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Few years back when I had joined HP here in California, I was interviewed by a non-Indian guy, very intelligent engineer,Charming and happy go lucky etc. He was younger than me but my mentor for the product when I joined. The team was fabulous, all young crowd, we used to be so crazy loud and giggly. Nextday someone told me he was dating an Indian girl in my product team. Oh my, she was so beautiful, came and settled in USA when she was 2 years old, and her family was typical north Indian modern yet following Indian traditions etc. She was head over heel in love with him while he was casual! There was lot of opposition from Both their families and they were kind of trying to make families agree for their marriage!

Their first major fight and then he travelled to Costa Rica where HP was establishing new office, they had not broken up but he thought they had nothing to salvage and cheated on her there…She ignored his blunder and chose to blame the other girl! Took them a year to recover, be back on track and then get married ultimately…

She went on to finish her masters and became product manager! Walla, great career and married to her dream man! He was also doing well. Yet some of us who have seen their behavior individually were always worried of this relationship. He cheated again knowing he will get awaywith it! And she did forgive him again. Third time in 3 years was not a charm, they divorced. Once we were chatting, he joked he would have never dared to cheat if his wife was Israeli or Polish… Basically, he took her for a ride and completely disrespected her feelings knowing she was milder, loved him too much though he loved her too, that’s what he claimed..

She went into severe depression, lost her lucrative job in San Francisco! Even today her linked In is not updated, makes me so mad… The suffering the girl went through for loving someone with all her heart, adjustments, sacrifices and forgiving nature, she paid huge price! The loving and giving partner sometimes never realizes the relationship has become a one-way track!

The guy, if anyone meets him individually and knows he went through the divorce, will easily assume he might have got a wrong girl, but we have seen the other side… Many times few of us feel we should have banged his head on wall to put some sense in him though we warned him often! The guy is settled in Dubai now with a lucrative job as well as girlfriend while she may never recover fully!

Sad but true!

Originally posted by: SwatStar_Arshi

Few years back when I had joined HP here in California, I was interviewed by a non-Indian guy, very intelligent engineer,Charming and happy go lucky etc. He was younger than me butmy mentor for the product when I joined. The team was fabulous, all young crowd, we used to be so crazy loud and giggly. Nextday someone told me he was dating an Indian girl in my product team. Oh my, she was so beautiful, came and settled in USA whenshe was 2 years old, and her family was typical north Indian modern yet following Indian traditions etc. She was head over heelsin love with him while he was casual! There was lot of opposition from Both their families and they were kind of trying to makefamilies agree for their marriage!

Their first major fight and then he travelled to Costa Rica where HP was establishing new office, they had not broken up but he thought they had nothing to salvage and cheated on her there…She ignored his blunder and chose to blame the other girl! Took them a year to recover, be back on track and then get married ultimately…

She went on to finish her masters and became productmanager! Walla, great career and married to her dream man! He was also doingwell. Yet some of us who have seen their behavior individually werealways worried of this relationship. He cheated again knowing he will get awaywith it! And she did forgive him again. Third time in 3 years was not a charm, they divorced. Once we were chatting, he joked he would have never dare to cheat if his wife was Israeli or Polish… Basically, he took her for a ride and completely disrespected her feelings knowing she was milder, loved him too much though he loved her too, that’s what he claimed..

She went into severe depression, lost her lucrative job in San Francisco! Even today her linked In is not updated, makes me so mad… The suffering the girl went through for loving someone with all her heart, adjustments, sacrifices and forgiving nature, she paid huge price! The loving and giving partner sometimes never realizes the relationship has become a one-way track!

The guy, if anyone meets him individually and knows he went through the divorce, anyone will assume he might have got a wrong girl, but we have seen the other side… Many times few of us feel we should have banged his head on wall to put some sense in him though we warned him often! The guy is settled in Dubai now with a lucrative job as well as girlfriend while my she may never recover fully!

Sad but true!

This is so heartbreaking to read. Especially the part where he said he wouldn’t have dared to do this had his girlfriend been Israeli or Polish. This man was not only aware of her love for her but also knew of her background. The kind of struggle she would have gone through for him with her family. And he knew he could get away with it. It’s sickening really.

Whenever your friend moves on fully (and I hope she does. I’ve seen my own friends who thought they never could and yet they did), she may live her life with a scar and trust issues but her head will be held high. She cannot go back and change what happened to her, but I still hope that she get over this douche enough to make a life for herself. She at least have friends like you guys who were there in the tough times ❤️

Living in Mumbai for a decade had definitely made Khushi wiser, progressive and she can now see the difference between real and fake.

Its understandable that Khushi's parents can't understand why she cannot be intimate with anyone else that easily within a few months after separating from her husband, given the environment they live in. But Shyam, who claimed to be progressive and was in a relationship earlier, can't understand this, then he can't be a good spouse. I just hope Khushi says no for this.

Arnav was so happy for Anjali and little Kavya. Didn't seem like he didn't want kids at that time. What happened that he doesn't want to take responsibility for a kid now. I guess something related to Anjali. He so wished to call his Gudia Di and disconnected the call.

Khushi's accident seemed scary. Was she hurt badly?

Akash I guess,being a writer and a good friend to both Arnav and Khushi, is very observant. He is right. As we all have been saying, they both needed to talk. Maybe the outcome wouldn't have been what everyone hoped for. But I guess both Arnav and Khushi would have gotten a closure.

He is correct in thinking that he has no right over her now, but Payal is right. He needs to go and talk to her. It will give them both clarity.

Her note had so much love in it. She wanted to fix their relationship so badly. She was ready to take few steps ahead and wanted Arnav to take few steps too. I think it will make Arnav go and talk to her. For the sake atleast.

Thank you for the extra long chapter Arpita. My mind was full of thoughts when I read the chapter two days but I might have missed so many things while writing this comment. Can't wait to read more !

Hi Swati,

I can understand how difficult it might have been to share your experience here.

Don’t they say “Cheating is never a mistake it’s a choice”. And people who have been cheated are the ones who are hit emotionally the most when it was never their choice.

God they are made to feel unworthy.

I just hope one day your friend can move on. She deserves it.

The reason I am so touchy about this topic is because a couple of years into my marriage, me and my husband had hit a really rough patch. So much so that we were living in different cities. Things were really bad.

But the biggest reason my marriage survived is because none of us cheated. There were other things as well where we really worked but “Not cheating” really helped.

Honestly, I might have pacified myself if he had cheated by saying things were so bad and given all kind of excuses to protect myself. And eventually moved on from this relationship.

But in my heart I know if it had happened more than anything that would have hurt my pride.

So trust me when I say this I can understand your friend.

And from the bottom of my heart I will pray that she moves on.

Originally posted by: Shereen_J

Living in Mumbai for a decade had definitely made Khushi wiser, progressive and she can now see the difference between real and fake.

Its understandable that Khushi's parents can't understand why she cannot be intimate with anyone else that easily within a few months after separating from her husband, given the environment they live in. But Shyam, who claimed to be progressive and was in a relationship earlier, can't understand this, then he can't be a good spouse. I just hope Khushi says no for this.

Arnav was so happy for Anjali and little Kavya. Didn't seem like he didn't want kids at that time. What happened that he doesn't want to take responsibility for a kid now. I guess something related to Anjali. He so wished to call his Gudia Di and disconnected the call.

Khushi's accident seemed scary. Was she hurt badly?

Akash I guess,being a writer and a good friend to both Arnav and Khushi, is very observant. He is right. As we all have been saying, they both needed to talk. Maybe the outcome wouldn't have been what everyone hoped for. But I guess both Arnav and Khushi would have gotten a closure.

He is correct in thinking that he has no right over her now, but Payal is right. He needs to go and talk to her. It will give them both clarity.

Her note had so much love in it. She wanted to fix their relationship so badly. She was ready to take few steps ahead and wanted Arnav to take few steps too. I think it will make Arnav go and talk to her. For the sake atleast.

Thank you for the extra long chapter Arpita. My mind was full of thoughts when I read the chapter two days but I might have missed so many things while writing this comment. Can't wait to read more !

I am glad how everyone saw through and accepted that despite not showing extremist tendencies, Shyam is still not a fit for Khushi who can now at least see the difference between someone actually progressive and someone just pretending to be one.

She is still under pressure of course. But there are times when you differ so much from the generation above that it becomes impossible to communicate with them. We’ll see how Khushi navigates through this.

Will try to come up with next chapters soon ♥️

Originally posted by: VeiledWords

Hahaha… wrote a whole comment about the title of this chapter on page 65 and why this just had to be the title. You got it ♥️♥️♥️

The letter, Wentworth reaction to Anne comment that men with all their other pursuits forget about their love and women confined to their homes..continue to love.. was so appropriate here. 🥰🥰🥰

The letter was a total surprise in the book and so was it here. Love how you used it here🥰🥰🥰

Missed writing it then but there is a part there..had wondered when that happened. Let me look it up

"You once looked at me in the eye and said you didn’t know what you would have done if I didn’t come back to you."

Is this related to the accident when Arnav is crying? and I am guessing why that Arnav reaction is important..will wait for the next chapter

Originally posted by: bakwas_serial

The letter, Wentworth reaction to Anne comment that men with all their other pursuits forget about their love and women confined to their homes..continue to love.. was so appropriate here. 🥰🥰🥰

The letter was a total surprise in the book and so was it here. Love how you used it here🥰🥰🥰

Missed writing it then but there is a part there..had wondered when that happened. Let me look it up

"You once looked at me in the eye and said you didn’t know what you would have done if I didn’t come back to you."

Is this related to the accident when Arnav is crying? and I am guessing why that Arnav reaction is important..will wait for the next chapter

Persuasion by Jane Austin is it?

Originally posted by: bakwas_serial

The letter, Wentworth reaction to Anne comment that men with all their other pursuits forget about their love and women confined to their homes..continue to love.. was so appropriate here. 🥰🥰🥰

The letter was a total surprise in the book and so was it here. Love how you used it here🥰🥰🥰

Missed writing it then but there is a part there..had wondered when that happened. Let me look it up

"You once looked at me in the eye and said you didn’t know what you would have done if I didn’t come back to you."

Is this related to the accident when Arnav is crying? and I am guessing why that Arnav reaction is important..will wait for the next chapter

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As you read the author’s note, the title was just screaming to be ‘Half Agony, Half Hope’. In my head the phrase described Khushi’s plight. The letter also came from Khushi. But Arnav to Khushi, Shyam to Mamta, the underlying theme was again ‘Man forgets sooner than woman’. This much connection was enough for me.

Wentworth denied that idea. Fought against it. Whether that happens in this FF or not I don’t know. But the phrase just clicked here ♥️🥰

Ps- Khushi did not write anything in vain in that chapter. You’re keen eyed. 😊This does refer to her accident.

Originally posted by: Pujakrishna

Persuasion by Jane Austin is it?

Originally posted by: VeiledWords

♥️♥️♥️♥️

As you read the author’s note, the title was just screaming to be ‘Half Agony, Half Hope’. In my head the phrase described Khushi’s plight. The letter also came from Khushi. But Arnav to Khushi, Shyam to Mamta, the underlying theme was again ‘Man forgets sooner than woman’. This much connection was enough for me.

Wentworth denied that idea. Fought against it. Whether that happens in this FF or not I don’t know. But the phrase just clicked here ♥️🥰

Ps- Khushi did not write anything in vain in that chapter. You’re keen eyed. 😊This does refer to her accident.

Was not trying to predict the story. To me the scenario fitted here and hats off to you to remember that and use it.🥰

I love the book..it was a gift from a colleague (her mother's favorite ). Glad I read it when I was older,was able to appreciate it more.