Blast from the Past Thread #21 !!Holi ki Dhadkane!! pg114, epi 218 - Page 77

Originally posted by: chalhov

Indi Wiwy 🤗 my dear Blast Friends a very happy anniversary to both of you just a day apart and the same week as Barun

Originally posted by: wiwy

😆 Faiqu!

Are you jelly?😉

But no change in guruji. Meri kya aukaat! This was what your guruji Supi taught me lesser mortal when i kept pestering her to teach me the edit she had made for me when i turned dazzler! Ofcourse my edit is nowhere near that one!

And thanks for the barun gift on my anniversary, though dont know what hubs will say😆 We had a good time. Thanks.

You tc too.🤗

Originally posted by: chalhov

Indi read your IPKKND story what an eventful life hats off to you and your ASR thanks for sharing God bless you with all happiness

Originally posted by: Preety_Nebula

Happy Belated Anniversary Indi di and wiwy.I hope you had wonderful day with your real life Arnav.🥳

Originally posted by: sohara

yeah right. Marriage is so boring. That's why I don't want to get married.I wanna fly like a bird in the sky. there is too much commitment, too much responsibilities in a marriage.

But I wish your married life is full of fun and love.

Happy anniversary again.

Originally posted by: Katelyn

Hi, I'm on an edit spree! 😆 Couldn't help myself! It took some time to colorized our hotwa!

Originally posted by: indi52

guru ji?

nahiiin.

nahiin nahin nahin.

me lunatic verbose old lady. bas.

haan haan haan.

samjhe, aap sab?

faiqa...you ze guru foreva (hyuk, how desperately i am trying to learn the new spellings).

wiwy,

thank you thank you. your bhalo dada and not so bhalo didi managed to not fight through the anni. actually had quite a decent time.

now that i've started, a very very personal and pribhaaate moment i am putting on a bhery bhery open thread.

yes, wiwy... it was a special day. not because we drank champagne... which at a friend's party we almost did. nor because he bought me an expensive gift... aww my old buddha ji actually did that too. got me these classic studs from, where is my sweet cynthia... van cleef... alhambra.

yay. i am a earring monster.

but the personal story.

on 14 december 1985, jacob and i got married under the special marriage act of india. as we belong to different religions this is the only marriage considered legally valid in india. and since my not being a jew meant there was no religious ceremonies from his side and his being one meant no pooja paath hindu wedding rites, we never had any religious ceremonies when we tied the dhaga. only customs... and a legal certificate. two simple signatures on apiece of paper... and i have lost the original.

this means in strictly technical terms the jewish faith does not recognise our marriage. nor i am sure does the hindu practice (so yes, khushi ji, i am not his patni because there were no pheras... so angry with you when you said that to asr. that your marriage is incomplete? marriages are made in the mind deeply, not by pheras... samjhi?).

anyway, jacob is deeply jewish and quite quite observant... yet, he has never ever asked himself if what he did with me was wrong. in fact i now realise that the very fact he married me and insisted we keep our faiths as is was a major thing.

you see, i am not much into organised religion, so it never mattered to me as such.

so on saturday, when i was sitting in the synagogue attending the shabbath lunch for my daughter's dearest friend's bat mitzvah, yeah i did tell a couple of my friends that today is our anniversary, but didn't make an issue of it. it was also mu kid's other good friend's bday, and a boys's bar mitzvah.

very packed day for celebrations. many speeches, much cake cutting and singing and dancing and drinking, the bat mitzvah girl being of georgian origin, her family had flown in with wonderful home made wine, gallons of vodka and georgian sweets, a mad merry atmosphere all around.

and in the middle of that, rabbi gets up and says, well when it rains it pours, we have one more huge celebration today... indi and jacob's wedding anniversary. 28 years, etc.

i felt a huge amount of happiness, gratitude to the eternal, to everyone in my life, and i missed my ma in law. she was always a bit worried about that validity angle. she even suggested i try judaism. i wished she were here to hear the rabbi. a chabad rabbi, most orhodox, wishing us in front of the whole community.

ties are undeniable. mere customs and rituals do not make them.

okay maybe rabbi was so high on the wine, he said dil ki baat, and in doing that he gained loads of respect in my eyes.

sorry to have gone on.

i wanted to tell you all. tried before. then thought of a million things and didn't.

but wiwy's wishes with that man's visage just said, go for it... dil ki baat had to be said.

hope you and your asr, had a hot anni too. bless ya, wiwy ji.

Originally posted by: cinthiann1758

😭oh my dear sweet indi, yes i am crying here!

what a beautiful life you have lead with your jacob, so much love and respect.

I know, i lived among the orthodox community and was the only christian to work in the yeshiva, i was accepted whole heartedly, even me being a christian. The children would sometimes ask me why i wasn't jewish and then tell me too bad! i laughed and blessed them as i worked daily in this wonderful school. i learned so much about the adoration of YHWH. living a life dedicated soley to the Lord of all. it is a beautiful religion, i must say so.

BAS, enough of that though.

as for you and jacob. hats off to that man, he truly loves you!!!! the orthodox people stay among themselves and marry other jews that is just how it is. so for jacob , a truly orthodox man, obviously you are at a chabad, marry outside his religion and then the acceptance of you keeping your own faith, WOW!!!! hats off to this man!

and you! such love you must have to say yes and to go and live your life possibly fighting a battle with family. romeo and juliet, the montages and capulets...not with family hate but you get my just, difference of opinions and religions.

who needs pheras, when you have vowed to each other your love. you are blessed by the Divine just for living and breathing; add loving into the mix uff! that is G-d, that is religion. I have so much respect and awe for you two and what you represent, freedom of religion, freedom to be your own person, freedom to love who you want to love, freedom to just be who you both are individually and as a couple...mazel tov on this monumental anniversary. everyday in your lives is just that. bravo, Jacob for the loving your wife so deeply.

Arnav and Khushi moreover!

Just brilliant! A story must be written here!

and our jacob bought you those earrings from Van Cleef and Arpel, Alhambra...did he read my story? AWWW! love him just for that

happy anniversary my dear friend!