Originally posted by: IssPKaur
When you have it, it doesn't go away so easily. Can fade with time surely, but to imagine that "I'll turn a whole new leaf as soon as i have dealt with a cause or causes of it", that can happen in a tv series it's makers have given up on, among other countless, supercilious assembly line products that are thriving in the name of fly by night "creative expression". This is anger of course we're talking about, but it may just as well be for heartbreak, deceit, fear, vulnerability...all the feelings that plague us.
Anger is in the Raizada's grain. I don't think it went away because he fell in love or because they made him deal with the past in one broad stroke. You hit the nail on the head with "what life took remains taken". It comes and goes in waves, the feeling.. accompanied by deep sadness. You cannot decide when you'll be done with it. Can you even be done with it forever? I have my doubts. He built walls around himself for self defense. It helped him fortify, reinvent, and move forward. And has made him who he is. A man you want to soothe but instinctively know you can't change. Excess in any form irks him, throws him off-balance. Anger, ironically, restores balance for him. Keeps things in check. And subsides just as unexpectedly as it soars...that's his grain and Khushi must know it. She may joke about the 'gussa' or rebuke him even in retaliation, but in her heart, am pretty sure she understands some of it. For she has seen the gold that glistens in the fire of his rage... and she is hooked, line and sinker. Who wouldn't be. It makes him so lovable, so human...so divine actually!
(Did we just nearly celebrate anger? ...the emotion that "self-help" books declare as the "most negative" of them all, and command us to "manage" and ultimately get rid of?? Think we did but it's fine, and we must explore this further...anything for the love of the Raizada methinks ...and in any case, there is a LOT in this world to be REALLY angry about!!).
what helps you, protects you, lets you breathe, has to become part of you. you are so right. and as for those self help books and the anger mangement lectures... well confession, i belong to a woman whose anger was one of her key definers... a spectacular woman who dealt with too many things and let her anger keep her buoyant and alive... my mother, 😳 known fondly as "gussa mashi" by her nieces and nephews. she was sharp, funny, difficult to break, and someone you really wouldn't want to mess with... maybe another weird game of life... i trust the angry sorts instinctively. the ones who show it. not those who smile and submerge, only to let it out behind closed doors, in the ugliest of way. but this bright, wild, naak pe gussa. it's got comfort of a funny sort in it.
and confession again... i am the angry raving sort. the mercury rises, spills and balance is restored. only thing, the one receiving it has got to know this is nature not to take it to heart... only the very resilient survive.
er i think i just went and said i like anger, i trust it. ok, bring on the straitjacket. 🤣
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