Originally posted by: deejagi
Pregnancy is one such thing which is objective, where it is the proof, reality and hence everyone will doubt you since a lady can be preganct only if she had a relationship with a man (not unless it is artificial Insemination which was missing in those days). About trust, it is not only with pregnancy but even while fixing an allience by parents or choosing a parner by the children, it comes in to picture though not with that intensity. We trust our parents to give us better education, better cloths, all teh best facilities available in the world but when it comes to choosing our partner, we will tell them your tastes doesn't suite me and I will choose my own... where was that trust gone whihc we had when they choose our school, college, clothes, ornaments etc...
At teh same time even parents, they will allow the child to choose the colour for his/her room, vehicle etc. when it comes to choosing his wife or her husband, that trust fails...
It is not because they lost confidance in each other, but only because, it is believed that a life partner is for the life time and there should not be any mistake, you can't keep changing them as you do with the wall papers... So is the virginity of a girl...,
You've got a very good point there, Jaya. I never thought of it like that before. But now that you have raised the point this is what I feel after some thought:
In the first place "trust" I think should not be just about letting others make your decisions for you. Sometimes allowing them to do so or sometimes not allowing them to do is not the kind of trust that helps prove if there is trust or not.
On the other hand, there is another kind of "trust" entirely ... and that is about the trustworthiness of the people around you in your crisis time. They may not help make your life decisions, nor do you need to let them make your decisions for you. But you can try to judge if they will be there for you in a crisis! And the trust factor becomes even more confirmed when the other person puts his/her own life situation at risk in order to stand by you in your crisis!
I think that is the kind of trust that Jodha and Jalal need to judge if they have for each other. And in fact judged in this way both of them have actually already proved their trustworthiness to each other in some ways ...
For example, he did stand by her in that religious-conversion crisis. And that sentence he said at that lunch date that if Hamida hadn't intervened I would have stood by you, was the stamp of that trust worthiness! His throne was at risk and yet he stood by her letting her make the religious decision instead of making it for her.
And she did stand by him in that fort business at Amer when she argued that he need not give his fort to the sasur! She even went to the extent of supporting the Mughal family on the issue at the risk of her sister's Sukanya's wedding and possible future ruin of Sukanya if the wedding failed ... and she won Jalal's acknowledgement of her role done for him.
What is needed for Jodha and jalal now is to remember how trustworthy they both have been for each other already. Then in this issue of the ppregnancy also they will feel that they can and should again offer each other the same level of trust. It is a crisis not only foor Jodha but also for Jalal. They both need to remember that they have already offered each other that trustability before, and they can do so again.
They are temporarily blinded by the magnitude of the problem, but if they could just remember past instances when they have been trustable for each other, they can bring back that same trustworthiness in themselves again!
Edited by skanda12 - 11 years ago