Originally posted by: Cleo12345
Before we start blamimg Jodha, Let us look at this situation practically.
A sicko jerk, husband's brother/ brother in law develops an unhealthy crush for a married woman...is this unheard of in 21st century? NO.
I consider this a form of abuse. Women go through stages of DENIAL( no, I am mistaken...he is family) ...CONFUSION ( am I being oversensitive? ...am I overreacting?)...ACCEPTANCE ( something is definately wrong...I was repulsed when he touched me... He is not as nice as i thought he was)...ANGER ( how dare he? ) FEAR( omg...what will happen if I bring it up? It is my word against his...will they believe me? my sis in law will be devastated...my husband will be devastated)...HELPLESSNESS (they believe me but why is no one is doing anything about it? ...oh yes...I get it...he will divorce my sis in law if they confront him).
What options does a woman in Jo's situation have?
1. Avoid the jerk... Temporary solution. Will only make the jerk more desperate.
2. Tell his wife...very few wives are able to overcome the jealousy factor and make an attempt to accept that their " perfect marriage " is not so perfect afterall. Blaming the husband is tough...emotional and family repercussions ( ego issues too)...easier to make this " other woman"
(who is a victim in this situation) look like the real culprit in this situation...she must have done something to entice him. He loves me.
3. Tell her husband...unlikely that he will be supportive right away. A big insecurity and jealousy factor here ...and it is diificult for him to suddenly accept that his brother/ brother in law is wrong . Even when husbands know that their wife is innocent, most don't hv the guts to go against the family and confront the jerk right away...they need a proof before they do that. Easier to take out their frustration on the wife in the meantime. Not sure what Jalal would do ...but let us admit that he hasn't been the most calm and composed husband when threatened by the presence of another man in his love life.
4. Tell mom in law...HB...no way...she loves Jo but is unpredictable. Wanted Jo to commit suicide during Jo's FP track.
5. Tell a family member they trust...SB? She is sane but lacks guts... Didn't utter a word in protest or get up from her seat to stop Jodha from drinking poison during Ben track. Can't count on her open support or expect her to go against the family.
6. Confront the jerk...he will get hostile and vengeful. Such men do their best to isolate the women by poisoning everyone's mind against her...as this makes her a more vulnerable and easier target.
7. Get a shamsheer n just put the jerk in his place( hell)... Not practical...he will become the victim and she will be an outcast.
It is easy for us to say that Jo should do this...or that...but think of it practically...most women in a situation like this go through the stages I hv mentioned above...Jo too will go through all these stages.
It is sad to see Jo being questioned here...shouldn't we be making posts on how to expose jerkuddin and his selfish wife? I would love to read the opinions of other married women on this subject.
I never feel sorry for women like BB...never did...she CHOOSES to be a victim. I dont hv a problem with that as long as she doesnt subject innocent people to unnecessary torture just because her idea of staying married is more important than the happiness of people around her.
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