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Originally posted by: mishtidoi
Very perceptive post Mandy👏
This Khyber issue...added to the long chain of events in Jalal's recent lifetime, in which he must have felt inept...Ruq's FP also must have ashamed his self for having made a fool of him, TM issue, Mirchi war, then again Khyber's kidnap of Jodha, and now this full public view of his battering of a man, an Emperor...things reached its threshold level.As for Jodha...what can I say?? Its not the first time, but its only wrt Jalal, she becomes somewhere I don't know what to say, insensitive or just takes him for granted...not once do I remember, not once did she ever tried look into his POV, what he's going through, what are his reasons, why are his reasons, what is he thinking, how is he perceiving the situation, and what is his perception of the given thing...NOT ONCE.Whereas Jalal, so many times had placed himself in her situation and looked into her POV, etc.Being selfless, being in love, giving love does not only hold together a relationship, there are many other micro nutrients, which should be fed to keep the relation healthy, nurture and grow...Love only is not enough, it alone is never going to be enough.Also, if between friend, one of our friend now and then disregards for someone third, and prioritize that third person before us...we'll feel hurt and also somewhere have inferiority complex...and here we're talking about a husband-wife.Even if I go by face value of this Atifa track, may be Jalal is finding her as someone, who'll understand how it feels to be dissatisfied by your better half, who will understand, how it feels if your partner thinks of you as an inept, and thus, he feels, she'll connect to him better in the phase he's going throughHere, I just can't forget Aunty's analogy of Jodha as a teacher and Jalal the student...and the teacher cares two hoots about student's ego to make him correct...just that now teacher has realized that her student is growing up, becoming a big boy, she needs to cajole him.
Bang on... I was pretty sure that Jalal was really into Atifa(till posts of Jalal aficionados like khushi, Adia forced me to consider otherwise)
if Jalal is not faking his affections, then this started even before the khyber tiff with Jo surfaced. And perhaps the reason for this is Jalal's need to feel like a "man" in his equation with Jo. Men have egos but big men have bigger egos, and nothing could be more satisfying to male ego than rescuing a damsel in distress, that is the most absolute reaffirmation of his masculinity. With Jo always being the protector, being his equal and being independent - Jalal the husband is feeling insecure. He even said this to Jo,that I am sorry I could not protect you or my kids. For an emperor, that's an inherent insult right there. In Atifa he sees someone, who needs his protection,who needs his care versus jodha who loves him dearly but is apparently pretty self sufficient.
Jalal has always felt the need for jodha, but Atifa appeals to his need of being needed.
Mandy - fantastic post, and yes he seeks out Atifa as an escape from pressures of being with jodha. And yes, Jo's timing, if not her intent in revoking khyber's death sentence. She was wrong both as a queen and as a wife - as a queen once king had given his verdict, she should not have asked him to take it back, as a wife - your difference of opinion with your husband should not be apparent to a third person, let alone his awaam.
But having said that, escapism is an immature way to handle stress, this way you just end up exchanging one set of problems with another set of issues.
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