Ek Ehsaas! - Page 3

Originally posted by: Rak014

Lovely post! Yes things do change in life continuosly!😃

BUT, Rukaiyya never owned "the man" in Jalal to loose him away to someone!

Originally posted by: Mages

mandyg...you can't force anyone to fall in love...love just happens...when it happens its unknown to you...there is no definition of love...it can't be define too...it just happens...jallu did not plan to fall in love with jodha...it just happens...its not his mistake that he never ever fall in love with ruku or his 5000 wives...destiny and fate plays the biggest part in everyone's life and here with jallu...he was destined to fall in love with jodha...

ruku is more in love with her power and position than jallu...she is jallu's best friend...but she never tried to emotionally connect with him...all she wanted is to rule jallu...not share his pain...share his sorrow...tried to understand him...she puts her own desires but never try to know what jallu desires...there is no love b/w them...its pure friendship...no doubt she cares for jallu...but she loves her power and position...otherwise she doesn't behave this rudely with jodha knowing that she too is the wife of jallu and he needs to give her the equal time...the way she insults and humiliate jodha is disgusting...the precap disgust me to no end...jodha is not a maid...but a queen

Originally posted by: rima4ever

very thoughtful post

Originally posted by: chembi

Ruks have affection towards jalal but she loves her position and power a lot. The hatredness and insecurity created by maham towards jodha is always there in her mind. Ruks always wanted to control jalal. But now everything changes so that only she takes the kid as a tool to control jalal and to seek attention from him. Pschologicaly some women's uses this technique to control their men and ruk also doing this only.Ruk does not want to lose jalal to anybody especially to jodha.The pain she felt and the tears she shed after seeing jo and jalal together is becoz she loses in the game of getting back jalal.Change is the only thing that doesn't change it applies to every person and to everthing in the world.😊

Originally posted by: mandyg

yes, that is what jalal says, what if he gets more impressed by someone better than jodha, do u think he will be distracted?

Originally posted by: mandyg

i agree mages,..in a marriage one accepts the other as is..and if that is not the case then no one can stop the law of motion..people move on..i will give you an example of stability, satisfaction, acceptability..and sthirta...and this is one of the 10 examples that i can give which means such people are very rare..now what is true love?..there was this couple..the man is an army officer..his wife was an average looking rather ugly compared to him..they were engaged in childhood..the wife is not even educated..arranged marriage happened..the husband used to go to the parties alone..and someone asked why he did not bring his wife and he said she is simple lady and she likes to stay home and not come to the parties..then one of his friends said jokingly that u two are not compatible in any way why not leave her,,the man said today u said this but never say it again!..she is my wife..she is the mother of my children..i do not care if she is not compatible..i have taken vows that i will take care of her for the rest of her life and always be with her...and that is my commitment as a man..i am satisfied and i am content with whatever god has given me...and that man never ever had an external affair..and remained faithful to his ugly looking wife..now is this true love?..i do not know but i would say that he accepted her with her flaws and remained committed to her ..never did he ignored her for someone better or fell in love with someone better..here the situation is that of polygamy..now is it fair to completely ignore ruk or is it ok to give them both their fare share?..doesn't matter how negative ruk might be i will always feel for a wife,,for a woman in her!

Originally posted by: AbHer_neha

Beautiful lines Mandy...I just loved the shayari above.👏

Change is inevitable. But one thing never changes & that's true love. Earlier it was Ruq who used to get all attention from Jalal & now Jodha is everything for him. But its not fair to say that in future if Jalal finds someone better than Jodha, he'll forget her. No, that can't be called love. On their SR Jalal said to Jodha, "Aap bhale hi duniya ki sabse khubsoorat begum na hon par hum apni zindigi aap k hi sath bitana chahte hain." This one sentence says all. Even if he finds some one more beautiful than Jodha, his love for her will never change.

There's a difference b/w the conditions of both Ruq & Jodha. Jalal never loved Ruq. His relation with Ruq is the same. The only difference is that earlier only she was important to Jalal & now Jodha is also important to him. Had he loved Ruq, he would have never been attracted to Jodha nor fallen for her as love happens only once. Well, I won't say Ruq loves her auhada more than Jalal. She thinks agar auhda hai toh Jalal khud va khud uske paas rahega. But a lonely person in Shehenshah never wanted a queen but a soulmate which she could never become. What to do he never loved her and we can't force him to do so. Jalal always found a friend in her but could never find a wife, a lover in her.

Ruq never told Jalal abt her insecurities of losing him. When Jalal started feeling attracted towards Jodha he always asked Ruq, "Are you jealous of Jodha begum." And she always replied, "Why should I feel jealous, it doesn't matter to me with whom u spend ur nights. No body can snatch my place." If u remember when AkDha returned from Amer from Sukanya's wedding & Ruq came to know that JoJa spent night together, Jalal asked her the same question & she gave as usual answer then Jalal asked her one thing, "Ek dost ki tarah na sahi ek begum hone k naate toh apko jalan honi hi chahiye." Even Jalal was always eager to know if she loves him more as a friend or as a wife. I think Ruq always wanted him as a friend. She took Jalal for granted & then Jalal also took her for granted. He thought she'll have no probs with his & Jodha's relation. See, how Jodha let Jalal know her insecurities of losing him on their SR. Did Ruq ever say to Jalal, "Will I be no longer ur same best friend if u find ur love in any other woman?" If she had asked this question, he would have assured her that nobody can take her place in his life. But she never asked such question as a friend, she always behaved as BEK - "I have no prob regarding ur spending nights with other women till my auhada is safe." Why didn't she feel bad that Jalal is spending night with other women? Remember how Jodha reacted seeing Jalal with Ruq on the anniversary day & how Ruq reacted when she saw Jalal-Ben together. That sight had no impact on her. She was just concerned abt her insult & she became all normal when Jalal assured her & they started talking abt the match. She forgot what she saw a few minutes before. She herself proved many times that she's position conscious. She never concerned abt losing her friend but she feared of losing her auhada. '

Ur philosophy is great. We all know we came in this world alone & we'll leave it alone, still we can't stop loving & attaching to others. Agar aisa ho jaye toh insaan aur bhawvaan mein kya fark rahega?😊

Originally posted by: vinitaj27

I dont really know if ruqqaiya loved jalal or the emperor. But i do know that love doesnt necessarily conquer all. Staying ina bad marriage for my kid i realized that love either fades away or gets coved by layers of anger n sadness till u cant find it inside u. I think more than love its loneliness that hurts n kills u. Sooner or later u reconcile urself to the fact that ur alone n find others to fill ur time n take ur mind off ur troubles. Everything in judt there for the moment u live in but i have experienced that the bond u share with a sibling like a sister somehow is so strong that it gives a feeling of security that no matter what happens thre is someone who is on ur side. I guess with ruqqaiya not having a family besides jalal is what makes her so possessive of him.she has no one else to lose.