Blast from the Past Thread #18!! Wedding Bells !! pg 132, ep 199 - Page 106

Originally posted by: cinthiann1758

My dear sweet soni, thank you thank you thank you. have not had much time because of retreat but next wekk on I am in!!! I will update and write everyday!! promise. love the edit thanks so much!!! love your auntie!!!

Originally posted by: cinthiann1758

have you noticed that after this forced marriage khushi looks older. she is dressing better, her hair is loose and she seems more matured and then comes the gupta house where she regresses to her old self and dress habits, hair plaited and goofy. what's with that? i know this convo maybe too early but i am skipping around when i have time to other episodes and she looks so beautiful and mature now. what was their thinking, i wonder?

also ladies my retreat that i have been working on in church for the last six months is culminating this weekend. please keep us all in prayer. there are 13 women on my team and 16 new women coming to the retreat. i pray it is successful and uplifting for all who seek change and peace. i won't be around after this evening until monday. miss you but got to pray now!

figured i would leave you with that question above and maybe a little discussion. i will c who answers later or monday morning!

xo cyn

Originally posted by: cinthiann1758

have you noticed that after this forced marriage khushi looks older. she is dressing better, her hair is loose and she seems more matured and then comes the gupta house where she regresses to her old self and dress habits, hair plaited and goofy. what's with that? i know this convo maybe too early but i am skipping around when i have time to other episodes and she looks so beautiful and mature now. what was their thinking, i wonder?

also ladies my retreat that i have been working on in church for the last six months is culminating this weekend. please keep us all in prayer. there are 13 women on my team and 16 new women coming to the retreat. i pray it is successful and uplifting for all who seek change and peace. i won't be around after this evening until monday. miss you but got to pray now!

figured i would leave you with that question above and maybe a little discussion. i will c who answers later or monday morning!

xo cyn

Originally posted by: viv04

Nice BD! now I am prompted for a lame try.

Kya diya thumka jum ke
Jag uthe hum mur ke



Something is wrong with me. Here is another one,

Thumke ne laayee aisi bahaar
MMR ke intazaar me
hum saare hai bekarrar

Originally posted by: ..Anita..

Nice poem!!!!
Can't wait to see barun do the disco...he looks like he had fun shooting that
All I can say the 80's are coming back and I think bhappi lahari can bring that back... Disco was his thing

Originally posted by: BarunDiwani

🤗Anita!! awww miss you! hows things? thanks for liking up there, i really didn't know who this Bappi guy was till Ooh lala came about, will take your word for it :)

Originally posted by: indi52

hi cynthia,

wish you all the best for your retreat. hope it's meaningful and brings peace to all of you attending. 29 of you? lots of prayers and meditation? never been on one of these, must be beautiful.

about khushi's wardrobe and look change. i hated it.

this is of course at one level to do with the enormous accent we put on being married in our culture, especially for women. somehow you as a woman become more the moment you marry, do not please ask me how or why. if you are highly educated, run a global company and are a woman who is not married, oh poor you, what have you achieved in life. okay i am being sarcastic, but marriage is a big deal, sometimes in positive ways, sometimes not.

girls often dress a bit different after marriage, or so i have seen in my world. oh even i loved wearing sarees after i got married, especially since i got so many as gifts. and one gets the bulk of one's jewellery at this time too, so there's that glitter added on. but after a few days, i went back to my own crazy clothes, not that i had ever abandoned them.

okay if they showed khushi in a saree a few times, that would at least seem natural, because in india, even today there are homes where once you marry and come to live with them, people like you to wear a saree, a sign of being more adult or whatever now with your added responsibilities, being "bahu" as it were, very often girls would wear sarees a little more frequently, especially in joint fams and in the days straight after getting married. sometimes, girls switched completely to sarees where in come from, though not all over india, in punjab i am presuming it would be shalwar suits.

back in the '70s/'80s, i remember there being all sorts of talk in the house if any aunt wanted to wear pants or choodidars, us being very saree wearing bengalis. what is also true is that in my mother's days, though she came from a family that was educated and very broad minded, she and her sisters switched to sarees around the age of 13, once in a way wearing chooridars/shalwars. but skirts/trousers... never. nowadays it's all different, people wear pretty much what they like, but there are still some traditional set ups, where if you're married, you're supposed to reflect that in the way you dress.

if khushi had worn a mix of sarees and her regular crazy cool wear, i'd have been fine.. holi was one time when i could recognise her... and in her sarees i liked her mostkly. but those tent like thingies and the bizarre hair open. what was that. even poor payal, suddenly switched to the world's most ugly sarees, typical hindi serial wardrobe, and hair open. huh! and then in the kitchen, working over an open fire with a synthetic saree... lunatics.

i disliked khushi's look post marriage. and the heavier make up, that really spoiled that unique khushi feeling. suddenly a huge accent on being pretty.

i know a lot of girls felt she should dress better after being married. i totally disagree, and so does asr ithink, do not change for me being his thing. you are who you are. if you had a happy marriage, then yes, because you want to dress up for the man you live with or to reflect that happiness, maybe you dress nicer in some way. but khushi did not have a sweet little wedding. tumultuous days. suddenly to junk her entire look and get into tents and open hair with bouffant, and silly slippers and much make up... cynthia, by now you might have guessed, i just couldn't take it.

what saved the whole thing for me was the love story and sanaya's acting.

but a part of me still seethes at thsi thing. i suppose becuse underpinning it is the different status of women in our world. note, the men never change the way they look post shadi. they are perfect as they are. you now "belong" to the "khandan"/fam and you change. gah.

this happens in subtle ways in many places, esp when there's wealth involved. the huge 15 carat d colour diamond ring your husbandiya buys for you and you show it off, while he looks on proudly as though you were property... ok i won't go on, but ha ha i already have, i know nothing is simple and without nuance... bhowever when it comes to women being "ornamentalised" for other's eyes and egos... booothhheeers me.

the reason i am here more than anything else, that i continue to be thrilled, is not just mr sobti's looks, it's the character of asr. and the way he expressed love. something truly modern in it, yet with that ancient man woman thing... to understand love in that manner, to have regard for women... oh me lub. never asked her to dress different, be different, be less... only once he complained she might have thought of his image when she landed up and fed his staff, but never said you don't have to work... do what you please. oh that gifting of a company to her on her first karwa chauth... and though i hated it that mrs india nonsense, never telling her not to take part in it since he is lord almighty rich famous superstar sponsor asr... my heart melts.

there is a huge message in asr to both the men and women of our country... but of course, no one is going to bother to listen

i also believe if you take on life the way he does, using his rational and emotional abilities equally, without getting mired in what others say is the way to live, you actually have a fuller more meaningful life.

but you asked about khushi, so what am i doing saying this? paagal.

Originally posted by: ..Anita..

Ami!!! Miss you too... Things are busy and can't find a relaxing day things keep popping up... How is everything with you??

Bhappi is Bengali and I heard him live once... He was sure entertaining once you get passed his gold chains and mullet

Originally posted by: sohara

I'm super jelly of this girl Suzanna. I only can see me or Sanaya with him.😃 But what to do can't resit myself to post these sizzling hot pics of Barun. After seeing this pics I'm completely in the hyperventilating state.

By the way Suzanna is not so bad though, much better than Shenaz treasurywala. Plz no offence to shenaz's fan, I just don't like her.