psychological counselling we tell.. Whenever the therapist tries to counsel the patient

There will be a stage where the patient attaches all those emotions of past with the therapist... Be it anger love, frustrations, sadness... Anything...

But this is a therapy and client relationship... Which can generally be bought in any relationship where one person wants to help the other one..

Like say mother daughter.. Mother son.. Literally anyone.. But that person needs to be head strong to deal with any thing the other one is telling...

In this case sona is head strong lady.. Who can let rohit rant to her anything because she understands all his pent up emotions.... (So their relationship is not abusive as rohit first has to get everything out from his mind and heart)

When rohit blames her for forgetting raima's birthday.. That is normal human tendency... Count the number of times we have blamed people in our life and not apologised to them... We do blame others because in our mind we can never go wrong... So this is also a defence mechanism...

Now when suddenly raima comes in... He is clear with all his emotions... He doesn't shout at sona or holds her responsible for raima's conditions... Cause now his mind is clear of all emotions...

The reason he discloses the fake drama is because he doesn't want to carry any burden of past to the future of his and sona.. He didn't kill his relationship with her but he actually feels the need to start a fresh his relationship with sona... Because before raima entered he somewhere compared her with raima.. Took out all his anger, rants, frustrations of raima on her... But now his mind is clear as to whom he actually loves... So he wants to start the relationship again by trustinf her from the beginning.... Standing by her side..

He not chiding his dad when he called sona cheap... Because he felt the one has gutter mind will continue to have tO so... Even if u give them thousands of explanations...

What matters to him the most right now is his and sona's relationship...

I cannot tell how the story further proceeds...

But till now all his impulsive behavior was because of those 4years of angst and pain... Mind u 4 years is really really long time...

I know the post is really big... But could not help to stop myself from expressing... When constantly people where questioning rohit and sona's stand for him...

Well, when Veena point blank asked him whom he is going to choose - Why couldn't he have told " I'm in a confused state right now, need some time. Till then don't let Raima know about any of this, let her think that Sona is my friend. Once I'm clear about what I want, I'll tell Raima myself" That is what a normal person would do. There was no need to lie that there is no relationship when he was the 1st to confess his love & even when she asked him if he is sure, he convincingly told that he is sure. Thats what irks us. No one forced him to choose on the spot. what's the problem with asking for time till the emotions cool down & rationality reigns again? His action today doesn't gel with that of a top notch surgeon who has to make split second decisions in the OT with a cool head. He totally lost it.

Originally posted by: alvina

Hum hai Rohit ke saath

Baksh do bande ko

Abhi kuch ghante beete hain and his family is asking him to choose between sona and Raima

Bande ki duniya hil gayi aur Ghar waalo ko - a and b mein se choose karo ki padi hai

You are 100% correct, people think only physical abuse is abuse. Women being so ignorant about something as serious as mental/emotional abuse worries me. But I think calling Rohit an abuser is way off the mark & harsh. They were not in a relationship when the Pooja incident happened. So you cant say it is a pattern. Even yesterday his behaviour was that of a confused person. Only in today's episode he lied blatantly and let his love be called names & misunderstood especially when she was not there to defend herself. If this continues regularly only then we can call him an abusive BF.

Originally posted by: VARUNI2014

Yes I have sense of what an abusive relationship is .u think abusive relationship is just beating and raping ..right

But abusive relationship is much more than that ..abusive relationship is a pattern of letting the other partner get blamed .in front of others demeaning the partner repeatedly .and then apologising to that partner and then again repeating that pattern ....and the other person always accepting apologies ..and not getting out of relationship..they realise abuse and get out only with help of some strong willed persons making some sense ..in to the abused person minds

If u have any doubt ..u can talk to some psychologist or psychiatrist about abusive relationship traits ..

Originally posted by: KaranSG_01

I agree with all that you are saying. Rohit is going through shit. I am yet to watch today's episode but the wu did made me a little sad. However I am going to wait till tomorrow's episode before saying anything on Rohit's scene with family. Tomorrow they will hopefully show Ronakshi's scene and if Rohit actually believes that Sona can't do something that henious, going by the bts, then I am willing to let go of whatever he said to his family. Because what matters is that Rohit trsuts Sona blindly.

I have always maintained that Rohit is a very complex character, someone who can't understand his emotions and express them properly. That doesn't make him right or defend his actions but let's for once looked beyond someone's actions. If this man, who waited for 4 years for his gf, is willing to believe someone he met barely 4 months back, if his heart really wants Sonakshi then whatever he said and did in this one night can be looked over. This is a very tricky situation and Rohit is actually hurting as much as Sona. Just trust him guys, he will make the right decision and make it up in some way.

Truly agree with you.... rohit is a very complex character.... but the they way they have shaped him is a very interesting one.... rohit is very very much deeply affected by Naren's affair.... there are so facts that is affecting him and his behaviour

1)he cant reveal it to his mom (assuming she doent know about it)

2) he doesn't want to be like naren..

The comeback of raima is like the worst nightmare of rohit..

Basically I feel for rohit moving on is a criminal mistake... he couldn't answer the question of his family so he revealed the drama truth.. I think he was more of pissed by their question and pressure that made him say that their relationship was fake... moreover his desire to get raima well...

I guess raima closeness will make him realise that he has really moved on and feel the same way he used to feel for her....

Originally posted by: sohit-mishbir

Ok.. So they are lot of debates about abusive relationships and all..

Abusive relationship is when one partner tries to harm the other mentally, emotionally and physically ... As in like controlling whom they meet, what they should talk what they should wear.. Not asking for the other's consent..... Telling mean things and making the other person feel unworthy about themselves...

I have read psychology , I don't hold a degree.. But I can give a clarity as to why rohit's behavior is like that..

Rohit is a doctor but at the same time he is turning into a patient.. Because he cannot openly express his emotions.. Nd when anyone is not able to openly express.. It gives mind all the burden and stress and the mind uses its own defence mechanisms to counteract it...

Moreover before sona entered his life... For 4 years he had formed a pattern of behaviour.. Going to hospital treating patients... Whenever he was free or say he was with himself his mind was always preoccupied by raima...

Then suddenly sona comes into the picture and all the pattern of behavior which was formed from 4 years starts to break all of a sudden... Which rohit's mind doesn't want to let go and his defence mechanism starts...

He shouts at her during the pooja's malfunction thing not because he didn't know her or didn't trust her.. It's because just before that he went to sona and put medicine when she was getting burnt... After he put the medicine he unconsciously is attracted towards her pain.. Again which was not accepted to his mind to like someone or to care for some other girl except for raima... So when the malfunction takes place.. He shouts at her tells her she is an actress that's why she can do this to get fame and all.. But all this he said in assurance to himself that he.. The rohit sippy cannot like an actress...

Finally when their friendship starts to grow... He starts to express.. And I don't know if u guys have noticed or not but... His every expression with sona is very raw.. Be it anger, love, frustration... All those emotions which were pent up for so many years starts to flow... Nd the only person who could bring out all those emotions was sona.....

In psychological counselling we tell.. Whenever the therapist tries to counsel the patient

There will be a stage where the patient attaches all those emotions of past with the therapist... Be it anger love, frustrations, sadness... Anything...

But this is a therapy and client relationship... Which can generally be bought in any relationship where one person wants to help the other one..

Like say mother daughter.. Mother son.. Literally anyone.. But that person needs to be head strong to deal with any thing the other one is telling...

In this case sona is head strong lady.. Who can let rohit rant to her anything because she understands all his pent up emotions.... (So their relationship is not abusive as rohit first has to get everything out from his mind and heart)

When rohit blames her for forgetting raima's birthday.. That is normal human tendency... Count the number of times we have blamed people in our life and not apologised to them... We do blame others because in our mind we can never go wrong... So this is also a defence mechanism...

Now when suddenly raima comes in... He is clear with all his emotions... He doesn't shout at sona or holds her responsible for raima's conditions... Cause now his mind is clear of all emotions...

The reason he discloses the fake drama is because he doesn't want to carry any burden of past to the future of his and sona.. He didn't kill his relationship with her but he actually feels the need to start a fresh his relationship with sona... Because before raima entered he somewhere compared her with raima.. Took out all his anger, rants, frustrations of raima on her... But now his mind is clear as to whom he actually loves... So he wants to start the relationship again by trustinf her from the beginning.... Standing by her side..

He not chiding his dad when he called sona cheap... Because he felt the one has gutter mind will continue to have tO so... Even if u give them thousands of explanations...

What matters to him the most right now is his and sona's relationship...

I cannot tell how the story further proceeds...

But till now all his impulsive behavior was because of those 4years of angst and pain... Mind u 4 years is really really long time...

I know the post is really big... But could not help to stop myself from expressing... When constantly people where questioning rohit and sona's stand for him...

What a stupid explanation ..one who has gutter mind rants always ..so he does not disclose his cheating responsibility on his and let blame Sona ...

If that's the case .then will he keep silent when some one unnecessarily blame him ..clearly he did not keep silent ..then why the rule applied to Sona and not to him and mind u his dad is not gutter ..he is a reasonable guy . He has his opinions ..he is not a unreasonable guy who blindly sticks to his opinion no matter what ..they did not show his character like that

Is Rohit thinking his dad is gutter ..no way he is not thinking like that ..previously in this serial no hints regarding to this ..so how u came to this conclusion ..all of a sudden in u r imagination to support Rohit

U r unnecessarily demonizing Rohit dad to support Rohit cheap act Bd don't bring raima to support Rohit cheap act of letting Sona get blamed ..raima has no role ..

It's Rohit and Rohit ..character cheapness in letting blame Sona ..Rohit dad or raima has no role ..don't demonise them