Originally posted by: lashy
A combined response to many posts I came across in the forum 😊
Let's say a pair of siblings demand for some midnight ice-cream from mummy/papa and the loving parents decide to take an aadhi-raath trip to the parlour for the sake of their adolescent son and daughter.
Unfortunately as fate would have it, the parents are embroiled in a car accident on the way back and pass away.
If the visitors who come there for support start debating amongst themselves whose grief is greater - or reach a verdict that the sister's grief has to be greater because she is the girl, And that she does not have parents to do her a kanyadaan in her wedding. And that a girl needs her mom more etc - in which way would that make any sense?
While the sister might show her guilt and grief by wailing and bawling and going into a temporary period of depression, the brother might show his guilt by kicking down doors and getting into a few needless fights with friends/foes. Whatever!
However, the fact remains that both would 'suffer' equally for what is not really their fault and only can both of them ultimately be each other's support once the black clouds have passed. Because both have been an equal part/sufferer of this unexpected tragedy.
Instead of watching the 'drama' and 'thrill' of what is to unfold, debating whose grief is greater is taking away from the actual depth of misfortune that Akbar and HK went through.
True, Jodha is a mother and true she has made the greatest sacrifice-of-sacrifices which has not borne fruit. However, that does not undermine the anguish a father would feel either. In all of this I fail to see how Jodha has become only a reproductive machine for Jalal (as I read a comment posted elsewhere - yeah I should have just stuck to my grit and not browsed through the forum).
Does that give the other group ammunition to debate that Jalal's grief has to be greater because he's fresh in the wake of treachery from his sister, treachery from doodh bhai whom he murdered with his own hands, fresh in the wake of tragedy from having lost his guardian parent and his Badi ammijaan - all one after another? No. Because this is another kind/type of adversity to hit them both. Incomparable to anything else that's happened so far because it deals with the death of two innocents. This is not mother vs father. This is parenthood!
Yes, Akbar might have had other wives and might have had other queens to give him a heir and Jodha has only one option. Then, why do we keep citing the Akbar-HK union example as an ode to love? Why do we keep saying HK was his beloved forever? If this fact is true, then Akbar's grief couldn't have been any lesser seeing he would want to be a father - seeing he would want an heir - through HK!
If Jodha was only a reproducing machine that didn't work, he could have just discarded her after a few trials and moved on to a fresher newer brand afterwards. But he didn't seem to do that. Wonder why? HK and Akbar have so many documented pregnancies/miscarriages. Wonder how? We know how crazily obsessed he was with the protection for HK and their child when she was carrying Salim. Why? Simple. Because they both wanted each other - wanted each other's happiness, safety and love!
Both are parents. Both love each other immensely. Both have made choices that haven't helped them. Both are good people by heart who never in their wildest dreams would want to hurt someone else. Both are not 'thinking' rationally now because of the kind of tragedy to have struck them. So lets please spare the mourning parents and be with them in their time of sorrow!
Let's not make this a Jalal vs Jodha war again. When the couple themselves are not standing against one another. When Jalal himself understands her pain (but is grieving in his own fashion) and when Jodha herself understands his pain (but is grieving in her own fashion) I fail to understand why the forum is hellbent on splitting the couple up!
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